New Mom Asks Husband To Stop Social Media Posting About Exhaustion

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Apr 24, 2021 9:00 AM EDT

Bring a new little human being into this world is easily one of the most profound and difficult experiences that someone can experience in their lives. With the experience of raising a baby comes regular, delirious phases of pure sleep deprivation, and overwhelming exhaustion. Of course, all the struggles and pain can be offset by those humbling moments of beauty that a parent can witness as they watch their baby familiarize itself with this strange world. But, with all that being said, the parenting process can get to some folks more than others. And some people like to vent on places like social media to destress themselves. It sounds like this dad's decision to do that social media venting wasn't exactly met with approval. 

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    Font - 2 7 e 2 3 2 7 AITA For telling my husband he wasn't the one who experienced difficult pregnancy and birth? Me and my husband had our first baby together 3 months ago. We're overjoyed but like any new parents we're struggling. My husband recently started posting about how exhausted he is. How having a newborn is exhausting and draining. He posts about everything he does. Talks about the fun/calm times he sacrifices. Sleepless nights but he goes to bed at 10 and wakes up at 9. He tells frie
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    Font - He does little compared to me. I do most of the hard work from feeding/changing diapers/bathing/while he does simple occasional things like going to the store/ cleaning the bathtub/changing the sheets etc. I thought he was just venting. But I had family and friends reaching out asking if my husband's is okay and why I was making him overwork and not giving him a break. I was berated by my own parents after seeing his posts. Yesterday I talked to him about what he's been doing and how he w
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    Font - He argued that he wasn't lying. I said well, he wasn't the one who went through the difficult birth experience. That I was struggling for 9 months of intense symptoms and my birth was extremely difficult. I've never experienced anything more difficult. (I have several medical issues btw) and l'm still recovering. Il'm not trying to minimize his struggle but whatever he's dealing with l'm suffering x10 more than him despite the physical and emotional stress I keep my mouth shut and just ge
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    Font - He snapped saying he couldn't believe I made it all about me and that he's the right to be able to vent and say whatever he wants whenever he pleases. Whereever he pleases. I asked what's up with this attitude, I mean he's always been the "woe is me" type but he's making me look bad to everyone. And that's not okay. I asked him please stop or get himself some therapy if he's feeling overwhelmed He looked at me shocked then argued that I needed to stop policing his words and opinions. And
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    Font - NTA Wait he's going to bed at 10pm and getting up at 9am? I'm sorry, but WTF?! He's getting a solid 11 hours sleep a night in a house with a newborn baby, and complaining online about how tiring it is. He needs a reality check yesterday. I don't even have kids, but l've seen enough of my friends with babies to know 11 hours straight of sleep is unheard of. If he wants to act like he's doing all the work online to his/your friends and family, then he needs to be doing it. Otherwise he need
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    Font - NTA. > I mean he's always been the "woe is me" type I dunno how you put up with that. I sure wouldn't. I know everyone has their flaws and everything, but that's not one l'm willing to entertain. Make a big list, of ALL babycare tasks and household tasks. Take turns picking tasks from the list till it's split up 50/50. G Reply 4 1.0k 3 ...
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    Font - NTA. This sounds very manipulative. He's presenting life one way and you feel like it's not the way he's presenting it all all. You guys need to get into therapy ASAP. G Reply 585 ...
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    Font - Downtown-Advantage18 · 15h nta and him running and putting the argument on social media is ... wow. he sounds like he really wants sympathy and attention. G Reply 1 332 3 ...
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    Rectangle - Trin_42 · 14h • Partassipant [1] NTA, congratulations, you're a mother of two G Reply 23 3
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    Rectangle - percythepenguin · 12h Nta. Maybe go stay with your parents for awhile. Or at least talk to them and explain what's happening and or start making plans to stay with them for awhile G Reply 4 21 3 ...
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    Font - Mammoth_Ad1374 · 14h · Partassipant [1] NTA. Start being petty. If he wants people to know all of your business, make a tally chart. Everytime someone changes a diaper, feeds the baby (or pumps milk for later), soothes them when they're crying, etc they get a tally. If they are the ones to wake up with the baby at night, they get two or something. At the end of each day, post it on Facebook. G Reply 4 177 3 + ...
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    Font - I would say NTA because he's lying on social media about how much you're both doing to the point people are calling you to ask why you don't do...even more than all the feeding/changing/bathing/etc? I don't really care who struggled more but he needs to step up in the present if he wants any credit whatsoever for raising the kid. G Reply 金 88 ...
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    Font - Taleya • 11h NTA and he's trying to use social media pressure on you, or worse, creating a false narrative. Start documenting it. G Reply 4 12 3 + ...
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    Font - SuperKamiGuru824 · 13h NTA He needs therapy. Getting likes on social media triggers a dopamine rush to the brain. The fact that he immediately went online for sympathy means he's turning to social media for the high of validation and acceptance. It's like a low key addiction. G Reply ...
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    Font - BKStephens · 14h ►►► Good luck OP. Here's hoping your first baby learns how to grow up and help take care of your second. NTA. G Reply 4 58 ...
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