'I'd rather be a groomswoman' : Woman Complains About Being Selected as a Bridesmaid Because She’s Best Friends With the Groom, Not the Bride

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    Organism - Posted by u/Affectionate_Bus6032 23 hours ago 2 AITA for accepting to be a bridesmaid?
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    Font - My (25f) best friend Mark (25m) is getting married to his fiancée Natalie (25f) in August. Natalie asked me to be her bridesmaid two months ago and I gracefully accepted although I was
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    Font - kind of bothered Mark didn't ask me to be a groomswoman but I didn't voice it to them because I didn't want Natalie to get mad at me.
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    Font - Anyway the past few weeks we've been going bridesmaids dress and shoes shopping until the bride finds something she likes for us. She said we can
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    Font - pick the style of the dress as long as it is long and in lilac color. I don't like any of the stuff I try on since I never wear dresses and I've never worn high heels either. All bridesmaids found their dress and shoes except me.
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    Font - Natalie has been personally assisting me in order to find the right fit yet I don't like anything. After looking up I decided to ask her if I could wear some platform shoes I have and a lilac tube top with wide tailored pants.
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    Font - She asked to see the look and seemed to consider it at first but then changed the mind and said no. Dress and high heels. She said my look looks like a corporate/office look not a bridesmaid one.
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    Font - I explained to her that I hate wearing dresses and high heels and idk why I should have to.
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    Font - She said that I knew her requirements for the bridesmaids since day one and if I was uncomfortable with those requirements why did I accept on being a bridesmaid in the first place.
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    Font - I told her I'd rather be a grooms woman instead and not a bridesmaid since I'm not into girly things and after all Mark is my best friend, not her.
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    Font - She took great offense to it and told mark and mark got into an argument with me and said that I owe Natalie an apology and how they're not doing groomswomen and he tried to convince Natalie to take her as a bridesmaid to feel included yet I insulted Natalie with my words and behavior. AITA?
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    Font - Diamond Heist1970 · 23 hr. ago • edited 9 hr. ago ● Colo-rectal Surgeon [35] Oh wow. By the sounds of it she was very very patient with you. You do realise this isn't about you? She's letting you pick and choose a dress and you couldn't - suck it up buttercup.
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    Font - Edited to add: I've been told by many to add a judgement. OP - YTA Many thanks for all the upvotes. 4 40.1k Reply
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    Font - The_Death_Flower 19 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] Honestly, the fact that the bride lets them choose the dress is very generous, so many bridal party just have the ride choose the dress and you can like it or leave it. OP is very much wanting to make this about her and how she's "one of the guys" Reply Share 11.0k
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    Font - TripsOverCarpet · 18 hr. ago Partassipant [2] My worse ever bridesmaid dress was an early 90's Southern Belle style dress complete with a big hat and gloves... in Hot Pink. I have red hair. I was not Pretty in Pink. Like you, I wore it with a smile on my face. 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - OwlBig3482 18 hr. ago YTA OP. ● The groom already told you flat out HE asked for you to be included, you weren't her pick. Natalie has already been more than patient with somebody she didn't even initially include in her bridal party. She couldn't ask
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    Font - somebody else important to her to stand up with her at her own wedding because her fiancé asked for you to be included and you can't suck it up for one lousy day? Grow up. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - blarryg 15 hr. ago Exactly. People don't realize that you can lose a lifetime friendship because "wah, I don't like the color". Who fricking cares!? It's a role, like in a play, play the role, play it well and continue having friends.

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