Carnivore Family Member Refuses To Attend Vegan Wedding, Bride Consults Reddit

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Jan 3, 2022 12:00 AM EST

This isn't the first time that we've seen dramatics break out over meat vs. vegetarian dishes, and we're sure it won't be the last time. This bride decided to consult the moral judges of Reddit's AITA community to determine whether or not she was in the wrong for not pressuring a carnivorous family member to come to her vegan wedding. You can probably imagine where the moral judges of Reddit's AITA community found themselves. 

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    Font - AITA for not pressuring a guest to come to my vegan wedding? In June 2019 my husband and I had our outdoor wedding. We live north of my country, his family is south, quite a few hours away. To help, we said that their presence was wedding gift enough, we paid for entertainers to look after the children all day in a safe, separate area, and we booked all the venue's rooms at our expense so they would have a place to sleep. The issue is I have been vegan for over a decade and I was adamant
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    Organism - I didn't push the matter, because I was not going to pay for her to eat meat (and no, she has no medical conditions). Due to her not coming, her husband and other family of her nucleus didn't come. The day of the wedding was wonderful, the food was fantastic and a lot of his family was amazed at how delicious everything was, much to my immense delight.
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    Font - My MIL was obsessed with some dishes and the head chef was kind enough to send the recipes requested. A great time was had by all, and through the grapevine my husband heard the family raved about it for months (I should note a lot of his family has issues with dairy, so being able to eat EVERYTHING made them very happy). Then the pandemic hit and family weddings with massive gatherings stopped. This summer we went down to see his family, and the topic of get-togethers came up. Cousins st
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    Font - because she feels "left out". Apparently, she hadn't realise the food was going to be so good or the event so nice, and resents that everyone had this great event that she missed.. Had I insisted more, and had I emphasised how amazing the food was going to be, she might have come, while now there are no such big family events taking place anymore. Basically I deprived her of a cherished family memory because I didn't make the vegan wedding sound appealing or apetising enough. I didn't say
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    Font - AITA? Eta: we had someone with allergies (to fave, a type of bean) so there was none in the main courses, only one dish in the buffet had it and our guest was notified (the staff also put out a little sign to warn of allergens). The person who didn't come has no medical conditions nor allergies 4.4k 799 ↑, Share
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    Font - 1 Award NTA, she missed out and wants you to be the bad guy rather than accept she was an adult who decided for herself, and she didn't even consider that vegan food could be good. You didn't push her because she was an adult who decided she didn't want to eat your food, and you're an adult who can accept that different people are different and not stomp your feet when someone isn't into what you're into. Other people had a good time, and she can't allow that to pass without her input for
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    Font - Waste-Phase-2857 • 9h NTA, but basically she is angry at you for not telling her you would serve good, tasty food at your wedding? She just assumed it wouldn't be good since meat wasn't on the menu? You did the right thing just accept that they declined the invitations, you got the "good" relatives as guests. G Reply 4 326 3 ...
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    Font - hammereverytime · 9h NTA Who doesn't go to a wedding over no animal products? Not eating meat, for one meal, doesn't go against their core beliefs, it's just a preference. The fact that they wouldn't attend a wedding over a food preference, for one meal, is humourous. Weddings are stressful and a lot to manage, not your job to convince one person the food will be good enough for their standards. Weddings are about coming together and celebrating, it's not a cooking competition. TL;DR: The
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    Rectangle - dfwnighthawk · 9h NTA. Her loss. I'm not vegan, but have been to vegan events. She could have eaten before, or after. G Reply 4 557 ...
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    Font - NTA - you had more important things to do that pressure every guest that responded no to an rsvp. They made their choice, they can live with it. Heck, if meat was that important, they could have kept a bag of beef jerky in the car and when people went out to smoke, they could go out to snack. G Reply 1 43 3 ...
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    Font - Simple-Shampoo · 8h NTA. I'm no expert on weddings, but they should be about supporting and celebrating the couple getting married. It's not some culinary event. So I see absolutely no need for you to push someone to come to your wedding if they see it as a some dinner party. Their loss, not yours. Their fault, not yours. G Reply 4 23 3 ...
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    Font - Nordic_Nights· 8h NTA I will never understand the absolute refusal to eat vegan food. I am not a vegan but I immensely enjoy vegan food. Sounds like it was lovely OP. I have no idea why vegan or otherwise anyone would have to emphasize how good food is at a wedding. Like of course you were going to try and provide great food, regardless of the menu G Reply 1 21 3
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    Rectangle - kittyBoB2 · 8h Partassipant [1] Nta. I'm an immensely picky eater. Sensory issues, mostly texture based. You know what I do? Feed myself before events. It's not that hard. Your wedding sounds like it was lovely. Don't worry about Aunt AH. O 6 Reply ↑ 18 3
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    Rectangle - NTA. She makes the face because she made a mistake and wants someone else to blame for it. Now she feels she missed out but it is still all about her and not about you and your husband. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Gooeyhen · 8h Partassipant [2] NTA. How is it your fault they made a choice? G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - CharlotteSDJ· 5h NTA. She threw a hissy fit because she "didn't want to eat vegan food" and now she gets to suffer for it. She sounds incredibly selfish. Let her suffer tbh. G Reply ...
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