‘Your Boyfriend Has to Leave, Now’ : Furious Brother Kicks Sister's Disrespectful Boyfriend Out of Holiday Dinner for Being Rude to His Blind Wife

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    Font - Posted by u/Throwawayhelpfulbf 14 hours ago AITA for not defending my bf when my brother asked him to leave My (28F) boyfriend (27M), Ryan, likes to help others. He is the type of guy who would give a coworker money for their rent or buy groceries for our neighbor. However, he can take it too far at times. He often tries to help people without asking if they need or want his help. Every year, my brother (35M), Paul, and his wife (33F), Lily, host a holiday dinner. This year Ryan attended
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    Font - We arrived early so I could help Paul and Lily cook. While we were cooking, Ryan kept telling Lily things, like "Lily, if you're looking for the salt, it's to your right" or "Lily, don't put that there, it's too close to the edge." Lily and Paul both told him that while his commentary was somewhat helpful, it was completely unnecessary. Still, Ryan did not stop. However, things became tense when Lily went to go chop vegetables. When she pulled out a knife, Ryan stopped her and asked if he
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    Font - I asked Ryan to sit down until dinner was ready, but Ryan insisted that he just wanted to help. Finally, Lily asked him and I to help set the table and greet people arriving. We did, but things were still tense. I did pull Ryan to the side and reminded him again to only help Lily if she asked for it. He agreed, but I could tell that he was still upset. Everything finally boiled over after dinner. My nieces (5 & 3) have a game they love to play with their mother. They will hand Lily someth
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    Font - After dinner, the eldest handed Lily the salt shaker. When Lily guessed it was a phone, Ryan piped up and said it was a salt shaker. Lily laughed it off and explained the game to Ryan, but I could see she was annoyed. My niece then handed Lily a coin. When Lily guessed incorrectly, Ryan loudly told Lily it was a coin. This was apparently the last straw for Paul. Paul demanded that Ryan leave since he clearly couldn't respect Lily. Ryan insisted that he was trying to be helpful. However, L
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    Font - Peppermint Mocha5 - 14 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [11] NTA. Ryan didn't deserve to be defended there. I'm sorry, I'm sure you love Ryan but good lord he sounds insufferable. He wasn't being nice. He was being patronizing. Lily neither wanted nor needed his help. He stuck his nose where it didn't belong and he was asked to stop numerous times. I would've kicked him out too. Reply Share 10.5k
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    Font - ISwearIUsed To BeSmart 13 hr. ago It doesn't sound like he wants to be helpful, it sounds like he wants to be the benevolent yet superior being. He wants to feel the gratitude of the "lesser" masses. He can't handle being around a capable person who won't accept his magnanimity. 3.9k Reply Share
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    Font - mrslII 14 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] ΝΤΑ Ryan wasn't helpful at all. He was disrespectful and dismissive. You provided Ryan with information. He ignored it. Ryan is ableist Ryan is an asshole. 5.8k Reply Share GarlicAndSapphire. 12 hr. ago Partassipant [2] OP is the AH if Ryan isn't an ex- boyfriend. 962 Reply Share .…..
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    Font - GarlicAndSapphire 12 hr. ago Partassipant [2] OP is the AH if Ryan isn't an ex- boyfriend. 4962 962 JCBashBash 11 hr. ago Pooperintendant [52] Reply Share Indeed. Tell him that this trade of his is something he should seek help on, and end the relationship Reply Share 196 yougotyolks 3 hr. ago Do you mean "trait"? 50 Reply Share

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