Mid-20s newlyweds pay photographer to Photoshop sister-in-law's dress in wedding photos after she showed up in a white gown: "I would make it an awful color"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jun 14, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

Every wedding has its own dress code, but one of the more universal rules – especially for female guests – is to not wear white. Sure, if you are going to an Indian or Japanese wedding, you're actually better off avoiding wearing red. Barring that, if you don't know anything about the bride, it is best to just wear literally any other color and avoid pastels that would look white in certain lighting. Otherwise, you may invite whispered rumors all evening that you were trying to steal the spotlight, or worse, someone might actually attempt to spill something on your gown!

In our story tday, a couple attend a wedding wearing coordinated outfits. The man, the groom's brother, wears a tan suit, and his girlfriend opts for a matching dress. Except their outfits are so light that they appear white in all of the pictures. Even the actual bride's dress is a little off-white, making it rather unclear who is supposed to be the center of attention from the wedding photos. So, she asks her photographer to Photoshop the images. 

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    AITAH for asking my photographer to edit my brother in laws girlfriends white dress to a different color in my wedding pictures?

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    My husband (25) and I (23), recently had our wedding a few days ago there was a lot going on and it was just a busy day in general but overall we had a wonderful time, and i'm truly thankful to be married to the love of my life. Throughout our
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    relationship, we've had a lot of issues with my husband's younger brother (Joe) and said girlfriend (Kiki). Just a lot of little petty things that they do for no particular reason at all, and out of all his siblings he always has an issue with My husband. I think
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    growing up his little brother didn't get a lot of attention from their parents so he tries his hardest to get that in any way possible. (mind you, My husband was not raised by his parents like his other siblings. He was raised by his grandpa.) As i
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    mentioned it was a chaotic day so It wasn't until about two days after my wedding it randomly dawned on me that my BIL's girlfriend literally wore a white dress to my wedding. I felt so angry and betrayed, and just flat out annoyed that someone
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    would even think of doing that. I will say that they had kind of a color scheme with their outfits going, it was all somewhat similar colors. It was my brother-in-law, his girlfriend and their son who's
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    about one and a half years old. they decided to go with a tan/cream theme. Now for their one year-old son, the tan was actually a tan color. My brother-in- law's was incredibly lighter than his son's outfit
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    getting really close to white. But then you look at his girlfriend and genuinely it is literally white. There is a slight cream color to it, but if someone walked up to her and guessed what color the dress they would
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    say it was a white dress. (am I the only one that was taught to not wear white to a wedding whether it's a cream color, or maybe it's a floral dress with a white background that's still a white dress! Lol am I the
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    problem?) There's a few reasons why I have such an issue with this. The obvious one being that it's her wearing a white dress to someone else's wedding. But as I said before, they do a lot of calculated sh and can be pretty manipulative about things and
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    play the victim so easily. So part of me feels like this was done intentionally. Another big thing is that yes my dress was white, but the fabric under the lace was actually a smoky lavender color so it was ALSO kind of an off-white color. Granted mine was
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    definitely more floral and had lace and obviously you could tell I was the bride yes, but I still just didn't see the reasoning behind her even looking at that color of dresses. Her dress wasn't incredibly fancy, but it was floor length and flowed. it was a cute summer dress, but like I said it was white/ cream. I talked to a few family members about it.
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    Most of them agreed with me and thought it was really weird, but a few of them said that they weren't really shocked and just to leave it because they could tell I was the bride anyway. But me being my petty self, I could not leave it. I texted my
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    photographer and asked if she could either make the dress darker or just change it in general. It was kind of the heat at the moment thing, but yes, I was р ed and I feel like I had every right to be, I don't want this to start anything with anyone when they
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    see the pictures but at the same time it hurt my feelings, and a thought like this, never even crossed my mind that someone would even try to wear white. (and before anyone asks no she was not supposed to be in the pictures. The DJ announced
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    that all immediate family come out to take family pictures, and she kind of inserted herself into them, granted they do have our nephew, but I don't know her like that to want her in my pictures that i will
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  • Everyone knows at this point not to wear white unless you want to cause drama; she totally just wanted to stir the pot.

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    look back on for years to come. that and they've been together for only about two years now) Anyway thanks for letting me rant! I will update if there's even anything to update after the pictures come out and everyone sees.
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    WhizzoButterBoy Tan up the dress using photoshop. H I, have the "camera" add a few pounds while you're at it. Act innocent... that's what she wore right?? Glad she didn't impact your day.
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    redrosespiral39 Lowkey, I think that's super reasonable. You're not starting drama, just making sure the pics reflect the energy you wanted for the day.
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    Leading Belt6790 Yes, it's your wedding.
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    hellhiker You're too nice. I would make it an awful color. Or crop her out altogether tbh.
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    softmelanie112 nahhhh, you're not the j . like, why even risk white at a wedding when the rule is so universally known?? not an accident just straight up inconsiderate.
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    SalesTaxBlackCat NTA. You cans do anything you want with your wedding photos that you paid for. Also, be sure to return the favor and wear white to their wedding.
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    Accomplished-Emu-591 No, she's not worth the energy. Just don't attend.
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    Fallout4Addict I couldn't bother. I'd just Google image the dress she wore, buy it in my size, and wait for her wedding day to repay the favour.
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    If she or anyone says anything about it, "when SIL wore this exact dress to my wedding, I thought to myself, what a beautiful dress, then i saw it in a shop and thought, it must be fait so why not wear it to hers"
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    EnvironmentOk5610 To avoid drama, just have the photographer make her dress slightly darker---from white to just- enough-tan-to-not-read-'white' in the photos. That will make your dress 'pop' as white in comparison,
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    but she won't be able to say JACK bc if she complains, "my dress should be whiter!!" she'll be admitting that she was TRYING to wear a white dress to YOUR wedding! O
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