Man Goes to Reddit Asking If He’s An AH for Asking to be Paid for Babysitting His Own Daughter, Gets Roasted for Pushing Wife Into the Arms of Their Neighbour

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Noga Jacobi
Jan 15, 2023 5:00 PM EST

If there's one thing Redditors hate, it's parents that call taking care of their children "babysitting". If you ever take a childcare issue to Reddit and refer to it as babysitting, you're in for a roasting.

And when you "babysit" your child so another man can take your wife out to the movies and fancy dinners instead of you? Prepare to be incinerated.

Such was the case of OP, who wondered if he was the a$$hole for asking to be paid to watch his daughter and the neighbor's daughters while the neighbor showed his wife a good time.

The initial reason for the neighbor and wife hanging out made sense—OP's wife loves horror films, OP can't stand them, the neighbor enjoys them as well. But when the neighbor upped his game and started taking the wife out for fancy dinners and paying for them, OP should have set a hard boundary.

Instead, OP used this as an excuse to absolve himself of any couple activities since going out with said neighbor kept his wife fully satisfied (we, and every commentator on this post, bet she is).

OP has been met with a barrage of criticism and a few raised eyebrows, and a unanimous YTA vote.

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  • 01

    Not off to a good start

    AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter?
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  • 02

    We already see where this is going...

    My (39M) wife (34F) and I live in at a suburban house with our daughter (10F, Emily). Our neighbour next door (48M, Walter) is a single father with two daughters (14F and 12F). We have been living here for a little more than two years.
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  • 03

    Sounds legit so far

    My wife likes watching scary movies but I don't enjoy them. I get too scared and end up having a bad time so I prefer to avoid them. Her friends go with her to the more popular ones but she also likes older, indies and foreign horror movies. She has always had a hard time finding people that have this niche interest when we met Walter and found out he also shares this tendency. They very quickly started to make plans to watch movies together. I was invited to be a part of this but refused.
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  • 04

    Starting to get a bit suspicious here...

    I prefer to just stay at home babysitting Emily and Walter's daughter while they are in their cinephile reunions. Sometimes they go to movie theaters but other times they just stay at Walter's place watching stuf at his home cinema. They usually have to go to another town in order to catch a specific function of some weird movie so it is normal for them to come back very late.
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  • 05

    Oh, you did not just say that!

    They eventually started doing stuff outside of watching movies. Walter invited all of us, including the kids, but I said no because it was too expensive. I don't like that kind of places because I feel they are a waste of money and didn't think the kids would enjoy it either. I insisted on staying with the kids and let the two of them go be themselves. This has became a regular thing and it is in a way a good deal because Walter pays and she can't complain I don't take her to fancy restaurants.
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  • 06

    He just called his own kid a burden?????

    As their movie and dinner nights had became so common, I have grown a little tired of the burden of babysitting. I talk to my wife and Walter about it and he explained that he does not like leaving his duaghters with babysitters. He is comfortable knowing that they are being watched by an experienced father like me instead of some teenage girl. He nevertheless agreed that it was too much of a load for me and offered to pay me a standard babysitter fee each time he goes out with my wife.
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  • 07

    I mean, technically you are nothing but a babysitter at this point

    I thought that was a fair approach to the issue but my wife was fully against it. She says I should not be paid for babysitting my own daughter nor the daughters of a close friend of our family like Walter. We have been arguing about this but she insists on this notion and it not open to change. She even gets mad every time I talk to her about this. Walter promised me that he will convince her but he does not seem to have been able to do so either. Am I the Asshole?
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  • 08
    Your wife is dating your neighbor and you think he should pay you?
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  • 09
    YTA for several reasons, two of which are calling taking care of your own kid "babysitting" and not really caring about your marriage. Don't be surprised if your wife ends up leaving you for Walter, if they're not already having an affair...
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  • 10
    I have to assume that my dude has a cuckolding fetish--he is doing EVERYTHING HE POSSIBLY CAN to get his wife to sleep with Walter.
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  • 11
    Yeah, it seems like he doesn't want to date his wife anymore and is pushing that portion of his relationship off to a guy who...buys her fancy dinners and takes her to things she wants to go to and who tries to invite their kids along as well. Eventually you have to figure this will all make his wife realize what he isn't giving her.
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  • 12
    I'm waiting for a big horror movie festival in a different town that wife and Walter will be gone for the weekend
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  • 13
    THEY DEFINITELY ARE HAVING AN AFFAIR 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 HOW IS THIS GUY SO BLIND 😭😭
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  • 14
    At minimum this reads like an emotional affair with the husband being "thank fuck I don't have to pay attention to my wife anymore".
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  • 15
    This reads exactly like a scenario that happened to me in college. Roommate was constantly annoyed by his gf (she was also on campus). She’s call him at night to talk, he’d get bored and hand me the phone. Fast forward a couple months she broke up with him to date me. We ended up dating 4 years. He was soooo livid with me. I’m like dude, you literally threw her at me.
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