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Dating Nightmares: Things Men Do Before Dates Which Annoy Women

  • Picking a place that is right next to their apartment yet entirely inconvenient for her.

    Text - ( Messages Details iMessage Today 6:11 PM So you live in Brooklyn? Ya and yourself? I'm on the upper west side. So for Thursday I was thinking this wine bar on 77th and Columbus. That cool? Delivered Cool for you because it's prob on your street but how about somewhere a little more convenient for both of us? iMessage

    Whether you are in a big city or are in the burbs, choosing a meeting point that is mutually convenient is of utmost importance. Expecting your date to drive two hours or take three transfers on a bus/subway to a bar that is five minutes from where you reside, you're fucking rude. Countless guys on dating apps are always suggesting we meet at a venue that is OH SO accommodating to their location and don't pay any mind to what kind of commute is in store for us.  This tells us one of two things: you are lazy as hell, or you are just trying to make it easy for you to take us back to your place. Either way, you sir, are an asshole.

    **extra points to the gentlemen that offer to meet somewhere in the lady's neighborhood.

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  • Trying too hard to start conversations via text before the date

    Text - ( Messages Details Ok Wednesday it is. I'm looking forward to meeting you. Me too So what kind of movies do you like? Are you into sports at all? Who are your teams? l'm a Boston fan. Ever been? Delivered How about we talk about this wed? Message Yeah No Q WERTYUIO P A S DFG H J KL z X c v B N M 123 space return

    I get it, you want to appear that you are trying to get to know us, but that is the whole point of a date. We will get to know each other then. If the chemistry and conversation aren't there in person it doesn't matter how pleasant our conversation was via text. Make a plan, follow up.  Well share life goals and decide if we want to eventually see each other naked when we meet face to face. 

    **if there is going to be quite a bit of time until you are able to meet, texting to ask about someone's week or something simple is nice. Save getting to know each other for the date though.

  • Canceling last minute

    Text - < Messages Details IMessage Today 6:29 PM Hey- I know we were supposed to meet up for lunch today but can I get a raincheck? I went out pretty hard last night and I'm pretty hungover. Delivered Nah I'm good |Message Ok Yeah No Q W ERT YUIO P ASDFGHJKL z X c v B N M 123 space return

    We get it, sh*t happens. Deadlines get moved up, flights get delayed and people get salmonella. But for Christ's sake, show up for the dates you plan when humanly possible. Don't be the asshole who has the nerve to actually admit he got too drunk the evening prior to the point where you can't even function enough to have a substantial conversation. EVERYONE. IS. BUSY…and you are probably not that important, so be considerate of other people's time. Also, if you need to ask for a raincheck, make the effort to ask about your date's schedule for the upcoming week and try to make a plan immediately.

  • Not following up early enough for a date

    Text - ( Messages Details essuge ay 6:32 PM Hey are we still on for drinks at 7?? Oh I haven't heard from you all day so I made other plans Didn't we make these plans on Monday? Delivered Ya that was the last time I've heard from you . And it's Friday iMessage

    As demonstrated in number 3, there are TONS of flakey people on dating apps. If you planned a date and haven't spoken in a few days, follow up early in the day. Before noon preferably. No one wants to wait around checking their phone to see if a date is still on for that night. If we don't hear from you at a reasonable time, we assume we are being flaked on and want to make other plans before it is too late or before we decide whether or not to wash hair/put any effort into our appearance.

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  • Not picking a place, or picking a place that makes no sense for a first date

    Text - ( Messages Details IMessage Today 6:36 PM So where did you want to go tomorrow? I'm not picky. somewhere on the east side is good I don't really know many good places. I only really hang out in my neighborhood so you can pick a place and I'll meet you there Delivered iMessage The I'm Q W ERTYUIO P ASDFGHJKL z X c v B N M 123 space return

    It's simple. Just pick a f*cking place. Restaurants and bars are aplenty in most areas. There is no bigger turn off than a guy that is wishy-washy and can't just take the reigns and decide. You also have to be mindful of your choice. Is a live jazz bar really an easy place to have a conversation ? Is the dive or the Irish pub more of a place to get smashed with your buddies during the football game? Wine bars are always a great way to go. The cozier the better. Bitches love wine bars! Also, if you are going out in a neighborhood that you are unfamiliar with, there is this great little invention called the internet, and it is quite resourceful. 

  • Texting late at night asking to hang out

    Text - 0000 Verizon 10:56 AM 94% Messages Details iMessage Yesterday 11:26 PM Hey where you at? Would you want to grab a drink somewhere? Just wrapped things up with my buddies It's pretty late Ok. We could always have a drink at my place if you want Delivered Nah I'm good iMessage

    I feel I don't need to say much about this. Texting us after you have been out drinking to ask if we want to 'meet up' or 'hang out' is a bush league move. It's desperate. It's sleazy. Don't do it. F*ck off.

    And there you have it. The 6 things guys do that piss off girls before a date. Now, ya'll go get your shit together.

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Nikki is currently living in NYC with her husband (who she met on Bumble after experiencing the absurdity of online dating) and working in digital marketing. She clearly enjoys recording the ridiculous debauchery that is the modern dating scene. Nikki is also partial to a tall glass of Prosecco, her black/calico kitties, 90s music and playoff hockey. Drop her a line if you have a good story for her to write about.

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Nikki is currently living in NYC with her husband (who she met on Bumble after experiencing the absurdity of online dating) and working in digital marketing. She clearly enjoys recording the ridiculous debauchery that is the modern dating scene. Nikki is also partial to a tall glass of Prosecco, her black/calico kitties, 90s music and playoff hockey. Drop her a line if you have a good story for her to write about.