Friends Trick 27-Year-Old To Coming to Bachelor Trip Against His Will, Expect Him to Foot the Bill

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jul 10, 2026 9:00 PM EDT

What would you do if your friends lied to you to get you to go on a trip? 

It's never a good idea to lie to your friends. If they're good friends, then you owe it to them to be as honest as possible. But who hasn't told a little white lie to smooth things over in the heat of the moment? Maybe you have a friend who is more of a homebody, and they need some convincing to go on a night out. They are ultimately grateful for it, but you have to do some pushing along the way. They may even need to be prodded, okay? They're the friend who is allergic to fun and makes it worse for everyone else. If it takes one white lie to get them to the club, it might be worth it. But was the person in this story that kind of person, or were their friends being totally unreasonable?

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  • Am I in the wrong for refusing to pay for a trip I was tricked to be on?

    Hi, I (27 M) was tricked to be on a bachelors trip by my friend (27M) and then he asked me to pay for the flight tickets and I refused. Let me start from the beginning, one of my close school friends is getting married and so a bunch of the guys have been trying to organize a bachelors trip for him.
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  • The problem is that they hadn't figured out where it was going to happen even 3 weeks before the trip. They finally decided where, but they had planned it so the majority of the trip is on the weekday (cuz that was convenient for them) This is very inconvenient for me as this is the busiest month of work so I told him I wasn't coming.
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  • One day the bachelor calls me and tells me he really wants me to come. I told him this trip is planned terribly and it's really gonna cause issues if I take leaves. He then informs me that he had already booked the flight for me to come.
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  • This really ped me off cuz he didn't consider my situation or even take no for an answer and forced me into it, but since he really wanted me there and it was coming from a place of care I let it go.
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  • A week before the trip all of us are on a video call and I mention this forced trip and he laughs and says "actually I hadn't booked the fight until after the call with you, I just told you that so you would come on the trip"
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  • This was very upsetting and made every other stress of the week worse. It was set up in between the most busiest workweek of the year with a lot of travel involved and he took advantage of my compassion for him to trip. on this
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  • On top of that he has booked a 6am flight which means I have to leave home by 4:30 am. I only reached home from a work trip by 10:30 the previous night, and he calls me at 11 to bring him food from a specific joint to the airport. I don't get any cabs until I'm running 20 mins late, I reach the airport just as the flight door closes and have to book a flight at 12 pm later in the day to get to the place.
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  • I'm very ped of and we have an argument and he apologised after (idk if he just said sorry to shut me up to since he's clearly a liar) but when we are going back home I see that he has asked me to pay for the flight I missed, which he lied to me to get me to come on.
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  • I refused to pay, i said I'll pay for the flight back and I had already paid for the 12pm flight I took so I don't see the reason to pay for this one. I've been ranting about this to everyone but most people, including my friends and my parents have been saying that I'm
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  • making too much of a big deal about this. The only person who seems to understand how much it bothers me is my partner even tho she says she wouldn't be as bothered by this if it was a close friend. Im very confused because I feel justified in my feelings and actions but others seem to think I'm taking things too far. Am I the ahle?
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  • This person was uncomfortable with paying to go on a trip he didn't really want to go on. This is an understandable thing. Weddings and the events surrounding them can get insanely expensive and time-consuming. You don't have to rearrange your whole life in order to go to someone's wedding celebration. If it's not in the budget, then it's not in the budget. If you don't have the time to spare, then you don't have the time to spare. Your friends can't make the decision for you. Unless you're the friends in this story, and then you did make that decision for your friend, and you weren't going to apologize for it. But the friend who was bamboozled didn't quite think that was fair. Deception is rarely a fun thing to be on the receiving end of. Most of us like to be given all the information before we make a decision. But the friends in this story didn't allow that to happen. Keep reading to see what happened here and let us know what you think about it in the comments below.

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  • Commenters agreed that it went both ways.

    AngryQuoll ESH because you don't stand up for yourself and then you complain. You should have told your friend you weren't coming flat out. Your friend is also an for manipulating you into going.
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  • PatchEnd It's a stretch to say you were tricked. You left the house. You got in the plane, you didn't want too do it to begin with...... BUT YOU WENT ALONG WITH IT??!!
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  • why did you even go to the airport if you didn't want to go? They didn't hog tie you and drag you on the plane. You walked into that plane with you eyes open. I don't understand why it's not your fault also. Bottom line is.... at any time, YOU could have just not gone.
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  • Different-Pay3390 NTA, good moment for this 'friend' to learn that incredibly poor planning like this can have consequences (which he refused to accept when you said you couldn't. come).
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  • Different-Airline672 ESH, your friends is TA, no question, but you were not forced into anything. You could have been an adult and told him that this is not going to work for you. You chose to to go along with is, even after hearing that he tricked you. Don't blame others for your own decisions.
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  • Sharp_Evening8212 NTA. If someone lies to get you to commit to a trip after you've already said no, they don't get to act surprised when you're upset. The biggest issue isn't even the money... it's that he ignored
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  • your boundaries and manipulated you into going. If he'd been upfront from the start, you could've made an informed decision. Asking you to pay for the consequences of a situation he created feels unreasonable.
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  • Substantial_Key4640 NTA. Manipulative and very ready to put his hand in your wallet. I'd honestly be somewhat wary going forward because once you see a person's problematic perspective regarding other people's money or time, then you're a fool if you choose to disregard it in the name of friendship.
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  • bmw5986 ESH. Your "friend"" for the lies and manipulation and you for just going along with it. No is a complete sentence. Coming from a "place of care" isn't a remotely good enough reason for someone to go through all this just for a bachelor party.
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  • The-Nice-Writer Your friend is very clearly TA. Lying, manipulation, total disregard for your job commitments and your time in general, and demanding that you pay for something he effectively guilt-tripped you into after the fact. I wouldn't speak to him again. I wouldn't have even relented and gone on his trip. His ticket, his problem.
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  • III Tempered Old Woman After reading your whole thing, I would be very, very annoyed too, so just going to go with NTA. They placed a big burden on you and demanded you pay for that burden, pay for it twice and S k it all up too. However, it
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  • also sounds like you've made your feelings known, and now is the time where you decide if you want to keep those friends or not. After a while, after making your feelings known, it won't go anywhere else, you'll have to decide if the friendships are worth it to you.
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