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Tips for Talking to Women Without Seeming like a Huge Creep

The general themes here seem to be: bring up something you have in common, actually listen to them, compliment them, talk about shared interests, give them food and offer to show them pictures of animals. Also don't ask them where they live right off the bat. Here are some pickup lines that actually worked for people.

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    Text - ReaganRamsey9 10.7k points 1 day ago Don't automatically hit on me or just assert yourself. Bring in common interests or ask me simple question like "Oh is that a Manchester Orchestra shirt?" or something like that. I'm super friendly and will talk to most people as long as I don't feel threatened or uncomfortable. If I have my headphones in or I'm reading a book, please don't start a length conversation with me.
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    Text - munkymu 267 points 1 day ago Be aware of social norms and pay attention to body language. On the one hand, breaking social norms a little bit can help you stand out. On the other hand, people who don't get social norms can come across as creepy, unpredictable or even dangerous. If the person you're trying to talk to turns away, looks away, closes up their body, etc. take the hint that you're stressing them out and make your exit. The last thing you really want to do is establish a first i
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    Text - EzekielBlake 1.5k points 20 hours ago I believe I once told a girl it looks busy in here, as she rung me up for food. She giggled and said thank you. Then turned into mush... I'd like to know what I said in her head. Whatever it was, it was great
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    Text - snackpack3000 16.5k points 20 hours ago edited 14 hours ago A guy at a bus stop asked me what my favorite snack was. We talked about popcorn for ten minutes before the bus got there. By the time we boarded the bus, I was really wanting some popcorn and he asked me if I wanted to go see a movie and get some popcorn. Of course I did. That guy was a genius. Girls like snacks. EDIT (since a few people are curious)we dated for 5 months. He was a great man, but we had different goals. I'm sure
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    Text - louisfailure 5.9k points 23 hours ago "Hey, wanna see pictures of my cat?"
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    Text - jenna_bean 9.3k points 1 day ago edited 10 hours ago One thing I've noticed is that a lot of guys don't think it's creepy to ask where I live if I'm on/waiting for public transport. If you've just met me and open with that, there's no way I'm telling you any more locally than in the town/city we are already in. I've asked guy friends about it though and they all seemed genuinely surprised that I thought it was creepy. Have gotten off buses early before because of this because I've felt un
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    Text - QuarterQuellCrisis 4.2k points 1 day ago "I like your shirt. I don't get the reference but it looks cool." Boom opens dialogue and a interest in what she's interested in.
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    Text - MePirate 15.1k points 1 day ago edited 16 hours ago I once said to a girl "hey we are in the same math class right?" And now we are married. Always take math guys. ALWAYS. that's the key.
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    Text - HannahAching 8.2k points 1 day ago - edited 12 hours ago Keep an eye open for signs of wanting to be left alone, like wearing headphones or reading a book.
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    Text - MentalSewage 24.7k points 1 day ago2 8 Guy here that learned a hard lesson It's not about how to approach girls. Learn how to approach реople. The easiest way is to compliment every time something catches your eye. To everybody. NOT something they were born with or generic. Things like "I love the pattern on that shirt!" or "Hey, that necklace is super cool!" I've even complimented makeup. The next step is to read their response. Did they ignore you or just give a simple "thanks" and move
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    Text - SeveralHeartyDurian 392 points 1 day It won't come off as creepy if you start with something that seems like a genuine interest. I go to book stores A LOT and a guy once chatted to me about how much he liked Murakami since I was looking at some of those titles. This could be something like a band shirt or a video game they're looking at playing. Basically it's like you see us as a person with interests and feelings rather than someone you're just trying to bang. Not only does it make you
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    Text - jenyermom 1.2k points 1 day ago give a genuine compliment on something small you've noticed -an accessory, personality trait or her laugh. or try to notice something she's noticing, or looking at, and comment on it!
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    Text - deterministic_lynx 896 points 1 day ago I tend to carry a book or drawing book with me and while, from time to time, I sink into it and want my peace of mind, whenever I lay it down quite a lot and look around or just decide to lay it down completely for that chapter in approachable. And I love the question what I'm reading! Or drawing. Or what book I'm carrying. I can give you a real interest and opinion and let's go from there.
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    Text - biggerthanasquirrel 143 points 1 day ago Make a comment about something happening around you. If you're at a bar or coffee shop or restaurant and some random is doing something funny or wearing something weird, point it out. Say a guy across the room is wearing a huge purple hat, say something like "Do you see that guy's hat? It's crazy. Would you wear something like that?" And if she responds with a grunt or a single word answer, then she isn't interested and go back to your friends or d
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    Text - help_me_im_just_egg 906 points 1 day a You can be proud of how intelligent you are, but don't show it off. I get that guys try to prove to me that they're super smart, but in that certain context, to a complete stranger, it comes off as patronizing and belittling. Don't dumb yourself down, but try to let the girl do most of the talking at first. Let her warm the conversation up. And give up on trying to flirt with girls who are on the job. Store attendants, waitresses, cashiers, also the
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    Text - Starbourne8 183 points 21 hours ago I saw a girl with a tinker bell shirt. The art was more realistic than cartooney. I told her that it reminded me of my favorite video game. We are now married. Lesson here, video games get you laid. PS, the game was Zelda. We got married to Zeldas lullaby orchestrated. It was awesome.
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    Text - Knhittel 318 points 1 day ago I think a lot of people are different on this. The best advice is to pay attention to the responses you get. If I take my headphones out, answer you and then put them back in then leave me alone. If you are getting one word/short answers then also leave me alone.
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