Woman Keeps Throwing Away Roommate's Food, Roommate Hits Breaking Point

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mattstaff
Sep 24, 2021 2:00 PM EDT

A fair number of us have ended up living with something of a clean freak at one point or another. It can be a frustrating dynamic to navigate. You're just trying to live your life in a way that's mindful enough to take into consideration that that particular roommate needs things to be an immaculate kind of clean to hit their own comfort level. But, you go ahead and factor in a roommate who insists on continually throwing out perfectly edible food? Yeah, that's just no good, man. You can probably imagine who the moral judges of Reddit's AITA community found themselves siding with on this one.

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  • 01
    Font - AITA? My housemate is throwing out my food she says is gross I'm losing my mind here, I need perspective. 6 months ago, I moved in with a friend and her friend. My friend is chill, her friend is nice but a super clean freak. My friend warned me about that so l've been on my game keeping everything extra clean, though we have had some small differences of opinion (e.g. I left 2 textbooks on the kitchen table overnight after studying and the next morning she told me I shouldn't leave 'mess'
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    Font - The problem is the fridge. One of Jane's weekly, self- appointed chores is to clean out the fridge. I don't think a fridge needs to be cleaned weekly but hey, her call. Thing is, she keeps throwing out my food. We have different ideas about how long food is still good. She's adamant leftovers shouldn't be eaten after 3 days. I eat leftovers for up to a week. I'm pretty generous to my vegetables with how long I still eat them. Like if my carrots or go a little soft or my kale's a bit wilte
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    Font - We just had a blow up because I went to eat the stirfry I cooked Monday night. Gone. Jane's thrown out my leftovers before because she claims it's gone bad after a few days, or thrown out unpretty vegetables that I know were fine because I looked at them that very day, but she'd claim they were gross. I've asked her before not to throw out my food just because she personally wouldn't eat it, because it's fine. I asked her about the stirfry. She said she threw it out because it's been ther
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    Font - She went off about how it's disgusting the food I keep in there and it's going to make me sick (it doesn't) and how she's doing me a favour and I should be thanking her for cleaning the fridge weekly because it's disgusting that we wouldn't do it if she wasn't here. I can't even deal with this so I just calmly said 'Jane, the fridge isn't disgusting. Please leave my food alone' and walked upstairs because I just couldn't handle getting into a screaming match about it. She went to my frien
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    Font - I know I might be looser than others on when food is still good, but I don't think l'm doing anything gross. My food is not gone rotten, smelly, or mouldy. Am I being gross to have leftovers in the fridge for a week? Or veg that's a bit soft?? ETA: Thanks and lots of people have suggested a mini fridge in my room, which I get is one solution. I just... don't think I should have to? Carting my food up and downstairs from the kitchen to cook a meal if my roommate is being unreasonable? Seem
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    Font - I guess I was just paranoid because I grew up in not the cleanest house, and we did really stretch our food and sometimes did have stuff go gross in the fridge as a kid so even though I don't let food go gross now, I was worried l'm crossing some kind of unspoken boundary about 'acceptable food to keep in the fridge' because my house and fridge were messy growing up. ETA 2: My god, people. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being inadvertently gross with my old veggies and my 5 day lefto
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    Font - dart1126 · 13h Certified Proctologist [28] 1 Award NTA. Either segregate areas in the fridge that are off limits or label your food with dates or your name. If she continues this I would tell her you need to be reimbursed. She has no business calling your food disgusting. If she cleans it out every week obviously nothing prepared could have been in there 'for weeks' and she knows it. Start going into her bathroom and throwing out old toothpaste, deodorant, personal products and tell her t
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    Font - NTA. Unfortunately you may only have four options here, and one is to move out. You can start putting leftovers in the freezer where possible. (I assume she doesn't toss frozen foods). You can get your own fridge if you have the room, or you can start eating her food when she throws yours out. It may take that level of AHishness to get her to stop, but at least you can eat. G Reply 1 384 3 ...
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  • 09
