‘My boss has been ignoring me since I quit’: Woman rethinks her two-week notice at work

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Stephanie Harper
Jun 24, 2023 10:00 AM EDT

What would you do if your boss start ignoring you at work after you handed in your two-week notice? As uncomfortable as this scenario sounds, one Redditor is actually living it. She tendered her resignation and hasn't felt like things have been hunky-dory ever since. Leaving your current job for another opportunity might be beneficial to you, but it isn't always good news for your former employer. Still, no one deserves to be ignored for choosing to walk away from a position. 

The woman explained that she actually deeply cares about her boss and that she has loads of respect for him. He hired her when she was at the junior level and spent time training her up. He advocated for her and helped her receive promotions that made significant differences in her life. Throughout her time working with him, they always got along well. Now that she's leaving the position, though, it seems he doesn't want anything to do with her anymore.

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    Output device - My boss was so callous and short. Normally he's very calm...
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    Font - Posted by u/Addysellout 11 days ago 2 Boss has been ignoring me after resignation and took it poorly
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    Font - My boss is someone whom I dearly respect and care about, he hired me on 3 years ago as a junior and trained me. Over the years he's advocated for me and my promotions. We've always have had a great relationship and stuck around when things were extremely tough consistently.
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    Font - After receiving a better job opportunity, I had to take it no brainer for my career. Although a big part of me wanted to stay. I gave a month notice knowing fully well that we are severely understaffed. But instead was told by my manager that my boss suggested I just wfh till my last day and do 2 weeks or until admin tasks are done.
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    Font - Great, so he's been ignoring me, obviously avoiding seeing me at all despite my attempts asking if we could grab a coffee next week. Definitely got the message, so I told my manager I'll be out and done 5 days after notice.
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    Font - My boss continues to ignore me all week up until Friday and finally called. His voice sounds wounded and begins telling me how he's so disappointed... but ultimately happy for me. He then starts asking obvious questions while being very short. He just sounded so off and out of character, clearly he was a forcing himself small talk. His voice got
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    Font - progressively more unstable to which I can hear him choking up on words. Of course I start getting all emotional just from hearing the pain in his voice. And now I'm struggling to explain how hard this decision was feeling guilty and about to burst into tears. The call lasted only 3 mins before getting awkward at the end as neither of us could properly speak while trying to keep our composure.
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    Font - He was so callous and short. Normally he's very calm, kind, rational and soft spoken. I expected irritation, anger, maybe a little manipulation or even being cold and scripted. But this caught me off guard and just seems way too sad..
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    Font - Sad disappointments hurt way more than angry disappointments. Ultimately he shouldn't have taken this personally and I shouldn't be either. I knew this was going to be tough, but not hurt like this wtf.
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    Font - We work in a tight knit industry so we'll cross paths sooner or later.. I just don't want to end on a sour note or like making people sad Am I better off doing nothing and dipping early? Should I send heartfelt appreciation email my last day?
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    Font - Ok_Wealth3098 · 11 days ago Yes this absolutely. I had a boss that was super disappointed as well as my entire team. They were all emotional my last two weeks. We're still friends and he didn't ignore me but was definitely bummed
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    Font - knightofterror 11 days ago Second this. This is probably a boss who, once he gets over it, will probably be the reference that says you were the best employee he's ever had. 426 Reply Share
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    Font - Ok_Wealth3098 11 days ago Oh ya we stay in touch and talk all the time. He did write me an amazing reference and the day before I started my new job he asked for my new managers emails and he sent them an email telling them that they were lucky to have me and how great I was. Pretty awesome way to start a new job
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    Font - muskratboy 10 days ago I'd have a lot of trouble moving on from them being "disappointed in me." Changing jobs is not a moral failing. There is no betrayal happening. WTF do they have to be disappointed in me about? Reply Share 1
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    Font - exscapegoat 11 days ago Seconding this. I've almost always highlighted something positive about my bosses and the opportunities they gave me. One was unhappy I left, but got over it and we're friends now. 6 Reply Share
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    Font - so-very-very-tired 11 days ago There sounds like a real emotional connection between you two. This is more than purely professional and there appears to be genuine feelings involved (not saying 'creepy' feelings...just genuine respect/friendship type things).
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    Font - Sounds like your boss is also a friend and they're taking this a bit hard. They shouldn't, but they are. I think they'll get over it too, eventually. I do think sending a heartfelt appreciation of some sort would be a good idea. A handwrittenletter might mean a lot. Reply Share 231
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    Font - AbsentMinded Nerd 11 days ago I had a somewhat similar experience. Once the dust settled I wrote the most heartfelt public recommendation I could muster on LinkedIn. It took him 2 months to notice but then he called me immediately to tell me how much he appreciated it and asked to go to lunch.
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    Font - Rough-Rider 11 days ago · We're all humans. No one wants to lose a good friend. Especially when that friend is around for the skitter (aka working) parts of life. You made the right move. But don't forget about the ones that brought ya.
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    Font - Loop_di 11 days ago We're all just humans here. He had a human reaction to you leaving. That is not something you have to help him with. You're not responsible for other people's feelings. It sounds like after he has some time to grieve you might have a lifetime mentor to help guide your career! Take advantage of his investment, you might need his help down the line.
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    Font - Timtherobot 11 days ago I had someone who I hired and who worked for me for the better part of 15 years, and was manager a key team resign unexpectedly. I understood his reasons for leaving (startup, different role) and was happy and hopeful for him. As he was leaving he sent me a letter thank me for the opportunities and mentoring. It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me as a manager.
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    Font - XediDC 11 days ago Yeah...it's human and rational. But I do wish more managers would prepare themselves for this. In business if you really want the best for your people you should also be proud and happy for the person having success. And that's the part one should show when getting the news... it's our job to deal with the aftermath, not theirs.
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    Font - SuperSassyPantz 11 days ago ● u never know what is happening in someone's life. he may be having an all-around bad week/month/year, and perhaps the thought of losing a friend/coworker and having an additional workload when its already unbearable just broke him.
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    Font - davmoha 11 days ago Your boss is deeply hurt to lose you as an employee and as a friend. It's hard to say how people react in these situations. He may be trying to distance himself so that he can cope. It's not personal at all. He just is overwhelmed. Perhaps write him a nice thank you card.
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    Font - chair_caner 11 days ago Sounds like he's overwhelmed for sure. And disappointed. After all he's invested in OP, it just didn't work. I lost most of my department before and during Covid, and we've been having trouble getting out of the training loop with new hires. The average employee stays only 2 years despite promotions and raises and growth. Losing one person you've invested so much in feels like such a failure as a manager.
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    Font - leo_99 11 days ago edited 11 days ago He is an adult man and needs to be able to manage his feelings about it. I feel for him, you were obviously a valued employee, but a good leader/mentor should ultimately want the best for you. I left my last job for a much more prestigious opportunity, and my manager told me he would have been mad if I hadn't accepted the offer. I think it's a bit uncalled for take it so personally
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