Girl breaks up with boyfriend after 6 years out of nowhere, soon, she starts a new relationship, they gather to chat, and he tells her she disgusts him: 'It makes me feel disgusted the way she has treated the end of the relationship.'

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María Cetra • Writer
Jul 12, 2026 10:30 AM EDT

When a relationship ends, the best course of action seems to be to let it be gone. But some may not think like that, unfortunately.

There is a problem that I'm starting to see in new relationships. There is this belief that love is always forever. Well, that's not exactly right, and thinking that it is can lead to toxic and problematic couples. Nothing is really forever, but especially love. There are millions of reasons to end a relationship, millions. Thinking that you are going to be forever together with your girlfriend is nice and sweet, and it's a good thing that you think that your future is together, but it becomes a problem if that blinds you from knowing that it can end. Of course, there is no point in being a couple if you think it's going to end, but it's not right to just believe that it can't end.

This whole debacle that the user wrote about in this Reddit story got me thinking about the problem that some people have to understand that something is over. The reaction he had when his girlfriend broke up with him was as if the main thing was to discover why it happened, when in reality you don't need a fully defined reason. It's over, and that's it. You can ask why, but it may not be just one thing, and it would probably make you incredibly sad. Also, the fact that most times when one of the people asks why is to see how they can fix it to get back together, and in reality, why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you?

Yes, your girlfriend dumped you, and? I get that it's sad, and it frustrates you the fact that there is nothing else to do about it. Sometimes the way this is expressed is not the best one, and it is complicated to stay in charge of your emotions when these things happen. But you are gonna get over it, and maybe even fall in love again. A breakup isn't the end of the world. And if as soon as your girlfriend tells you to break up you start thinking of all the things she did that you didn't like… then why do you want to get back together? Basically, what would you wanna be with someone that doesn't love you anymore? Don't make the situation harder and just let it be. Relationships end, life moves on, you get over it. 
 

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  • I honestly am not sure where to start this story, so I will start it at our breakup. I [23M] was broken up with by my ex [F23] who I had been dating for 6 years, in the middle of may. Half of her reasoning was that since she was moving to school, dealing with her dad's quadriplegia, and her mom's cancer that she wouldn't have any time to be in a relationship with me. The other half of the reason for the break up was that she felt that we had slowly been drifting apart, and
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    Visual representation of a woman on a bicycle holding the hand of a man behind her, also on a bike. 

  • despite trying to put so much effort in that it wasn't working out. Now, it would be sickening of me to not be understanding or sympathetic to her plight, and obviously I had no qualms with that, however I did take issue with the fact that she said despite the effort (that really only I was putting in from constantly changing to her needs when she asked) we had been growing apart. A week prior to the break
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  • up, she had communicated with me on issues with our relationship. I spent the next week trying to rectify them, while to be honest, she did nothing. The week after communicating with me her issues, she broke up with me. Mind you she was never one for communication, It was something we struggled with in our relationship, but had thought we could manage to fix it. Anyways, the day after our break up, we had a deeper discussion
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  • about the future together (since we have a dog together) and just general post break up stuff. During this she said "I have no intention of jumping into a new relationship" which I thought made sense since we both just got out of a 6 year relationship. Flash forward almost 2 months, and I receive a text from a friend of a friend that my ex has been hanging out and basically dating a guy from the moment our relationship ended. This also
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  • wasn't just " some guy" she found and decided to start messing around with. It was a mutual coworker between the two of us from a past job. Also someone she started talking to nonstop 6 months before she broke up with me. I (being a fool) had believed her the last month and a half when she was busy for 5+ hours at a time, not answering me when I was trying to pick up my dog. Now normally I feel like this
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  • shouldn't be a big deal, but more than her moving on THE DAY after our break up, what hurt the most was her sitting there having her FRIENDS and FAMILY lie to my face saying she was out with her best friend, while in actuality she's out with her new man. I was honestly extremely fed up with it and asked her to have a chat, which we did. It was not a pleasant chat, I said everything I was feeling and everything I've ever wanted to say
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  • to her about the way she treated the end of our break up and the way she treated me during periods of our relationship (lets not get into it) and then asked her why she would lie about still loving me and not " being ready for a new relationship" when she clearly was. She didn't really have a response and clammed up, but did say she didn't feel any guilt that she lied to me, or that she immediately got with the guy I knew she was interested in before we broke up.
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  • She also told me that she had found her "spark " (i.e. she fell in love in a day) and that she just felt like we were weighing on each other. This was when I told her she disgusts me, I just couldn't and cannot fathom how you can lie to someone you dated for over half a decade, lie to them about the person you're talking to way before you break up, feel absolutely nothing when you make you family and friends lie to me for your benefit, and feel literally nothing lying about not
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  • wanting a new relationship. Maybe I am out of my depth here and in the wrong, but it honestly makes me feel disgusted, aversive and sick to my stomach the way she has treated the end of the relationship. Let alone that she lied about not having feelings for said person before immediately getting with them, and act like it has no effect on me, regardless of if we broke up or not. Please let me know your thoughts. I would honestly love to hear an outsiders
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  • perspective even though there's not enough words in the world to fully describe everything that transpired.
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    A man and a woman sitting on a bench beside a body of water, model image. 

  • Dickie_downer Nta, but also consider- thank god she showed you who she is before marrying her. Youre gonna feel gross for a while, but try to learn to let it go- shes not really worth the energy it takes to be mad
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  • Wildcat190580 NTA. She deserved that one for her behaviour. On a positive sidenote: Be glad that the relationship is over now and not after marrying and having two kids with her. She lies far too easily and asks others to do the same. You would not want to raise children with someone like her.
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  • an ordinary_boi Just let it go man, atleast you are now 100% sure the kind of person she is and also am sure at this point, you would never take her back, so what's to lose? Just let it go, some people are like that but it's their life, you know? It should just be a nice lesson to you moving forward. Forget her and move on, don't even give a sh whether her new relationship works
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  • soitgoeskt She broke up six months before you realised. The lesson for you is the relationships are two way, once one person has checked out it doesn't matter how much effort the other person puts in, CPR on a six month de d corpse doesn't work.
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  • Exceon I've been through this situation almost exactly. asked her to have a chat This is where you messed up. You've broken up. What is that "chat" possibly going to fix? It's just you venting your feelings to someone who will feel no more sympathy for
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  • you than a bag of rocks. Chat with friends and family instead: people who actually care about you. She is trash. Pursue new hobbies to distract yourself from any thoughts of her. Edit: If you can't shake the need to "tell her how you feel": write her a letter and then burn it.
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  • starlight_sweetheart NTA, you were hurt and its not like you physically fought her, you made your feelings known and just wanted a little respect after 6 years to be honest with you, especially considering your still in contacy because of the dog you share.
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