Swim teacher refuses to let 8-year-old student into the pool after kid fails to listen to any rules, only to be confronted by his mom: ‘Never correct my son in public’

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    My son is entitled to NEVER being corrected in public. Do you understand me?

    I was a swim teacher once upon a time. I did all ages from infants (water acclimation with a parent) through high school.
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    Drop me in the water with up to ten kids and everybody had a safe, fun, and safe time. In all the years I did this I had exactly one kid who posed a problem.
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    This kid could not swin more than two feet and could not tread water - the same as the other kids in his class of 8 students or so, around 8 years old or so.
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    This kid would not follow the rules. When we were working on jumping into the pool he would not wait his turn.
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    Dangerous because I only have so many arms and was catching somebody else. We would practice going up and down the ladder and would run behind my back and jump in.
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    Practicing going hand over hand along the wall he would crawl over the other kids and go the wrong way.
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    He would push off from the wall, start to struggle, I would pull him back and he would do it again.
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    He was a distraction, a danger to the other kids in his class and a danger to himself.
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    I had him get out of the pool and sit with his back against the wall (about 3 feet from the edge of the pool, well within view of the lifeguard) and told him to stay there until I got back.
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    I took the kids through the rest of the hand over hand drill to the end of the pool and back, which took maybe 90 seconds - it just wasn't safe to have him in the deep end.
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    I then invited him back into the pool for the rest of the lesson.
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    And for the next 20 minutes he behaved perfectly. He listened. He followed every rule. He stayed with the group.
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    He didn't let go of the wall when he shouldn't. No more rogue exploration or sneaky jumps.
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    Situation resolved, end of the mater, the end. Or so thought.
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    After that lesson ended and before the next class started the pool director asked me to follow him to the bleachers where patents could sit and watch the lessons, where I met a furious mother just seething in cold anger.
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    With narrowed, unblinking eyes she hissed at me: "never do that again. The only person who is allowed to discipline him is his father."
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    I told her that the safety of her son and all of the other students was the most important thing, if her son needed to follow the rules, period.
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    If she wanted to talk about it there was one more class that day, after that I had all the time in the world.
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    Though all of this the pool director didn't say a word.
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    Mom walked off stiffly. I taught my next class. Aside from looking at me and shaking his head as I was retrieving the pool toys from the bottom of the pool at the end of the day he never referenced it again.
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    The student didn't show up for the next three lessons.
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    ETA: the director **did** have my back and expressed 100% support for me.
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    She approached him and lodged her complaint, but he was in the director's office doing director stuff so he didn't see it go down.
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    He stood by, which let the mother know that he was aware of her issue, but by not saying a word the message was clearly "the instructor is the ultimate authority in the class.
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    What he says goes. There is no reason for me to intervene here, he has the situation solidly in control, and I have 100% confidence that he can handle the student and you.
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    You cannot run to me to appeal, because there is no appeal to be made."
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    If I was a teenager teaching my first class he would have acted much differently - a poor kid teaching her first class in that situation would have been terrified and had shaky confidence facing up to a mad mommy and he would have intervened.
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    But I was in my 20s with a decade of teaching (I got my WSI and lifeguard instructor certifications at 17) and more than capable of dealing with her.
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    His silence was a much appreciated acknowledgement of my ability to handle the class and myself.
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    When he shook his head at me later it was in the form of "some people - can you believe people like that exist?" If you imagine it came with an eyeroll the message was clear.

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