Mom sends unwanted son to work on foreign farm, resulting in him making a fortune through hard work, he refuses to share the profit with the family: ‘Make your own money’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 10, 2026 3:00 PM EST

Every parent has a favorite child; that is no secret.

However, a decent parent still treats all their children with the same respect and care. Even if they do secretly like or connect to one child over the others, it would be better if they didn't favor them so bluntly. 

A parent who does favor one child should not be surprised if the other children act accordingly and distance themselves from the family because of the favoritism. It can be expressed in small actions, like not coming over to family dinners as much, or it can lead to dramatic family disputes that tear the relationships apart, like what happened in the story below.

The 30-year-old middle child in the story below definitely knew he was the least favorite child, and one decision by his mom made it clear to everyone else as well. She decided to send him to a foreign land to gain farm experience to help with the family farm, essentially exiling him from the rest of the family. Even though he was married, he went along with his mom's demands and went to work on this faraway farm for over five years, while the rest of the family stayed together and worked on the family business. 

After five years, this son gained enough experience and exposure to actually make a profit. He sold the land he worked on all alone and started a successful business. He took all that profit, moved out of the family village, and settled in a city with his wife and kids. Through all that, his mom and brother became quite jealous of his success and demanded that he share half of the fortune he made from the farm. According to their claims, since Mom was the one who sent him there in the first place, the family deserves to reap some of the fruits that were made. 

They didn't say anything about their behavior, the clear favoritism, or every single challenge they were responsible for. All they wanted was the money, and thankfully, the successful brother is not ready to share…

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  • Young farmer standing in front of a truck, smiling to the camera
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  • AITA for not giving half of my fortune to my brother

    I (M30) and my brother (M32) are not so close from the beginning mainly due to favoritism and i being the unwanted middle child, we have a younger sister (F29).
    via toptiershi
  • we have farm lands but the farm were not so huge and yeild of the farm is comparatively very low, not enough for our family.
    via toptiershi
  • so when my mom got an opportunity to send one of her sons to foreign land to work, she decided to send me instead because she wanted her favorite child to be with her, my brother.
    via toptiershi
  • eventhough i got married recently and leaving for work means leaving my wife here at the village because the pay and working conditions were not good enough alongside i have to keep on sending money at home also.
    via toptiershi
  • i left for work & worked for 5 years with only 2 home visits a year, tough time for my wife & kid.
    via toptiershi
  • i also had to miss my child birth because of this but i never regretted that because i always use to think that the struggle i am doing now will make future of my children bright.
    via toptiershi
  • in those 5 years i gained a lot of exposure and decided to start something of my own, for this i had to sell half of my share of land, my family (mother, brother and sister) were not so happy about it as they thought i am doing something very stupid.
    via toptiershi
  • they didn't supported any of this but i still did it and it turns out to be the best thing i have ever done in my life, my business made me a good chunk of money then i finally decided to move my wife and kid out of the village and settle in city where i purchased a new house.
    via toptiershi
  • everything was going well for me until my mom brother and sister demanded that whatever fortune i made should be divided equally between me and my brother.
    via toptiershi
  • there reasoning for this is - i only get to work outside and get the exposure for my business because my brother took care of my family at the village, and if not him i were never able to even get out of the village.
    via toptiershi
  • so whatever success i got after moving out of the village was not of my own but a shared success with my brother and he should get half of it.
    via toptiershi
  • while my reasoning is - i never choose to go, i was forced because he wanted to stay and we didn't have enough for all of us.
    via toptiershi
  • Farmer in Bell Pepper Field
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  • whatever time i was outside working i was sending money home regularly so its not that hes taking care of my family for free, he getting paid for it also when i was outisde my brother used to work on my share of land also so whatever money generated from it used to go to him only, not to my wife i would also like to mention that if i choose someone else to work on my land then i would have got a much higher amount than the amount my brother was telling me hes generating from my share of land but
    via toptiershi
  • my extended family and my community is also supporting my brother claims and everyone except for my family and my wife family are against me and calling me AH for not giving half of my fortune to my brother.
    via toptiershi
  • TheGingerCynic You were sent away to work and send money back to them - you've more than done your share, and they haven't been supporting you. NTA If I were you, I'd stop sending anything back to them, they haven't been treating you like family for years. They've been treating you as a source of income that they don't have to worry about.
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  • Aurelizian NTA - My guy, you are still the unwanted one, just with money now and they try to do what they always did and push the thumb onto you to gain an advantage from your work. Distance yourself from these horrendous people and free yourself from that. You and your wife deserve a life of your own.
    via Aurelizian
  • No-Midnight6015 NTA it's not your job to parent your brother
    via No-Midnight6015
  • AmbitiousEdi NTA, you made that money for your family - your wife and child! Your brother can make his own money.
    via AmbitiousEdi
  • United-Manner20 NTA- they see you as a bank account, not family. They would never do it for you if he had been the one to leave. You're an adult. Focus on your family (wife and kids) and they can figure it out in their own.
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  • creepinghippo So you get a third of everything they own? You get a third of the farm again? What if the opportunity went wrong and you owed £100k in debt, would they pay £33k for you or would that be your debt?
    via creepinghippo
  • Significant_Limit_68 NTA. Your brother lived home for free. You paid for a house. Your brother owes you money since he lived home for free.
    via Significant_Limit_68
  • puzzlegrizz NTA. Stop sending money and stop communicating with anyone who is telling you to give your "family" more than what you already have. Walk away with a clear conscience that you have gone above and beyond for them. They will never appreciate you and unless you put a stop to it now, they will never stop using you for everything they can get from you. You owe those people nothing. Good luck.
    via puzzlegrizz

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