21 Of The Best First Date Convos For Socially Awkward People

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Oct 26, 2018 2:00 PM EDT

Break these out next time you can't stomach the idea of breaking the ice. 

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  • 01
    Text - FreakyOrca 18h Just ask the other person a bunch of questions. People love to talk about themselves.
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    Text - Zelcain 18h Just talk about your own interests, ask about their's. You can gauge how interested they are in your hobbies, know more about them, talk about what you love etc. Showing passion in something is attractive to most people.
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    Text - DemocracySnag 17h I have gone with "if you were a stripper what would your theme/signature song be and why?" a solid 5 or 6 times. Of course it depends entirely on if you think they won't be offended in the first place. But everyone I've asked it to has had a good chuckle and usually they actually think quite hard about the answer. is light hearted, gets people laughing and relaxed, and you get a bit of an insight into their music tastes and what sort of music they like to let loose to. S
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    Text - Saph_ 17h I always start with "red apples or green apples?"
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    Text - bohemian-07 8h Penguin facts!! Did you know that a penguin's striking coloring is a matter of camouflage; from above, its black back blends into the murky depths of the ocean. From below, its white belly is hidden against the bright surface.
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    Text - Killashandra19 18h Music, Movies and/or books. Also kinds of recreation like biking, hiking, camping, yoga, rock climbing etc
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  • 07
    Text - Mochafrap512 11h I was so nervous on my last first date (almost 6 years ago), I brought up Hitler.
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    Text - Champit Tatties 7h The purpose of a first date isn't to ingratiate yourself at any cost, it's for both of you to find out if you have enough in common to want to keep dating. They're in the hot seat as much as you are. So don't stick to bland topics as if you were in a job interview. Talk about things you are interested in and passionate about, and invite them to do the same. In the long run, to be close to someone, they need to either share your interests or at least be positive about th
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    Text - ProperTwelve 7h Someone recently asked me what my death row meal would be, was pretty good topic
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    Text - atigges 18h l used something called Hollywood Stars as an ice breaker in college as an RA where people would write their answers into three stars like the walk of fame, but the questions are still fun to answer... 1. Why are you famous/a celebrity? 2. Where would your celebrity mansion be? 3. What are you doing in the embarrassing photo the paparazzi just put out? In question one you learn about the person's interests/aspirations/career goals. In question two you learn about their unprofe
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    Text - zongliere 9h My first date with my now boyfriend was at an art museum - you do not have to talk too much there, yet it is easy to calm down and and just feel the person's vibe. Also, if you are not that good looking into eyes, that's a good place to just talk and look somewhere else. liked that we just looked at the paintings and shared our insights, sometimes even stupid jokes, plus, if you really like the person, you can gently touch their shoulder to show something beautiful you found
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    Text - shocksalot123 7h The art of manipulation begins with making the other person feel important, base the conversion on them, ask questions about them and expand upon them, make said person believe that you truly care about their existence even if you secretly despise them. You can apply this to any person and not just relationships, soon you will realise that steel isn't strong boy, flesh is stronger! What is steel compared to that hand that wields it? That... Is true power!
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    Text - shadowrangerfs 4h Just acknowledge that you aren't a great conversationalist and suggest asking each other random questions. Do some goofy "would you rather" or "If you could _" type questions.
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    Text - Totallyuntakenname 5h I usually talk about food. Recipes or restaurants they like. People get passionate when they talk about their favorite foods.
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    Text - shabadabadabada 4h Something to keep you occupied where the conversation can happen naturally. Board games, video games, painting, whatever. I've found that these kinds of dates have been the most 'successful' ones I've had. Coffee, movie, restaurant, etc dates have usually not been so good.
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    Text - PhannyPaqued 6h Use the FORD technique. Ask questions about/ discuss Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. Just relax and follow the conversation as it evolves. Pay attention and be genuinely interested in what the other person is saying
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    Text - TechnoCowboy 18h I always start with, "What do you like to do in your spare time?" "What do you do?" Speaks more to what job they have, but spare time speaks to their passions. It's a good way to get to know people. Plus, if it's a similar answer to your passions, you can talk for hours about it and no one will be bored. If it's not one of your passions, you can learn so much!
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    Text - Assrocket33r 4h Ask them lots of questions. 'Do you gave a big family?' "What do you do for fun?' 'Are you a big reader? Favourite TV show?' 'Do you live nearby?' 'Dobyou drink/smoke?' 'Favourite food? Asking someone about their interests and their libing situation is a great way to get them talking If ththey seem happy to talk about a specific topic, ask further questions. Talking about your own interests is also important. If you're shy, sometimes its a good idea to laugh about being sh
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  • 19
    Text - Saxon2060 12h Do you have any brothers or sisters? Where did you grow up? Do you play any instruments? Do you read a lot? What books do you like? What was the last film you saw? Do you like sports? Where do you like to go on holiday? Where DON'T you like to go on holiday? What's the worst holiday you've ever been on? Where's the best place you've been? What's your favourite restaurant? What's your favourite food? If you could only eat one food for ever what would it be? If you won the lot
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    Text - WhimsicalFalling 6h Find someplace to go that automatically creates a conversation. For example, I asked a girl out on a first date to a local board game store, where they had lots of demo games we could play and a little cafe we could buy goodies at. This meant we could have our conversation, but we were also talking through the game we were playing
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  • 21
    Text - deliriousgoomba 2h "What do you think of penguins?" I've yet to meeta person who hates penguins.
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