Couple become "weekend parents" when they send their son to live with grandparents to attend a better school, they question their decision: "My husband's family is being judgmental"

Author image for Briana Viser
Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 4, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Hey there ladies and gentlemen of the internet. People who become parents have all kinds of motivations. Many of them didn't even sign up for this, but ended up in that situation anyway. Whether you intentionally went into parenthood by choice or not, most people still want to be good parents.
But what does it mean to be a good parent? It could mean you give your child unconditional love with few consequences, and always fully support them. 

Maybe you're the tough love kind of parent who thinks harsh punishments are the way to go. Maybe you want the best future for your child, and you show your love by encouraging them in school and financially supporting their endeavors. 
 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman who wants to send her child to live with his grandparents to attend a better school than the one they provide. It's an arrangement she has already planned with her husband, and everyone is on board. Read the full story for all the details. 

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01

    Am I wrong for wanting to let my son live with grandparents during the weekdays?

    Cheezburger Image 10524992768
    via FamVeld from Getty Images / Canva

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 02
    We live in a state with one of the worst education systems in public school. My parents saved up an inheritance strictly for our sons
    via u/A***nsRBetter

  • What would you do in this situation? Without knowing the kid's age, it's impossible to judge the situation from afar. In one aspect, it seems reasonable. In another, it does seem a little crazy for the parents to not care about not seeing their child. Why did they even have a child if not to spend time with him?

  • 03
    education. Including for private school and my husband and I are saving for his college. This private school is a really amazing school.
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 04
    This school is in the area of where my parents stay. They live several hours away from where we live like in a while different town
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 05
    My husband and I are on board on the decision but my husbands side of the family and my friends who are moms are being judgey
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 06
    about the situation saying that they could never just be without their kids for that long and they would rather put them in the bad school districts. I know people on
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 07
    Reddit gonna say "why are you telling your friends it's not their business" well I mean they asked about where we're gonna put our
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 08
    son in school so we just told my husbands family and my friends. We're not going to just say "none ya" to our family and close friends. They just asked it's ok
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 09
    I know it's not a big deal of what they think and it's just their opinion either way and at the end of the day we're going to do what works best for our
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 10
    family and the best interest for our son. I'm just curious...I just really wanna know if anyone would consider doing in this
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 11
    Cheezburger Image 10525035008
    via bauhaus1000 from Getty Images Signature / Canva

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 12
    under these circumstances? | really want opinions from fellow parents with kids if you had this opportunity would you accept it?
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 13
    Both my husband and I work full time and our son will be staying with us every weekend and holidays and my parents will have him on the school days
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 14
    Cheezburger Image 10525034496
    via cottonbro studio from Pexels / Canva

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 15
    We have an only child if that matters. No we don't plan on having anymore kids. We're fixed
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 16
    This is an arrangement my parents and my husband and I agreed upon
    via u/A***nsRBetter
  • 17
    everellie Does your son have a great relationship with those grandparents? le. he would be welcome, loved,
    via u/everellie
  • 18
    accepted, disciplined (if needed). These are good people with the best intentions, right?
    via u/everellie
  • 19
    How old is your son? Is he old enough to see this as opportunity (like age 12 or 13)? Or is he little, like age 5,
    via u/everellie
  • 20
    where he might see it more as abandonment? Whatever age he is, are you willing to listen to him, if he hates this living arrangement once it starts?
    via u/everellie
  • 21
    There are plenty of parents who put their kids in boarding school, and I think. their kids mostly turn out okay, too. Go for quality
    via u/everellie
  • 22
    over quantity in your time together. Really listen to your kid and spend quality time with him when you've got him for the weekend,
    via u/everellie
  • 23
    and you'll be doing better than 75% of other parents out there.
    via u/everellie
  • 24
    I wouldn't want my kids to suffer through bad education because I didn't live in the right school district. Private school sounds like a great options
    via u/everellie
  • 25
    for you. And if your parents are awesome and your kid and husband are on board, you need to do what works for your family, not for your friends, etc.
    via u/everellie

Tags

family drama drama toxic family feud relationships parenting lol love family reddit thread Reddit funny dating
Scroll Down For The Next Article