Dad excludes 13-year-old kid from his wedding, claiming it's an “adults only” event, but allows his 14 and 16-year-old step-children to attend, kid cuts contact after turning 18: ‘I haven’t talked to him since’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 30, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

We have always believed that when a couple gets married, the only people they should invite to the wedding are people they actually want to see. There is no point in inviting distant relatives or bosses if those people do not make the happy couple, well, happy.

That being said, there might be some exceptions to this rule. Kids might not make the couple very happy, so they might decide to have a child-free wedding. But, if the couple has children of their own, surely they would want them at their side on the happiest day of their lives, wouldn't you agree?

Apparently, that is not the case for the dad in the story below. He had no problem excluding his only child from his wedding and allowing his soon-to-be stepkids to attend. This was only the start of the years of mistreatment this poor kid faced, ending when they were kicked out of the house as soon as they turned 18 years old.

5 years later, the dad tries to rekindle the relationship with his kid by inviting him to his 10th wedding anniversary. The kid, however, is not interested and refuses to attend. Keep scrolling to read what happens next.

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    AITA for not going to my dad’s 10 year anniversary party who didn’t let me go to his wedding when I was 13?

    I'm 23 now, but when I was 13, my dad got married to my step mom and said it would be a "no kids" wedding.
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    That for some reason included me, but didn't include my 14 and 16 year old step siblings who got to go.
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    I wasn't a bad behaved kid at ALL. I was shy and afraid of doing anything wrong, did well in school, and no doubt would've been perfectly respectful.
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    The wedding was the start of it, after that I started getting excluded from so many things. Every "family" vacation they went on I didn't get to go on, even though I lived with my dad.
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    They'd go out to eat or do stuff together, and I was a lot of the time left at home or not even told.
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    When we went shopping, my step siblings got what they wanted. I vividly remember this specific time that really hurt me where my stepbrother got multiple pairs of really nice shoes at the mall, and I asked for just one pair of Nikes.
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    My dad said no, then took me to Walmart and picked out a cheap pair for me which I didn't even get to choose.
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    (You can imagine how brutal christmas was with the gift differences).
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    Not even a week after I graduated high school, I was kicked out.
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    My stepbrother who was older than me was still living at home, and my step sister got to move out when she was ready at 20.
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    When I was kicked out I stayed with my mom for a bit, and that's when my dad suddenly acted like he cared.
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    He said stuff like "I did so much to protect you from her" "How dare you" "I fought in court for you" "She lost custody of you for a reason" and guilted me for staying with her.
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    Since then, I haven't talked to him much. But a few days ago, he messaged me saying he missed me and wanted me to come to his anniversary party.
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    I said no. Now him his wife, and other family members are calling me r de, ungrateful, and selfish among other things.
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    I am being villainized by multiple people, and it's honestly making me question myself.
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    Im questioning if i'm wrong for not wanting to go because of stuff that happened years ago and if it's unfair of me to not give him another chance and go to this party.
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    I'm asking for honest opinions, AITA for not wanting to go to the party or have a relationship with my dad?
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    PotatoMonster20 NTA The wedding wasn't great. I'm so sorry that happened to you. But the bigger problem is that he's been ignoring you and treating you as a second class family member since then.
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    You haven't had a father in a long time. So it might be time to block him and move on with your life.
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    Build a family of your own, made of friends and other people who love you. Not people who take every opportunity to show you how unimportant you are to them.
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    TKyzr So for five years he hasn't had much contact with you. He suddenly has a big event where the "whole family" should make a good show of things. Except he hasn't treated you much like family. Why should you go and pretend for him?
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    NTA. Let the relatives know he has made it very clear for ten years where you stand among his priorities. If they don't accept that, tell em to sod off.
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    MassivelyAdorable nta he shut you out for years so you dont owe him a party or a relationship protect your peace
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