Man Ignores Fact That Girlfriend Skips Outings Because Of Budget, Asks If He's In The Wrong

The fact that this poor girl worked an extra job just to try to keep up with an affluence and inconsiderate family is just a tad bit heart breaking. On top of that, it sounds like this guy is just about as clueless as they come. Based off what he shared regarding his own financial situation, it doesn't seem beyond reason to suggest that he could've helped her out a bit. But on, instead it was just pure confusion on his part over why she wasn't joining the various outings. Um, maybe because the money was tight. 

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    Font - AITA for inviting my (29M) Girlfriend (28F) on an expensive vacation and expecting her to pay all of her share? (I make a lot more than her) Hello. My girlfriend, myself, my parents, and my brother and his wife all went on vacation in another country a week ago. My brother and I were the ones who did most of the planning of the itinerary although we did ask everyone else for input. For background, I make around $150,000k as an IT consultant, my girlfriend is a teacher making $45,000k. My
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    Font - My girlfriend knew this trip was coming up and took on a second job waitressing on the weekends for several months to get ready for it. We have always split things 50/50 in the 2 years we have been together. There were a few times on the vacation when she did not go on outings with us- wine tasting/scuba diving/etc. She also would only eat 2 meals a day, simply stating that she was on a budget. My family does favor more high-end (*expensive*) places. My parents thought it was very strange
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    Font - She also said she doesn't know if this is going to work long term if she is expected to go on vacations like that with people who make so much more than her. I feel bad that I did not pick up on her discomfort sooner. But we did agree to split everything 50/50 and I don't know why she agreed to come if the cost was an issue. 17.5k 441 ↑, Share
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    Font - 11 Awards YTA and other commenters have done a good job of explaining why so l'm just going to respond to you "I don't know why she agreed to come" line. Uh... because you're her boyfriend and she wants a life with you rather than two separate lives due to your income disparity? She's right. This is never going to work long term if you can't either a.) partially pay for her or b.) reduce the cost of the things you do so that she can afford to pay her portion. Where exactly do you see this
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    Font - LadyBake82 · 17h Partassipant [2] YTA She had to get a second job and yet you weren't even able to pick up that she was struggling financially? Seriously, do you actually love this girl? There is nothing wrong with splitting, as long as you would not be pressuring her to live above her means, which you did with this holiday. If you wanted this holiday to include her, the decent thing would have been to help her out financially. If you didn't care if she came along or not, again l'll ask,
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    Font - YTA. You know she really had no idea how much things were going to cost. She makes $45k a year she hasn't been living the highlife in another country. I can't imagine going on a vacation with my SO, someone I care about (do you?), then all jaunting off for expeditions and leaving her alone for 1/2 the time. Then taking her to restaurants you know she can't afford. And watching her starve herself to be able to go the other 2 times...? Surely you are making this up. You can't be this cluele
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    Rectangle - Badknees24 • 17h YTA and I'm so so sad for your GF. You just stand by and let her miss out on stuff and not EAT because she can't keep up with your family's lifestyle? That's vile. Have a word with yourself. 165 3
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    Font - Daddy_urp · 15h 1 Award YTA completely. You guys are supposed to be partners, but instead your treating her like a leech for the mere idea of you helping her out of the vacation. I make much less than my partner. We don't do 50/50 on anything because it's not possible for me nor is it fair. Your partner sounds like she's in distress trying to figure out how to afford to eat while you're focusing on the money and how 50/50 is “fair". She deserves better. 3.8k 3 ...
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    Font - 6 Awards YTA Dude come on, your gf had to take a second job to keep up with your family. You heard her stomach yt you didn't think she may not have the cash? God, your not the brightest are you. You make over 100,000 more than her and don't even treat her to a holiday. Ya it's not going to work. Your blind to your gfs struggling. Help her 18.3k ...
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    Font - work_fruit · 15h YTA - You saw her skipping meals and at no point said "It's okay, this one's on me." You let her take on a second job when it's something YOU invited HER to, not that she was asking you to spoil her. If you guys are doing 50/50 it would make a lot more sense that you at least pay 3x as much as her to account for what portion of your pay it takes up. It's probably embarrassing for her to admit this is all expensive, but also seriously- man up and just pay. I would have dum
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    Font - Tasty_Research_1869 · 16h ΥΤΑ Your GF TOLD YOU SHE WAS EATING TWO MEALS A DAY BECAUSE IT WAS ALL SHE COULD AFFORD! She told you POINT BLANK that she was on too strict a budget for more than two meals a day. WHY DID YOU NOT, AT THAT POINT, OFFER TO HELP HER OUT? Jesus wept, are you honestly so self-absorbed and literal minded that you know your girlfriend can't afford to eat and you go 'oh well, we SAID we'd split it 50/50, so even though that's clearly not working out and my girlfriend is
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    Font - sheramom4 • 17h Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] ΥΤΑ. Your girlfriend worked hard to afford the trip and no one took her budget into consideration while planning things. YOU didn't skip an expensive dinner or two and take your girlfriend somewhere more affordable or even treat her on the vacation. Spring for that scuba outing. You come across as entitled, selfish and obtuse. And don't seem to have a lot of attention or care for your partner. 633 ...
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