Woman storms out of double date in an Uber when 31-year-old boyfriend fails to confront female friend for referring to her as "the current girlfriend": "No one laughed, no one corrected her"

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    AITA for leaving dinner early after my boyfriend's friend introduced me as "the current one"?

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    So my boyfriend (31M) invited me to dinner with his old college group. One of his female friends (30F), who I've never met before, came late, looked me up and down, then said, "Ohhh so you're the current one. Cute."
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    I was stunned. No one laughed, no one corrected her. My boyfriend just kind of chuckled awkwardly and changed the subject. I sat there in silence for another 20 minutes before excusing myself and leaving. I took an Uber home.
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    He called me later and said I embarrassed him by "making it a thing" and that I should've just "been chill" because "she didn't mean anything by it." He wants me to apologize to her for walking out "like a child."
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    AITA for not tolerating that kind of blatant disrespect?
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    FutureBowler9817 NTA. Now EX-boyfriend, right?
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    FutureBowler9817 • 3d NTA. Now EX-boyfriend, right?
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    jarineek_3 OP Haha..... not yet, but it's definitely on the table. This whole situation opened my eyes to some
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    things I've been brushing off for too long. If he can't stand up for me in something THIS obvious, what happens when it's something bigger??
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    MandeeLess Plus this 'friend' is always going to be around-if you don't break up now, it's sure to happen sooner or later as this friend disrespects you more while he refuses to stand up for you.
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    vyrus2021 Was gonna say. He's gonna expect you to be around her from time to time and he's gonna expect you to "be the bigger person" or whatever every time she disrespects you.
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    Red_Queen79 Their dynamic is probably the reason his relationships don't last. The rest of the group is so used to her they didn't even react to her bs.
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    Ok_Try_40 He didn't stand up for you, but he has stood up for her by saying you need to apologise to her. Time to stop brushing things off & start trusting your gut
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    1jsmith11230 If he can't back you up in such an obvious issue, that creates a huge trust gap. Continuously ignoring these situations can lead to much bigger problems. You should seriously think about how well he really fits into your life.
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    Worried_Suit4820 NTA. The people who should be embarrassed are the friend who made the remark, and your boyfriend for not shutting her down.
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    jarineek 3 OP Thank you! that's exactly how I felt in the moment. I was shocked he didn't say anything, and it made me feel like I didn't belong there. I wasn't trying to cause a scene, but I also wasn't going to sit there and pretend that comment was okay.
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    Oyster5436 NTA Clearly BF didn't want to say anything because his female friend had a LOT MORE TO SAY along the same vein. She was ready to reveal his whole history -- names, dates, etc.
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    Fluffy-Drop5750 Maybe he has a history of short-term relationships. Maybe the other girl was one of those Maybe the nag was towards him. Don't mind that girl. It is the boy she should worry about.
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    Cumisha Jones Let me guess, she's the pick me girl of the group that's slept with them all
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    almaperdida99 or she's trying to warn OP that her boyfriend goes through girlfriends like kleenex
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    Do_You_Hear_It Exactly how I took it as well. Which would embarrass me and make me get in my head for a small moment. Seems to be what happened
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    here. "Yea sorry honey, my relationships don't last very long" would be a great convo to have infront of everyone. His friend put him in a lose lose situation right there.
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    Solrackai "Oooh, so your the one that wishes they were the current one"....NTA, but you missed your chance.
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    Classic-Delivery 3875 NTA. If he felt like you were the one. He would have corrected her. You should send her flowers for showing you the red flag guy.
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    jarineek_3 OP Honestly, that's kind of how I'm starting to see it now. If someone can disrespect me to my face and he says nothing, that says a lot. Might not send her flowers, but I'll definitely thank her silently for the wake-up call.

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