    Font - NTA. She has absolutely no right to throw out food you pay for especially when its not mouldy. My petty advice would be to date everything you buy when you open it/ cook it and then take a photo of said date. This way she cant use the whole 'its been there for ages'. If you dont have your own food shelf that would be a good thing to request also. G Reply 4 1.6k
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    Font - AllOutofFs • 13h Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] "Since you've elected yourself the food police, you now for throwing away my food." owe me $. A mini fridge is a great resource but you shouldn't have to go to great lengths to protect your food. On the other hand, this person doesn't seem to care that she's costing you more money so it might be a good investment. I don't know how you can continue living with someone who doesn't respect you. Good luck. You're NTA. 6 Reply 1 314 3 ...
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    Rectangle - scottieButtons • 13h 14 Awards NTA, tell your roommate that some random guy on the internet (me) once ate a 3 week old Arby's sandwich I found in my friends car. G Reply 1 4.2k 3 ...
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    Font - Cyarsonix · 10h hold the phone. she's claiming weeks? then wouldn't she have thrown it out LAST week or is she "failing" her job. Wtf. do you really need to date your food or something? NTA G Reply 4 77 3 + ...
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    Font - srasaurus • 13h NTA. That is ridiculous. I usually go by 5-7 days to eat leftovers. You're completely correct that it's fine to eat food that is up to 7 days as long as it's not moldy etc. I'm not sure how you'd remedy this. Maybe mark your containers with a sticky note dated when you made the food so she can't lie and say it was there for weeks (which makes no sense since she cleans it out every week lol). G Reply 4 47 3 ...
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    Font - First of all, NTA. This reminds me a little of refrigerator wars and food thieves that famously occur in the workplace. Go online and look for "locking box for refrigerator". If she throws away the entire box, make her pay you back. Also, you seem to be using a lot of softening language with her. Put your foot down. She is stealing your food. The fact she doesn't eat it is irrelevant. G Reply 35 ..
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    Font - destineysunshine · 13h NTA...I would start saving the receipt from your shopping trips and if she throws out that weeks food you start charging her for it! Also, I agree with people saying to label/date your food. That way she can't take it upon herself to say how long it's been in there. Get tough! Clearly this person has no respect! G Reply 29 + ...
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    Font - mythoughtsrrandom · 13h Partassipant [1] NTA This falls under the "it's not you it's them" category for sure. You have handled it much better than many would I think. Especially since you are on a tight budget. As for solutions, they have been mentioned but Your own shelf Mini fridge Mini fridge with a lock on your room door Move although that doesn't sound feasible. Good luck and l'm impressed with how you stretch your budget where you can. I'm sorry she put a dent in that. G Reply + ...
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    Font - marykvoice · 9h NTA. Speaking as a (what I thought up til now) super clean freak, if she's that upset about her roommates' totally normal habits, she probably needs to live by herself. She's imposing her unreasonable standards on you, and that's not her place. If there was rotting food in the fridge that affected the other items, that would be one thing, but throwing out food just because she wouldn't eat it is ridiculous. Good luck, OP G Reply
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    Font - Any-Scientist-7467 · 13h Pooperintendant [56] NTA SHE SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS OCD If you have your own room, l'd buy a fridge with a lock, about $100 or so. Then keep all your stuff in your room. Does she also go into your room? Personally I would have charged her for what she threw out. That's unexeptable and if she tried that with someone else, it wouldn't end as well. Clearly she has issues G Reply 4 134 3
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    Rectangle - Unusual_North · 10h NTA and l'd find a new roommate like yesterday G Reply
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    Font - NTA maybe time for your own mini fridge? G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - TheQueensLoyalFool · 10h Partassipant [2] NTA. You know what OP? Just throw out her food 3 hours after she gets, (Seriously tho she needs to mind her own damn food wtf) G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Longjumping_Emu6845 · 9h NTA. She's throwing away YOUR MONEY. She gotta go. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - MadQween · 13h Partassipant [2] NTA, a mini fridge in your room could help if that's feasible for you G Reply 金29
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