Coworker demands company accommodate her schedule for parenting, but chooses late hours to avoid her child and complains about missing time with them: '[She's] an absolute nightmare of a person'

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  • Office worker expressing dissatisfaction with a thumbs-down at her desk
  • You should change your hours to accommodate my schedule!

    I used to share an office with an absolute nightmare of a person. She made enemies with almost everyone we worked with, was rude to some of our clients, and she was always the victim.
  • One day I heard her arguing on the phone with an appliance technician about when they could send someone out to look at her dishwasher.
  • She said, "It can't be during the day. I work during the day. I need someone to come at night." When she hung up, she went on a long rant about how companies need to accommodate working people.
  • How is anyone supposed to keep a job if they had to take time off for doctor's appointments, repair services,
  • They should have evening hours. I have to work during the day. I have a child to take care of in the evening!
  • Woman sitting at a desk making a stop or time-out hand gesture
  • So everyone else should not get to spend the evening with their families so that it's convenient for you?
  • She loved to get high and mighty about the plight of the working parent, as if she were in a unique situation.
  • As if I didn't have a child younger than hers who could not be left alone, unlike hers, who could.
  • She also chose to come into work late and stay late (not the typical hours for our company) when she could have easily lined up her hours to fit her daughter's school schedule, and then she'd whine about how as a working parent she hardly saw her child.
  • Years later, I finally got the nerve to ask her why she didn't work normal hours so she could see her child more, and she said, "She drives me crazy.
  • I need alone time."
  • FinePossession 1085 How sad for her child. :(
  • cakerton Original Poster's Reply It was heartbreaking listening to her talk to her child on the phone every day. She'd start out using her sweet mommy voice and end up giving her the same lecture every day, using a scary, clipped voice. It wasn't abusive but it was just sad, because I met her daughter several times and she was so sweet. Fortunately last | heard she is in college several hours away from her mother and seems to be doing well.
  • WalkingMango Yoyo I was coordinating with my ex husband for getting our child into preschool. I'll skip over the argument and get to the point where we finally agreed on the school. At the time of enrollment, the school hadn't released school hours, just that it would be 6.5 hrs every weekday except 4 hours on Wednesday. My ex wrote to me negotiating which 6.5 hrs and 4 hrs it would be!
  • cakerton Original Poster's Reply Ah yes, just your average 24-hour preschool.
  • Z4-Driver It might be a valid issue with the lack of doctors offices open in the evening or similar stuff. But just complaining about it doesn't help. She's an adult and as such she needs to deal with it. She could first try to figure out, if there is some sort of repair service. available in the evening or on weekends. Might be more expensive, but if it fits her schedule better, it could be a way to go. If not, then she needs to accept that and think of how to solve her issue at a time repair s
  • cakerton Original Poster's Reply I would also have felt more sympathetic if she had any kind of work ethic, but she was just a shitty employee. They eventually fired her but it took ten years...and probably took a year off my life working with her lol.
  • PartyCustard3125 Yeah that is sad. But with her complaining so much maybe her child is relieved mom doesn't come home till much later.
  • Sausage McGriddle She should try being deployed for 18 months away from your 7 & 2 y/o. Really puts things into a new perspective
  • Concertina Terpsichor She's not wrong that there need to be night/weekend appts. for people who live alone and work full time, for anyone listening. But she sounds like a bitter pill to be around.
  • Environmental-Dish92 She should apply as a snow plow Driver. Those hours are never the same.
  • Confident_Ad9473 I have client's in the past ask if I can do their installs (appliances) late at night because they don't get off until like 7 pm. I just tell them to schedule me to come back on their day off or take the day off. My time is also important and they are not entitled to my whole life.
  • OkeyDokey654 You should have asked her to start working in the evening to accommodate people with jobs.

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