Entitled woman packs up her roommate's belongings without her permission 3 days before move-out date, roomie calls her out for touching her stuff: "I was actually trying to help"

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    AITA for packing my roommate's stuff when she's supposed to be moving out in three days?

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    I was cleaning the living room and kitchen and I put some of her non-essential stuff in two boxes (winter boots, a blender she doesn't use, a bag of soil for her plants, etc.) I left the boxes open in the living
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    room so she could see what was in them and add stuff if she wanted to. I was cleaning and trying to make space because my girlfriend will be moving in tomorrow - so it will cramped for two or three days. I
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    also wanted to help my roommate because she has LOTS of stuff and hasn't started packing yet (which, I admit, kind of stresses me out).
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    KITCH
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    Well, roommate didn't say anything, but she put everything I packed back to its original place - even if she doesn't use it (including the box with her
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    winter boots and fall boots... - we're almost in July). I found this very odd and I asked her about it. She said she didn't like me touching and moving her stuff - which, granted, I understand, but I was
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    actually trying to help because she's moving in THREE days and hasn't even started to pack yet. AITA?
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    SeekersChoice Nta is she really planning on leaving? -
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    oldgoatfart OP That's what I'm wondering. Our rent is super cheap, close to her job and I've been cleaning the whole place by myself for the whole two years we've been living together.
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    honorablenarwhal Have you asked her why she isn't packing? If she genuinely intends to move out? Being straightforward when communicating with people can be effective
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    Accurate-Ant-6764 Maybe she is planning on moving, but really sad about it and doesn't want to face it? If y'all are friends, just offer to help on the days she is planning to pack, and take her direction. Those things may have been the most obvious, and, could be the things that make her feel at home. This is a big change.
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    oldgoatfart OP I have offered to help her pack and move boxes and furniture if she needs to. She basically said thanks, I'll let you know. I also work in archives and my job as countless perfect moving boxes - I offered her some, is she needed them.
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    Unfair_Finger5531 I have cleared out of an apartment shared with a roommate in one day before. It is possible that she was packing other items and leaving the kitchen items for last.
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    We will never know, though, because OP didn't bother to communicate with her before they started boxing up things for the roommate.
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    keesouth YTA. That was aggressive. For the next three days that's still her place. You don't get to control how or when she packs. You're acting like she should be gone already. Maybe you all weren't good roommates but if you were then that was mean. You're telegraphing that you want her out of there already.
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    lehcarrodan Ya I think that's more the problem is the unsaid. Packing someone else's stuff is definitely a "Yay you're gone soon!" kinda move...
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    EsmeExplores NTA, three days from moving out is not the time to treat shared space like a storage unit, and you boxed up non-essentials with transparency. If she's not packing, she can't be mad someone else made a head start for her.
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    Unfair_Finger5531 She actually can be mad at someone for packing for her. She has 3 days. As long as she has those items out of the house by the day her lease ends, she's good.
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    III_Adhesiveness2232 YTA yeah it's passive aggressive probably to her even if you had no ill intention. Firstly I wouldn't want anyone touching my things and packing them into a box (or even a pile) for me. It would make me feel as if my time left was being rushed. Even if she only had 3 days left.
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    It seems you just were a little selfish in your reasoning because your gf is moving in and you wanted things to be decluttered.
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    Did you even ask her if you could start making room and decluttering. Because if not you're definitely the ah le. You have no right to pack her things for her if she did not ask you too.
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    CSurvivor9 YTA Don't touch what doesn't belong to you. They might have a system of packing, too, and you tossing in random stuff won't cut it. The problem isn't them. It's your gf moving in too early. You can't rush your roommate because of your anxiety and gf moving in. Next time, don't have overlapping move dates.
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    GothPenguin Unless she asks for help don't touch her property. YTA
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    Live_Angle4621 Op touches them already weekly when he cleans and she has been fine with that. Op said above he always moves these items anyway while cleaning and is the only one who cleans
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    Grrrrr_Arrrrrgh Moving something to the side briefly and putting it back is very different than putting it in a box by the door.
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    lordmwahaha YTA. Most people I think would see that as super passive aggressive. You didn't ask if she wanted help, which would've been the reasonable thing to do. You just took her stuff and put it in boxes. That's basically the non-verbal way of saying "Get the f out".

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