Overwhelmed husband kicks wife's family out of his home after they continually extend their stay day by day, treating his house like a free hotel: "I want everyone gone!"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jul 19, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

How do you know that you've overstayed your welcome as a guest? If your host is too anxiously polite to tell you to your face, there are usually plenty of other clues to indicate that it's time to scram. You might start to notice that your hosts become a bit more reserved, fidgeting uncomfortably, and excluding you from conversations. Some people are taught to start tidying up around their guests as a social cue to let them know it's time to go. You might get asked with increasing frequency and urgency about what plans you might have for after you leave. The best indication that you've overstayed, however, is that it is way past the time you'd said you'd be heading out

In our story today, a woman's family comes to stay for a weekend at her new house. That weekend turns into several days as they continually extend their stay night by night, driving her husband insane. Scroll down to read about his eventual snap. 

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    AITA for kicking my wife's family out after they kept extending their stay?

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    We just bought a house 2 weeks ago. We're not even fully unpacked, when my wife's parents said "hey next month can we come
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    stay 3 nights over the weekend?" It would be her mom, dad and the two youngest siblings. The week they asked they changed
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    their mind, packed the car and just drove here. They got here on a Sunday and said we're only staying 3 nights. Then 2 nights
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    into it said we want to stay 1 more night. Now her sister wants to come up here and spend the weekend. This whole week
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    there's a few people staying over. I WANT EVERYONE GONE. I'm working late to not come home. My routine is gone. I need to
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    mow and do other house chores. They keep our toddler up late and just sit at the table drinking beer. Yeah sure they bought us
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    some great house gifts and I feel twisted. I do care about them and want my wife's family and want her to see them. Am I the
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    a hole for telling my wife never to do this again and asking them to leave early? Also never allow people to stay here during the week when I have to go to work?
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  • This is the worst kind of person. Our protagonist's house is not their hotel!

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    FinanciallySecure9 NTA. It's totally understandable. But maybe tone it down a bit, especially if you haven't said anything to them about this.
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    Maybe tonight, at dinner, instead of avoiding them, you open a conversation about the date they plan to leave. Let them know you would like your home back.
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    To them it's a house. But to you, it's your home. Big difference. You deserve to live in peace.
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    Don't ask them to leave, instead, tell them something like, "it has been great having you here, thanks for coming. We will be needing
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    to resume our regular life before the weekend, so I'd like to do a final farewell on Thursday evening. What kind of food would you like?"
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  • This right here is how my mom would've done it. There's no reason to literally kick family to the curb.

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    Ok_Nobody4967 This is a great way to handle it. In the future, if someone want to come over for an overnight, it needs to be two yeses. You also have to take your life schedules into account.
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    Your home isn't some resort for people to come and stay for extended time and eat all your food and disrupt lives of those living there. Don't make any guest room too cozy.
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    OptimistPrime527 NTA. Your wife needs to tell them it's time to dip.
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    War9625 She needs to step up. You can't live in a hotel in your own house.
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    Moron-Whisperer NTA. Only issue I have is your spouse should have did it instead of you. Got a problem with her family, tell her and ask her to take care of it. She should do the same to yours.
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    Fair Theme_9388 NTA, but have you even talked to your wife about it? Is she annoyed with the situation at all?
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    Either way, she needs to be the one to tell them to leave, and also have the conversation that they can't just show up and stay during the week unplanned.
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    Fumblre NTA for wanting to kick them out, but you would be TA if you just told your wife "never do this again." That's just going to lead to a fight and create resentment.
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    Instead of just telling her what to do, start the conversation by telling her how you feel. Explain that you're uncomfortable in your
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    own new home because her family feels free to just drop by whenever. Tell her how disruptive this is to your routine and your
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    toddler's routine. It sounds like you haven't asked your wife how she feels about all this, she might be just as uncomfortable as you are but feel pressured by her family.
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    Start by laying your feelings out, then have a discussion about boundaries your wife can set with her family. And note I said
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    discussion, not "never again and never while I'm working." That's you making unilateral decisions, that's not partners working together to solve a problem.
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    Visual-Lobster6625 NTA - you need to have this conversation with your wife. You need time to unpack the
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    house without a bunch of people in the way and without having to host anyone. They can plan visits/stays after you've settled in.
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