Husband demands that wife cancel her mandatory work trip while he recovers from a hair transplant, refuses to take kids to school if she goes: "I am always impacted by his last-minute changes"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jun 20, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

I once tried to convince a stranger at a bar not to get a nose job. In my opinion, her nose fitted her face perfectly, and turning it into a button nose would only detract from her natural beauty. I have no idea if I was successful, but either way, whether or not to get the cosmetic work done was ultimately a very personal choice for her. Sometimes it doesn't really matter if everyone thinks whatever feature you want to change is beautiful or not; it's all about how you feel about yourself. If getting lip injections, getting double eyelids, or removing your buccal fat makes you feel more confident, then maybe it's worth it.

In our story today, an impulsive dad of two decides to get a hair transplant. Compared to other cosmetic surgeries, this procedure is absolutely on the easier end in terms of recovery. Which is why his wife is surprised when he starts demanding that she cancel her mandatory work trip that has been planned for six months in order to take care of the kids while he "heals."

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    AITAH for not skipping a work trip because my husband is recovering from a hair transplant?

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    My husband flew overseas for a hair transplant. We have two children under seven. I work full-time in a stressful corporate role. He never plans or researches in advance. I am supposed to go on a
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    work trip for two days to a two-day work planning retreat. It is important exposure. He will be "post- op" for three days by the time I leave. Last night he texted that he needed me to cancel my trip because "he is recovering from surgery", "put him first" and
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    "I'm going to be beyond mad if you do this to me and do not put me first the one time I am asking" and if I go he won't take the kids to school. His head may be sore and bald but should not impede a pick up and drop off. My trip has been planned for about
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    six months. His main gripe is that he will be seen so close to surgery. He did not need to choose this date and up until yesterday, this was the plan. He told me my "trip is stupid". I put everyone first but I don't think I need to stay home and miss something
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    so important for this and I also think it is selfish to be saying this to me. I am always impacted by his last-minute changes and impulses. I am supportive of doing something that makes him feel better about himself but why should I miss this last minute? Am I being selfish or is he being selfish?
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  • This man has no regard for his wife's life. If he didn't know about her work trip before it's because he didn't bother asking her about her plans, or he didn't listen at all when she told him about it.

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    Objective_Bus_6897 If he could fly home, overseas, he's fine.
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    agnesperditanitt Exactly this! As he could navigate airports and planes post- surgery, he sure can handle to take care of his children.
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    Temporary-Zebra97 My plane back from Turkey, was about 50% full of hair transplant trippers They all seemed to have manage the flight home ok.
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  • Traveling internationally is way harder than taking kids to school and back. 

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    JuneInTheLoop He's being selfish as h I for trying to guilt you over a hair transplant he planned poorly. Go on your trip, he'll survive.
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    This EstimateEffective220 he is manipulating you to do what he wants. Tell him to either cancel his sh and be a grown a man. Or go thru the surgery and be a responsible adult so what what he needs to do for his family. Either way tell him to grow up
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    Purlz1st Concentrate on your career. You'll need the income later.
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    ten_feet_higher_ Yeah, sounds like financial independence might matter more than ever down the line.
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    who-waht NTA He can fly home from overseas after having a hair transplant, but can't take the kids to school and feed them? Ridiculous. Vanity isn't a reason to not care for your kids.
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    Turbulent_Ebb5669 Oh, isn't he so precious for a vanity procedure over a work trip that was known about way before hand. NTA
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    AirBiggz Imagine demanding priority over a planned career trip because of sore scalp drama.
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    Natural_Garbage7674 This is it. It wasn't surgery, it was completely elective cosmetic surgery. If he wanted to be babied over his vanity project he should have picked another time. But since he didn't? It's either selfishness, stupidity or control.
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    Enough-Process9773 "Husband, if you wanted me to stay home with you after you had a hair transplant, then you needed to time your trip for a date when I didn't have an unmissable work trip which has been planned for about six months. As you opted for the hair
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    transplant and booked your trip only a few days ago, either you picked the date on purpose to try to sabotage my work trip, or you don't actually want me to stay home with you, you're just trying it on to be annoying. Either way - I'm not staying home with you. You'll have to feed the kids and take them to school."
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    Illustrious_Bus8440 Kidney transplant, liver transplant, heart and lung transplant or a surgery that is medically necessary and is a life or death situation you should cancel.
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    A hair transplant that he booked, and in a different country, for no reason other than his own vanity, nah. Have a good trip
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    dog4cat2 I actually misread the title at first as heart transplant and had a TOTALLY different reaction before re-reading the title.
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    No-Lifeguard9194 Sounds like career sabotage to me. I would be p ed, in your shoes - beyond angry. I would absolutely not cancel a business trip over a planned elective surgery that could've been scheduled anytime.
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    Nervous_Rain_7733 My son had, a hair transplant, he was able to look after himself, so can your husband, tell him to grow up and be a man and not a baby.
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    Lonestarbeetle1 A hissy fit over a HAIR TRANSPLANT??? Omg. Girl, go on your trip. Welcome to a woman's world, sir, where ware expected to push through regardless of how crappy we feel on the daily, including being responsible for household maintenance, cleaning, shopping, meal prep, and child care. Grow up,
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