Couple with 7 shared children clash when the husband disowns 2 of his kids and tries to rewrite their will so his remaining son inherits a larger portion of their estate, but his wife refuses: ‘I want our will to provide our shared children equally’

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  • AITA for wanting our will to provide equally between our shared children?

    Older couple sitting at a table looking at a smartphone, pointing at it as if disagreeing over details
  • I brought considerably more assets into our relationship than my husband, about 15x more. I've always treated the money as equally belonging to us both.
  • I felt like I further demonstrated this attitude when I said our will should leave equal amounts to all our shared children (seven in all).
  • Now my husband has disowned two of his three children. Rather than share our estate equally between the now five children, he wants all the money that would have gone to his three children to now go to his one son (ie 3/7 of our total estate) and my four children will each get the same 1/7 we had originally planned.
  • I've told him this doesn't seem fair and he has gotten ugly about it.
  • Mature senior couple husband and wife work together form home, wife hold paper and statistics and discuses with husband about documents
  • jrm1102 NTA - the money is from OPS late husband so IDK why the new husbands kid is even getting anything let alone 3/7ths OP really should separate their finances... Umm why did he "disavow" two of these kids? I suppose we can start there? Oh and he has 3 kids and you have 4, both not with each other? Edit judgment? Added I guess... -
  • OP bluemoon5555 Correct. Me w my late husband (from whom I inherited) and he with his ex wife. I feel like his decision regarding cutting out his other two children is his decision and I'm not questioning him on that
  • Guilty-Committee9622 Honestly if you go first your kids will get nothing. Please take care of your children. From a kid who saw it go to the step mom and her nieces.
  • ReferenceNo4437 "I brought considerably more assets into our relationship than my husband, about 15x more." Just No. No way your children should get less. It feels like he's stealing from you and yours.
  • Individual-Foxlike NTA. Either his kid should get 1/7th or 1/5th. There's no world where 3/7 is fair.
  • Ok_Day_8559 YTA. You had no right to combine the inheritance from your children's father with your current husband's finances. You have f'd up big time. You are not protecting your own children's rights. Stop being a doormat and start thinking about how you can protect the inheritance for YOUR CHILDREN and not his kids. Do better.
  • world_diver_fun NTA Husband sounds a really vindictive man.
  • Both-Enthusiasm 708 NTA You should tell him you can separate assets and his kid can get his and your kids will get your assets. It feels like he is trying to take from your kids and give to the one kid he has deemed deserves it, that is not fair. Your kids will feel a certain way if you dont protect their interests. He is certainly looking out for his kids interests. Edit: Honestly I wouldn't have agreed to an even split between the seven of them I would have kept my assets for my kids, but mayb
  • NTA. old_motters I can't believe this is an actual conversation. I strongly suggest you stand your ground on this. He disowned his kids, not you. These are the consequences.
  • Ornery-Young-8864 Okay, there's only one way to do this. You take care of your kids only. However you choose to. And he takes care of his, however he chooses to.
  • therealzacchai Why the eff are you giving any money from your late husband to this guy's kids instead of your own? Obviously, it's yours to do as you like, but if these kids were adults when you got married, it feels like a betrayal. I would be devastated if my mom gave the money my dad earned and his life insurance money to her second husband instead of us. I would feel the lack of love.

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