Uncle With Terminal Illness Chastised For Leaving Inheritance For Niece But Not Nephew

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/throwaway_inheret · 14h S 15 14 O 13 O 1 1 AITA for leaving my niece an inheritance but not my nephew? Throwaway because my BIL is on Reddit. I was diagnosed with a terminal illness a few months ago. It's not a matter of if, but when, and the best estimate is that I have in the neighborhood of 1-2 years. I'm dealing with it. I've had a good life and no regrets. Part of dealing with it is getting my affairs in order before I leave the stage.
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    Font - My sister has two children (13f & 5m). The 13 yo is from her previous relationship, the 5 yo from her current husband. My niece's father skipped out on them and my sister had a rough time of it, so I helped them out early on. Her husband is well off so they're set now, but it's become very obvious to me over the years that he wishes my niece weren't in their lives. They don't exactly neglect her, but she's left out of a lot and it's very obvious even to our parents that my nephew is heavi
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    Font - I made some very fortunate business moves early on and I'm now sitting on a large chunk of change and a retirement fund that I will not live to use. My sister has made no plans for my niece's college or anything else, but the girl is incredibly smart and hardworking in school and she deserves a chance to make the most of herself. It's my intention to have everything put in trust for her after my death, managed by my executor until she's 25 so that her parents can't touch it, she can have
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    Font - I sat down with my parents and sister to lay out my plans and end of life wishes, and my sister is deeply offended that I'm excluding her and my nephew. She thinks I should leave the money to her to split between them or set up equal trusts for the kids. My father loathes BIL and said he agrees with me not letting him or my sister near the trust, but I could leave my nephew something to save face. My mother is too distraught to have an opinion right now. BIL made a joke later about contes
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    Font - I feel like I have more responsibility to look after my niece since no one else is, while her brother will be okay. I love my nephew, too, though, and don't want him to feel bad when he's older. I've planned to leave him some non monetary items. AITA? 4 8.9k 1, Share + Award 939
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    Font - Slytherin125 · 14h Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA the fact your bil is already talking about contesting the will when you haven't even passed yet is a serious red flag, leave everything to your niece and make sure her parents can't touch any of it Reply 1 236
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    Font - caw81 · 14h Asshole Aficionado [16] BIL made a joke later about contesting the will, I would flip out if anyone did that to me. Its even worse if I was an estimated 1-2 years left. G Reply 1 2.2k +
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    Font - SimplySam4210 · 14h Asshole Aficionado [18] NTA, but I would see a lawyer. I've heard too many times where people mentioned leaving the other person a nominal amount of $5k so that they can't contest the will. Granted, my expertise is coming from "Better Call Saul" and a few other shows but l'd still check. 6 Reply 1 12.3k 3
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    Font - chubbybunni1985 · 14h Asshole Enthusiast [7] NTA at all but agree with your farther, maybe leaving a token something so your nephew isn't left feeling they way your niece does. That you didn't value him at alI. But agree that the majority is left to your niece to ensure she gets the same leg up as your nephew. I'd make sure that you have it locked right that there can be no contest and they should think long and hard about it if they want any sort of relationship with her daughter. I'd al
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    Font - Gogowhine · 14h Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA. You're a great uncle. You will change her life and giver her a super boost of feeling very loved from by considering her in this way. It's your money. Do exactly as you want with it and don't let anyone sway you. Sorry to hear about your diagnosis but glad you feel like you had a great life! 6 Reply 1 96 +
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    Font - Morrigan-71 · 13h Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA. She thinks I should leave the money to her to split between them Yeah right, we all know how that would end given her lack of a spine. Her husband would make her give the most, if not all, of it to their son. G Reply 1 509 +

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