30-year-old refuses to lend brand new dress to younger sister who plans to wear it to her ex-fiance's wedding, internet advises her to hide it in case of theft: "It would feel so wrong for her to wear it at that wedding"

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    AITA for refusing to let my sister borrow my expensive dress to wear to my ex-fiancé's wedding?

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    So I (30F) have a younger sister, Mia (27F), and we've always had a complicated relationship. She's often been jealous of me and my achievements.
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    Last year, my fiancé, Ben, dumped me super suddenly and very publicly. He's now engaged to my former "friend," Zoe. Their wedding is next month, and honestly, this whole thing has been rough on me.
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    Recently, I bought a stunning, expensive designer dress for a fancy charity event I'm going to next month. It's a special dress, and I felt like I deserved to treat myself after everything.
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    Yesterday, Mia saw the dress and immediately asked to borrow it to wear to Ben and Zoe's wedding. She said, "It's perfect! I need to look amazing, and you're not even using it right now." I
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    was floored. I told her no, that it's for my event, and it would feel so wrong for her to wear it to that wedding. She got super mad and called me ridiculous and selfish, telling our parents I'm a terrible sister for saying no. AITA for not letting her borrow my dress, especially for that wedding?
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    LdiJ46 NTA Your sister is the AH for even asking to borrow and expensive designer dress that you haven't even worn yet.
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    MorningSparrow8 OP Right? It's like she just didn't care how I'd feel about it at all!
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    Icy_Trade_8781 Oh she totally knows how you would feel about it. HER PLAN IS TOO HURT YOU MORE. She wants to rub your face in the wedding drama.
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    Is she gonna tell people at the wedding, it's your address. Absolutely not. And then when you wear it at your event, everyone is gonna assume you borrowed it from her and you're wearing a secondhand dress.
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    Was she one of the people that knew you were being cheated on?? PLEASE, PLEASE HIDE THE DRESS
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    jogafur3 And, if she wears your dress first, it will be a second hand dress! Don't do it
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    LunaPerry1980 This! Give it to a friend for safekeeping and play dumb!
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    SnuggleFluffyDot Exactly. She had no right even asking. That's your special dress, not a petty prop for her drama parade.
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    Outrageous-Ad-9635 Why is she even going to the wedding of two people who treated her sister so callously, let alone asking to wear an expensive dress her sister hasn't even worn yet? No loyalty at all. Hard no.
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    Anxious_Reporter_601 NTA why the F would she even go to that wedding??
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    Ol_Pasta That is the main problem I have. Tbh when I started reading and it said "we always had a complicated relationship" I was convinced the sister was gonna be the new fiancé.
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    Elmonatorrrre Make sure the dress is somewhere where nobody can get it.
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    celtic_glitter NTA and word of advice... Never let anyone borrow your clothes or anything else. I've found folks either don't respect your clothes and if they return them, they're damaged or they don't return them at all.
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    jogafur3 Yes! They need to buy their own clothes, using their own budget!
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    Mathematician Fun8969 NTA but your sister is for even asking to wear with you not having worn it yet but also to wear it your ex's wedding. Why did she feel the need to look so amazing for it? Is she try to snag him too?
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    Angelinasmashington NTA. Don't let her use the dress. She isn't entitled to use it just because you are related. She's being disrespectful and doesn't care. Tell her to buy her own dress. Hide the dress. She might try to steal it or ruin it.
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    sarahmegatron ΝΤΑ Remove all the baggage of your sibling relationship and the event she's going to for a second. Why would you let someone wear an expensive dress that you bought for a specific occasion before you even
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    got to wear it? Nobody would agree to that, and asking to be allowed to borrow a dress in that particular situation is pretty ridiculous. I would say don't give it a second thought, stick to your refusal.
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    Also to put back in the context of your situation, i wouldn't trust your sister to not get the dress dirty or damaged before you can wear it, so extra hard no.

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