Almost 40-year-old son and his pregnant wife move back into family home, start demanding teenage sister, Nora's, space and car, so their father threatens to kick them out over entitlement: 'They told me to solve the problem, so I will'

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Emma Saven
Sep 3, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Daddy's girl or not, this dad has every right to defend his teenage daughter when his 'pinching pennies' son, to put it politely, moves back in with his parents, bringing along his son and pregnant wife, after attempting to rearrange his younger sister's life to benefit them. 

The teenage daughter has a car; they need it. She plays the violin; the noise needs to stop. She has her own bathroom; their son needs it. She buys her own non-vegan snacks; it's theirs now. BASICALLY, she breathes air…they want it all for themselves. This entitled 38-year-old son thinks it's his right to move back home and completely, unapologetically take over the space, expecting his whole family to just take a key, lock their mouths, and throw the key away (if he doesn't do it for them first).

Just because he can't make a life for himself doesn't mean he gets to disrupt the lives of others. After trying to convince his dad to insist on making his sister give up on her personal space, hobbies, and treats…because they need the extra room, can't deal with the noise, and crave her foods, he rightfully refuses… if they don't like how things work under his roof, they can find one of their own. 

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  • The entitlement doesn't end…maybe it's time for him and his wife to pack up their bags and move in with her parents for a little change of complaining scenery, because this family is getting tired of it. Their door will always be open for any of their four children. However, if you can't behave like an adult, you will eventually be treated like a child…the only difference is, these parents secretly wish their 38-year-old son would run away from home, they'll even assist in making his ‘run-away’ sandwich. 

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    AITA for not "solving the problem" by punishing my daughter?

    I have 4 kids, one (F16, Nora) still lives with me. One of my sons(38M, Jeremy) recently went completely broke (I
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    won't get into details but it wasn't his fault and just a series of bad luck). He asked to move in with me and I agreed.
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    The problem is that he doesn't get along with Nora. I allowed Nora to take my old car when she got her license. Now Jeremy
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    wants to use the car because he "needs it more than a teenager" and Nora will not allow it. Another problem is food. Both
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    my wife and I are vegan and we don't buy anything non vegan though our kids are allowed to buy anything they want with their own money.
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    Nora is not vegan and she buys and cooks her own meals. My DIL who is pregnant is upset that Nora refuses to share and eats
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    her cravings in front of her. She has asked us to buy non vegan food as well which morally, I can not do.
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    Another problem is the room arrangements. My wife and I are on The first floor and everyone else is on the second floor. Nora
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    has a habit of playing violin whenever she wants. It was never a problem for us. Now they have a problem with it and think Nora
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    needs to get used to not playing as much because once the baby arrives (which is very soon), they are worried the baby won't be able to sleep.
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    Couple blocking their ears with pillows due to loud noise
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    The last problem is that Noral refuses to let them use her bathroom. There are 2 bathrooms upstairs and one has always been
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    Nora's and the other one can be used by anyone. They think their son(My grandson, Peter 17) should share Nora's bathroom.
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    They have been fighting non stop and I'm tired of it. They told me to solve the problem (and by solving they meant, force Nora to do what they want) and I told
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    them if they bother me again I will solve the problem by kicking them out. I have a responsibility to my minor child but I don't have a responsibility to them. Now they think I'm an a ole.
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    LeaJadis Jeremy sounds like a problem. You give him an inch and he wants a mile. He moved in with you, now he wants your car, he wants his sister to buy him (and his wife) food and give up her space. He is such a greedy AH. I understand that you let him move in because he is your son, but he's a horrible person.
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    PippiSpeaks How many people moved in? Your son, his wife, their son, a baby on the way? Yes, you can help your son our TEMPORARILY, but Nora is still a minor child living in the family home. Your son doesn't get to ask for help and then demand everything suit him.
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    coppeliuseyes NTA. Nora sounds like a great, responsible kid. You should be proud of her. Your son and SIL seem to think the world revolves around them and their children. I think you're doing the right thing standing by your minor daughter.
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    T09122317 I'm sorry but u should make noise when the baby sleeps tho, I hoover, play music it's good to get them used to noise
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    Ok_Homework_7621 NTA Sounds like it's time for your son to go live with his pregnant wife's parents.
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    PixriKendal NTA. Your grown son moved in, that makes him the guest. Nora's car, Nora's food, Nora's bathroom, Nora's violin. They don't get to show up and start bossing around a 16 year old in her own home. You're right to back your kid.
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    au5000 Hmm from your description the 'series of bad luck' sounds like all down to Jeremy if his behaviour in the workplace is anything like his behaviour as a guest in your home.
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    Equivalent Table_541 Honestly, it sounds like your son and his family are being really entitled. Expecting you to override your daughter's rights to her own car, bathroom, and even her food is way out of line. They're guests in your home, and if they can't respect the rules, then moving out is the right answer.
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