'Dating is hard': Bumble Reddit thread discuses when it is time to quit the dating apps

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    Product - WOR Modern Love Find Romance Teder Le mory FREE Posted by u/Stylinson-Shines 1 day ago When to Give Up on Dating Apps
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    Font - I have had many bad dates on dating apps. Either someone just looking for hookups or having no chemistry, or being drugged / SA. I have had a couple of dates this year where the guys said they were looking for a relationship and both had gotten out of long term relationships 6+ months ago. Both dates went well with the guy (not me) choosing to extend the date. One we met for coffee and then a walk but ended up doing dinner, too.
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    Font - The other we met for drinks and he extended it to a club and then we went for breakfast the next morning. Then he added me on every social profile and we texted for a few days. Both cases, less than a week later they stopped responding and basically said they can't trust people because of their past relationships
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    Font - blah blah blah I'm getting a bit sick of putting in so much effort and getting scraps Does anyone else relate to this? Edit: i want to add too, that i am not excessively clingy. i texted them during conversations and if they'd messaged good morning first a couple of days in a row, i would message the third day. but i don't bombard with messages and attention bc i know that can scare people off
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    Font - Therocksays2020 - 1 day ago If it starts hurting your mental health it's time to go. Most connections online go nowhere. You have to really be in it for the long haul to get traction.
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    Font - Yeah and some people will be on them for years and never meet someone they have a serious relationship with. That's what these apps don they sell hope but ultimately need people to stay on them a long time
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    Font - Cautious-Syrup-3881 18 hr. ago Some people will never meet people without apps. You can meet losers in person, too.
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    Font - Brandwein 15 hr. ago People in RL be like "Have you tried apps?" People on reddit be like "Have you tried real life?"
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    Font - angryphoton 19 hr. ago . I met my (now) wife on Tinder after several years on dating apps. She said she didn't want anything serious. I didn't push it- now we are two months away from meeting our baby boy.
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    Font - I spent several years feeling unwanted, alone, and many women made me feel like a creep, though I wasn't. I felt taken advantage of. My mental health was spiraling and I was starting to hurt people close to me. I would get dates. I actually got very many. Mostly women just looking for free dinners. In the beginning I was convinced there was some unseen reason women weren't into me. I eventually started to believe I just wasn't wanted, and started to plan my life to be single.
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    Font - This is going to sound cliche- I got off the apps, spent about 6 months getting fit, doing all kinds of new activities and updating my style (what's inside matters most, but people like a pretty wrapper, I guess). I got back on Tinder, with some rules for myself.
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    Font - Only swipe at peak times, for 2 hours a day max. Be open to age and distance ranges (don't be too picky). If they didn't respond in 24 hours, unmatch. If I wasn't excited at the prospect of getting to know them, both in a platonic AND ~romantic~ sense, swipe left. My wife and I set up a date and I had only one other match at the time. Best date of my entire life.
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    Font - Sorry for the ramble. It's rough out there - protect your wellness, make rules for yourself, and unfortunately, then it's just time.
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    Font - Stylinson-Shines OP. 19 hr. ago. edited 18 hr. ago I may purge for a few months and see how things are going i am already pretty active and have a decent social life but maybe if i am forced to talk to people i don't know in public and put myself out there it'll work! thanks for the perspective! glad it worked for you
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    Font - HandHoldingClub - 23 hr. ago I gave up about 9 months ago now and have gone on WAY more dates without the apps than with the apps. I realized I needed to just man up and go flirt with women in real life and I have the social awareness to realize if they are reciprocating or not interested and so rejection hasn't really even been a thing tbh. Also instagram has gotten me like 3 successful dates that went well. Reply to a story see if they reply back and then send something interesting and
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    Font - RelixtheUnderGod 17 hr. ago Precisely- I do much better IRL than on apps. I keep forgetting people were meeting and making connections centuries before these apps and doing JUST fine. I think it's time to ditch the apps for good!
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    Font - Med_stromtrooper - 21 hr. ago 43m, tried a few dating aps over a two- year span and like other commenters here, I flat gave up. So many rude/selfish people on dating sites, its gross. I kick around the idea of giving Bumble or Hinge a whirl, see lots of positive commentary for both. Then I remember being strung along for a free dinner, ghosted at random, stood up at the last minute, and so many one-date-wonders with women who just cannot put down their phone.
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    Plant - And I say, 'to hell with it.' When it's more work than work, and it causes more anxiety/stress than work, the aps gotta go. That's really what stops me from even trying new aps these days.
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    Font - tracyak13 22 hr. ago Definitely relate to this. Since September I've dated someone that led me on and lied to me about wanting a relationship, went on a couple dates with another guy who tried to force himself me and I had to physically fight him off, and then a bunch of others who appear chill and like they're investing time into getting to know me and then disappear. It's honestly so annoying and it'll last anywhere between a few days to a few weeks and then they just ghost. I think the
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    Font - I am only using BumbleBFF for the time being. Spring is here and the sun is out again. I'm tired of going on dating app dates. Maybe I'll meet someone while I'm out and about.
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    Font - Ascarx 20 hr. ago It's tough. I went on more than 30 first dates over a bit less than a year until I found my now girlfriend about 6 months ago. Best relationship I had so far, really based on compatibility. I can relate to this a lot. What really changed things for me was going in with less expectations and more enjoying the process. Picking fun dates I wanted to do (visiting lakes, going bouldering, playing pool, visiting a museum I wanted to go to for a while) instead of coffee/dinner

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