'Do I just find someone to bring for the show of it or stay strong?': Single lady debates what to do about her plus one invite

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Aug 29, 2022 11:00 AM EDT

Who in this day and age hasn't been single and dreading an upcoming wedding they have to attend? Not only is the universe set up for single people to be repeatedly shamed (how many times must one check that box on a form?), but single people also have to deal with the politics of the "plus one" invite.

 

These Redditors have weighed in on the conversation in a thread posted to Reddit's r/datingoverthirty subreddit by u/XrayKiloLima, who expressed her frustration at receiving yet another one of these invitations. She clarified that working in a male-dominated environment for much of her life hasn't helped her in relationships, and every time she attends an event, she is asked if she brought someone else along with her. Those recurring questions are certainly tough, but some Redditors feel that not receiving a "plus one" invite at all could be even more insulting. That being said, other folks expressed that the original poster should in no way feel pressured to bring someone along just for the show of it. If she genuinely has someone in mind that she'd like to be there, great! But if not, it will only make the situation more awkward, not to mention the people getting married will have to pay for a total stranger's food and drinks. 

 

We feel that the Redditor can be more unapologetic in her single status. There are advantages to being single at a wedding too! Not only could you meet someone, but also if you make it seem like your non-existent plus one was supposed to attend, you can get two free dinners! 

 

We've seen other instances of wedding drama in recent weeks. For example, this bride angered her father when she wanted her stepdad to walk her down the aisle.

 

Keep scrolling for u/XrayKiloLima's post in her own words and for some of the feedback she received!

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    Font - & r/datingoverthirty Posted by u/XrayKiloLima 1 day ago What to do when you start to get invitations for you + partner while you're single? 2 I recently received an invitation to a wedding like this and it almost left me in tears (sad and angry ones, not happy or hopeful tears). Do I just find someone to bring for the show of it or stay strong and single until I find the right person? Edit/Add on: For additional context, I've been in a male dominated environment since I was 18 and haven't
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    Font - ellef86 1 day ago edited 1 day ago 35 Londoner - I still believe Fortunately generic plus ones aren't a thing in my world, but even if they are, they're there for your benefit, in case there is someone you want to bring or in case you don't want to go alone. It's not an expectation that you have to bring someone and there's no 'show' to be put on - whether or not you have a date isn't the focus of the hosts attention (unless they are jerks). They just want to know numbers so they can plan
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    Font - Few-Tradition6384 1 day ago You go alone and get to sit at the singles table and have fun. ↑ 20 Reply Share
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    Font - AfterPaleontologist2 1 day ago I'll be honest I went to a good work friend's wedding last year. The only other person I knew who was supposed to go was another work colleague and she bailed at the last second. I didn't know anyone else very well at the wedding and I was single so it was brutal. Everyone else there was partnered up already. All you need is one other person with you to make it easier to meet people. I find it tough to do alone. I ended up leaving after an hour to go bar hop
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    Font - pinkvelvetdress 1 day ago . I always felt more insulted when I didn't get a +1... like thanks for assuming I won't have anyone to bring. I can see why getting this invite would upset you, but I think it is always polite of the couple to give you the option to bring a guest. Nothing wrong with going single though! You never know who you might meet there.
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    Font - LibraryLover100. 1 day ago Generally, I'd go alone. Weddings and similar are very expensive so I wouldn't put the couple to the expense of paying for dinner for someone I barely know taking the risk that this person cancels at the last minute. Of course if it's a work event and you work for a big company then taking a friend is a good option 7 Reply Share
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    Font - . texasjoker187 - 1 day ago ?age? I don't care if I get a plus 1 on an invite. I'll go, have a good time, and it leaves me free to meet someone rather than being tethered to someone I really don't want to be there with anyways.
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