Man Receives Lifetime Contract From Company, Rejects Brother-In-Law's Offer, Drama Ensues

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Oct 3, 2021 3:00 PM EDT

The whole premise of receiving a lifetime contract offer from a company that you sunk your heart and soul into seems like a pretty exciting situation that's well worth celebrating, and probably taking. Especially in this day and age with things being as chaotic as they are. So, when this guy hit the AITA community to ask whether or not he was in the wrong for rejecting a competing offer from his BIL, you can imagine what folks had to say in the comments section. Really, the family should've just been supportive of the offer coming through in the first place. But hey, you be the judge. 

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for not leaving my Life-Long Contract with a company to work with my BIL Not the A-hole I'm married to my wife of 10years, her brother is recently starting a company I was a worker of a company founded 20 years ago, it was the start and I being one of the major employees worked very hard and to get the company to where it is now, as a result 5years ago I was offered a life-time contract by my employer for the hard-work and loyalty to the company. I accepted the offer. I am generally
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    Font - Now my BIL is starting a company which offeres almost the same services. If I join I will definitely attract clients and will be a huge boost for the company. However this buisness will be against the company I currently work for. My BIL has asked me to leave the company and join him. I really do not want to. My wife says that she thinks I should join BIL but would support me regardless of my descision, however we might receive a lot of backlash from her family. After a lot of thought, I
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    Rectangle - I wouldnt have even considered all this if it was for a friend, but its my wifes brother and her family that are against her is what is troubling me very much, my wife still tries to be happy but I can see that it is clearly bothering her, my friends (who I asked about) are divided about it. AITA? 3.6k 3 525 ↑, Share
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    Font - NTA, but you're wife's family is definitely acting like AHs. Let's call a spade a spade here, he wants to use you (to the detriment of your current employer) and is mad that you don't want that. G Reply 1.7k throwRAmilfs OP • 21h exactly, im just happy my wife is supporting me rn 908 3
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    Font - NTA. Makes me wonder if your BIL wants to start a company that is in direct competition with your employer because he assumed you (and your reputation) would make his business successful. Did he offer you an ownership stake as well as a position and salary? Did he ask you if you would be involved before starting his business? l'm betting the answer to both questions is "no." G Reply 4 518 3 ...
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    Font - Welder1919 · 21h Partassipant [1] 1 Award Hmm. Do I choose between a company l've worked for literally my entire life, that has given me a lifetime contract, that is paying me good money for the work I do? Or do I go work for a company that has just been started, probably won't offer me the same amount of money or the same contract, that could go under in as little as 1 year? Man this is a really tough choice. I'm gonna choose to stay with the company I know and love and that I helped mak
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    Font - RaymondBeaumont · 21h Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] |I really do not want to That's enough. You don't need any excuses or anything, you just don't want to. If their relationship with you, your wife, and I guess your kids, depends on you doing what they say when it comes to where you work, then you have a lot more to deal with than just hoping when they tell you to hop. NTA. G Reply 4 817 3 ...
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    Font - jojozabadu · 21h Partassipant [4] NTA - You're being asked to walk away from a 20 year investment of time and a team where you're valued to do a solid for your brother in law, but you're the asshole? These people epitomize entitlement and self- centeredness. G Reply 4 74 3
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    Font - NTA. Your BIL wants to start a company where you are the main draw. If you ever leave your current employer - who I hope but also assume pays you very well - you need to own the majority of the new company. You'd be gifting your BIL money if you joined as a simple employee. G Reply 65 ...
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    Font - bearbear407 · 21h Certified Proctologist [22] NTA The fact that they're holding it against you now only prove that they can't keep business issues out of personal. He wanted to piggy back ride off all your hard work. Seeing that his business just started, there's also a chance that it can fail and really screw you over. You dodge yourself a bullet. G Reply 4 51 3 ...
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    Font - MaybeAWalrus · 21h Certified Proctologist [28] I really do not want to. This should end all discussions. You don't want to. period NTA A 6 Reply ↑ 21 3
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    Font - Andie787 · 21h Partassipant [1] OMG. NTA. Has your BIL always been in this field, or did he start this new business with the intention of using your reputation to get things going? Why should it be up to you to give up security, recognition, and I assume work and clients you enjoy to help your BIL succeed? Why would your wife's family not want that for her and any children (if you have or ever have any)?! On top of that, they want you to essentially ruin the current business relationships
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    Rectangle - AireyAriesTarot · 21h Sounds like he's trying to take advantage of your skill set to boost his business without any hard work on his part G Reply 4 17 3 ... +
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    Smile - KTB1962 · 20h Certified Proctologist [22] NTA. You were offered a life-time contract by your employer for the hard-work and loyalty to the company. Period. Tell your BIL that. G Reply 1 17 3 + ...
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    Rectangle - Claspers69 · 21h Partassipant [3] NTA Never work with family!!!! G Reply 1 14 3 ...
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    Font - IBeTrippin · 21h Partassipant [3] NTA If you don't want to, you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with that. Also, imo, getting into business with family is often a very bad idea. If something goes wrong - there's arguments, bankruptcy, whatever - your whole family will be disrupted over it. O 6 Reply ↑ 11 3 ..
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    Font - PhoenixRosehere · 21h NTA There is a reason you don't work with family and this is one of them. You were given a no-win situation so do what you want and don't work for your BIL. You choosing not to and their reaction tells you all you need to know on how it would be if you did work for him. Definitely NTA G Reply 1 11 ...
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    Rectangle - Alottalurkin · 20h Partassipant [1] NTA. If you're happy where you are, stay. You've got to think of your family and your financial stability, not that of your in laws. G Reply
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    Rectangle - MycologistFast4306 · 20h NTA he wants to exploit you for what you've earned because he can't get it on his own. Otherwise, he wouldn't be pressuring your wife. G Reply ... +
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    Rectangle - APotatoPancake · 20h Partassipant [4] NTA. Also depending on your state laws and contracts you have signed you might not be able to depending on exactly what it is you do. Conflict of interest laws and nondisclosures ect... G Reply ...
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