39-year-old insults girlfriend's preschool aged daughter during weekend trip, gets offended when they leave the trip early: 'You have an ugly face'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Dec 4, 2025 9:00 AM EST

Single parents have a duty to be responsible about who they date.

When it comes down to it, any partner who has the potential to turn into a serious relationship has to be good to the kids, as well as their parent. There are far too many horror stories relating to horrible stepparents for moms and dads in the dating pool to take their options lightly.

Unfortunately, it is very easy for people to be blinded by their rose-tinted glasses (or simply their fear of being alone) when they start dating somebody, even if the evidence suggests that they might not be a suitable match for their family. It can take something upsetting happening for them to realize that they are not making a good choice, and even then, some do not want to see reality. Breakups aren't any less hard just because there are kids to think of as well. 

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  • One mom was left feeling conflicted after a trip she took with her boyfriend and her two young kids ended abruptly after her partner of three years said something that she didn't like. He had previously made comments about her daughter being fat when putting her in her car seat, and after that, he called her ugly after she complained that he had bad breath.

    Angered by his comments, the mom left the hotel with her kids immediately, and her boyfriend was upset that she left without having a conversation with him. She wasn't sure if she had overreacted to everything, and wanted a second opinion.

  • AIO for leaving when my boyfriend told my daughter "you have an ugly face"

    My boyfriend (39M) and I (32F) took my two young kids on a long weekend getaway after the Thanksgiving holiday. We've been together for almost three years, but we've only recently started to incorporate my kids more in our life together in a meaningful way.
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  • When buckling my preschool age daughter in her carseat throughout the weekend, he would tell her: "suck in your fat belly". Now my daughter is saying she has a fat belly, which I'm not happy about.
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  • More importantly: Sunday morning, at the end of our stay, my boyfriend leaned over and said something near my daughter's face, to which she replied "eww, something stinks" and covered her nose. I giggled and told my
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  • boyfriend "I think she's saying you have morning breath." He looked back at her and said "Well, you have an ugly face and that's why you need to wear makeup"
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  • I was shocked and very upset. I calmly packed up our things and told him the kids and I would just grab breakfast on the drive home instead of staying and having breakfast with him. I didn't yell, cuss, argue or throw things around while packing.
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  • He is angry I left without the two of us having a conversation, whereas I feel we couldn't have had a productive "grown up" conversation with my kids in the same hotel room as upset as I was. While he did put a lot of effort into the trip, I felt he really crossed a line with his comment. It's one thing for him to make
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  • "negging" comments at me, and another to make them toward my baby. I've explained to him I've told my daughter we are beautiful without makeup and only use it to occasionally feel "fancy" and he had witnessed that interaction earlier in the weekend as we were getting ready.
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  • We had already planned to drive home separately and we did not have breakfast plans, so it's not like left him hanging in limbo. We're 24+ hours past the event and he still hasn't apologized; blaming me for leaving and overreacting due to my insecurities. So, am I overreacting for being hurt by the joke and leaving?
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  • collaredd NOR and you're underreacting. it is not "another thing" for him to be making those comments at you. she's repeating his words to her, which means she hears what he says INCLUDING what he says to you. you're setting an example for what your daughter should expect from a partner one way or another, you need to make sure it is the right one.
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  • CelticHipi1616 You're putting yourself and this man before your kids if you stay with this jerk.
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  • TemporaryTale549 NOT overreacting but please don't go back.
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  • Vivid_Treat3231 Why is it okay for him to neg you? If you guys continue your relationship your kids would see its okay fir a partner to behave like that to their spouse. Nor kick him to the curb his mask is slipping and he's a nasty piece of work
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  • nicegreathiss Do YOU think you're overreacting? Calling your kid fat and ugly? Why is he still alive honestly.
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  • goodnessgravybaby Yeah that's absolutely NOT okay. You did the right thing. Do not worry about whether he will apologize or not, you and your kids deserve to be around someone who is protective and caring. He didn't demonstrate any of that in the last 24+ hours.
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  • Sparkleunicorn-42 NOR but why are you still with him after he's made comments like that about your children?!
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  • MotorDealer2876 You're under reacting. Never in a million years would I stay with a man that made comments like this to my child. Imagine how self conscious this will make her feel! These things stay with people.
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  • tinypop34 Girl stand up and leave that man!!
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  • Character_Vanilla101 maaammmmmm. keep driving and dont look back. this is appalling. and i would have lost it at "fat belly".
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  • Conscious-Draw-5215 Hell no! NOR! That's the kind of shit children internalize! He shouldn't be using any "negging" comments towards YOU, either. It's gross and unacceptable behavior. Good for you for protecting your daughter. Please continue to do so!
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