Single mom demands roommates take her 8-year-old son on their road trip, they refuse, she bans them from using the shared kitchen in response: ‘You're being selfish’

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  • Family ready for a road trip
  • AITA for not allowing my roommates 8 year-old son come with us on a 7-hour holiday trip to visit my family?

    Me (28F) and my husband (25M) moved in with a roommate about five months ago after seeing an ad on Facebook Marketplace.
  • We needed a place ASAP, and she has an 8-year-old son. He's a nice kid and often wants to tag along with us when we go places.
  • Sometimes we do take him with us for short outings, but not always - especially for trips that are far or when his parents won't be coming along.
  • For the holidays, my husband and I planned a 7-hour road trip up north to visit my family.
  • We already have our hands full: we have three daughters of our own (ages 7, 2, and 8 months).
  • On top of that, I'm in the middle of a custody case for my oldest daughter.
  • Our truck only seats five, so bringing our roommate's son would make six, which isn't even possible.
  • Beyond that, it feels like a huge responsibility to take a child we've only known for a few months on such a long trip, especially when his parents would be staying behind and nowhere nearby if something happened.
  • When I explained this to my roommate, she got upset and said I was being selfish.
  • She told me that since I "called the shots" and didn't want her son to go, she would no longer allow him to go anywhere with us again.
  • I told her she has every right to feel that way, but so do I. Since then, she's also told me I can't use anything in the shared kitchen, even though I've helped with groceries for her a handful of times.
  • I agreed just to avoid more conflict, but I'm starting to feel tension in the household.
  • So, AITA for not letting her son come along on our holiday trip?
  • Family vehicle packed, ready for road trip, vacation outside home.
  • Longjumping-Snow-431 She is being unreasonable! Her child is not your responsibility, and is not your responsibility to take on vacation. If she continues to make things hostile, start looking for a place to live. This is only going to get worse, and things will get more hostile. So start looking and have an exit plan. This whole situation is very toxic, and not safe for your family.
  • Mariethefairy NTA, did she ask you too? Why would you want your 8 year old that far away on holiday?
  • One River_9249 What is this living situation respectfully
  • dawgpoundma Yall need to be looking for other accommodations quickly especially with custody case. She could sabotage that case easily if she gets mad enough and decides to lie to get back at yall
  • boomer4442 NTA. Why would a parent allow their child to go on this kind of trip with people she's only known a few months?
  • Happy_Cow_100 He can't fit in car, does she want you to rent a bigger car? Like it's just not possible regardless of anything else.
  • Transition Thick7446 Get out of that living situation, none of that is ok.
  • Old_Pea_1201 NTA- that's not your child, you aren't responsible for him if she wants him on a roadtrip she should take him (coming from someone who's parents couldn't afford to ever take me away) that not up to you, the shared kitchen is exactly that, her child is not a shared thing
  • Individual_Ebb3219 Even better if she won't allow him to go anywhere with you again. She's only hurting her own child.

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