'You're making money a priority just like my ex did': Divorced man makes girlfriend pay for dinner with his parents

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    Font - X r/AmItheAhole Posted by u/AITAthrow5353 19 hours ago 34 37 AITA for leaving the restaurant before my boyfriend's family arrived after I was told that I was going to pay for their meals? Not the A-hole I (f29) have been dating my boyfriend (m35) 'Ricky' for 5 months. He's divorced but hates this word and goes with the word "divorcee" instead since the first one makes it sound like he was "dumped" when it was him who initiated it.
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    Font - Anyways, He always go on long rants about his exes and say stuff like "I hope you don't have this awful habit my ex has" or "hope you like XYZ cause my ex didn't" and the list goes on. I found a 2nd job recently and he's been having me pay every time we go out. When I protest he'd say he's going through a rough patch and is seeing how much help I cam offer.
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    Font - Last night he invited his family to join us for dinner. We got to the restaurant first. He asked me if I "brought" enough momey, I said why and he told me that he told his parents that I'd pay for their meals. I said why would I and he went on about his parents going through a rough patch just like him. I said "I'm sorry this can't be a coincidence!" he asked what I meant and I told him that I would not be paying. He insisted, I refused and said no. He then leaned back and said "well, you
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    Font - I went home and he called me enraged saying that I did a horrible thing walking out on him and his parents, while I could've just paid. I told him that their unfortunate financial situation isn't my problem and that I wasn't obligated to pay for their food. If they couldn't pay for their meals, then they should not go out. He got offended and said and I qoute "you're making money a priority just like my ex did" then went on about how disrespectful my attitude was and how I made him look s
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    Font - 33ayin 19 hr. ago Partapant [1] 2 44.0k OMG GIRL RUN!!!! This is NOT a man you want or need in your life! Go, go, go and don't look back - like ever!! NTA by a long shot & 30 More Reply Share
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    Font - WrapWorking1500 - 19 hr. ago This cannot be repeated too many times. Reply Share 8.2k Toppercitos 17 hr. ago A hole Enthusiast [5] Yup. THIS MAN DIDN'T INITIATE THE DIVORCE, HE WAS DUMPED. He's clearly not over his ex. You deserve better. Not being the "new love that drives out old love " that's BS, especially when the other person doesn't have anything to offer and is only taking advantage of you emotionally and financially. 9.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Silvinis 17 hr. ago I think its a safe bet he doesn't even have a job, which is why she got a second one, and dudes ex was also tired of his BS. Anyone who feels the need to stress that they were totally the one to leave their ex partner, and not the reverse, is clearly lying about the situation OP, Girl, run far and run fast. Hes a leech and this will not get better. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Annalog 15 hr. ago How much you want to bet that he's ALWAYS been a leech and he expected his ex wife to pay for everything. She probably had enough of this shoand dumped his pathetics. You are NTA OP, your boyfriend is using manipulation tactics on you, he's starting small but it's abusive and you probably aren't the first. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Atheist-KIRA 12 hr. ago Yeah same thing i was gonna say If he is on rough position he need to find a 2nd job like OP he is financially controlling and manupulator 114 Reply Share
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    Font - Low sorryimbooked12. 14 hr. ago Anyone who feels the need to stress that they were totally the one to leave their ex partner, and not the reverse, is clearly lying about the situation this. For years my mom told me that she divorced my dad because he cheated on her with my step mom. I recently found out that my dad divorced my mom because he couldn't deal with all the fighting and her disregard for anyone but herself. (Found out before this that my mom actually cheated on my dad and my ol
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    Font - fuzzypipe39 16 hr. ago I wanna bet my life savings his ex divorced him because he's a relentless mooch that's never lifted a finger in his life to do something. 794 Reply Share
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    Font - pprkkh0107 Parta ipant [2] 17 hr. ago i would literally bet my whole retirement account that he in fact did NOT initiate his last divorce. 597 + Reply Share
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    Font - Lien Seliphra 17 hr. ago Partipant [1]] For real, there are so many red flags here. . 1. he compares you constantly to his exes. This is not healthy for you, your relationship, or him. 2. He is financially abusive by forcing you to pay, and if you don't belittling you. 3. he goes behind your back to arrange payment for his parents meals out of your pocket, and when you put your foot down he turns it into you being the problem here when it is him. This is classic DARVO behaviour. (Deny, At
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    Font - MzQueen 17 hr. ago . 2) He is financially abusive by forcing you to pay, and if you don't belittling you. Absolutely! 98% of all DV victims are also financially abused. From VeryWellMind.com: Sometimes an abuser may use subtle tactics like manipulation while other abusers may be more overt, demanding, and intimidating. [emphasis added] Recognize it now, OP, before you're in too deep! 729 Reply Share
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    Font - FakeOrcaRape 17 hr. ago "you're making money a priority just like my ex did" god this sounds like the someone would talk to a person they were trying to manipulate by any means necessary. this would make me incomprehensibly livid. not that my anger would be incompressible i would just be unable to communicate coherently if someone told me this. Reply Share 2.1k
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    Font - LilDee1812 15 hr. ago S "Since I'm too much like your exes, how about I join them? We're done, and I'M dumping YOU!" 625 Reply Share
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    Font - lollipop-guildmaster · 17 hr. ago Also, when someone you're dating has an entire pantheon of "crazy" exes... well, there's a common variable there. 542 Reply Share
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    Font - Games Cats Comics 19 hr. ago Divorcee vs Divorced - Red Flag Ranting about his ex on repeat - Red Flag Expecting you to pay for everything - Red Flag "Seeing how much help I can offer" - Red Flag Expecting you to pay for his parents, and not warning you ahead of time - Red Flag S Comparing you to an ex because you don't want to pay for his family - Red Flag This dude is full of red flags. it's time to run. NTA. Reply Share 12.8k

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