Update: 'We are taking a break.': Wife beats insecure husband on online IQ test, it ends their relationship

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    The original thread

    Font - My husband is mad that I have a higher IQ and he says that he is not attracted to me anymore. As the title says. He came home one day and gave me login's to some iq test and I scored higher than him. First he was in disbelief then a bit sulky. I thought the whole thing was stupid and I never thought or experienced that I'm "smarter" and I never understood the logic of these tests.
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    Font - Anyway since then he has changed. He doesn't want to cuddle or kiss me or anything. Last Saturday we attended a birthday party for my little nephew and my husband spent the evening chatting up my SIL's sister who is very pretty. When we got home I just had it up to here with him and started crying because he ignored me for alt least three weeks and now he is flirting with other people. He denied everything. He denied being changed with me since the test but I wasn't backing down this time
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    Font - He finally admitted that he was turned off by the fact and wasn't attracted to me. I asked him if he still wasn't attracted to me and why? I haven't changed. I'm still me. He apologized and said that he would put his shit together and that he knows how silly this is. But he has been "wary" around me since. I still think he is turned off by me. What can I do now?
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    Font - kathryn_sedai I mean, this behaviour really isn't showing him as an intelligent person. Yikes. 2.5k 708 Reply Share Zealousideal-Feed156 Right? OP was always the same amount of smart and it never bothered him until he had "data" that proved she's smarter than him. Not a thing about her has changed. Also he sounds like a misogynist. Reply Share ... 373 mouse9001 His tiny monkey brain probably can't even process the misogyny. Reply Share
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    Font - OhHonaayyno I can almost guarantee you if his came out to be higher than yours he would rub it in your face, and probably try to make you feel "dumb" about things. Reply Share 2.1k ResponsibleLunch4261 I mean, this was probably his intention in making her take it... Reply Share 837 Jollycondane 100 184 Reply Share Soft-Sandwich5341 OP 481 I would literally not have cared if he was smarter. I expected the same attitude Reply Share ... ...
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    Font - Significant_Cat_3 Honestly if he's this hung up on an online iq test, I probably wouldn't be attracted to him much either. For one, tbh this whole thing is trivial and he's dragging it out. Secondly, to me this is a red flag, he views someone smart as unattractive. Then he flirts with someone else right in front of you. You should find someone smarter, who also treats you better. Edit: I've been getting a few comments about how splitting is a bad take here....but honestly how do you come
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    Font - jolene401 I hate to be this person but I couldn't trust him anymore. Seriously, he was flirting with someone right in front of you because he's mad that you're smarter than him. That's disgusting behavior. If you want it to work out then couples counseling is a must, but really ask yourself if you are attracted to him after his behavior. My spiteful ass could never put up with some of the men on this app. 4.2k Reply Share earthgarden Is it spiteful to reject a disrespectful, stupid man th
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    Font - DopeCactus Almost always internet IQ tests are bullshit, but that doesn't negate the fact that you scored higher than him on a test. He's being a baby and it honestly sounds like he believes that women are inferior. 1.4k Reply Share
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    The update

    Font - My husband isn't attracted to me because I am "smarter" than him: We are taking a break. We are taking a break. (Please read my first post if you don't remember me) So I told my husband that I have had enough. He has obviously had a change of heart and I'm not gonna be there to witness him falling out of love with me. The mere thought is painful. He called me drama and and said that while his reaction was bitter and stupid I'm taking a huge leap in the wrong direction since he already ack
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    Font - I told him that it wasn't true. He is still avoiding me like I am a leper. I also asked to see his phone. He has been talking a bit too friendly to a co worker. It started immediately after this whole test thing, like he was determined to hurt me or I don't know what he was trying to accomplish otherwise. In one of the texts he complained that I was neglectful and full of myself. How ironic to pretend that I'm the neglectful one when he has not even kissed my cheek in over a month. I felt
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    Font - This morning he texted me that he loved me and that he was sorry. He didn't know what he was trying to prove to me or to himself but that he loves me and finds me very attractive. I call bullshit honestly. He is been so cold with me flirting with everyone that looked his way and now he is all loving and affectionate? He wants us to try therapy and he suggested that he needed to work on his insecurities with a therapist too. We have a daughter together who's is 8 months old that we love mo
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    Font - Significant_Cat_3 Glad to read this update! Good for you. Honestly he does need therapy. Alone. As someone else suggested on the last post. You're not the problem here. If you really want to you could talk to a therapist to work out your feelings on the situation or for closure. If it takes you leaving for him to realize what he had, he likely never deserved it in the first place. 804 Reply Share 95 ... AillyMay97 I like to take therapy with the person (even if I still plan to leave) sinc
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    Font - hyemae He's insecure and is trying to look for others to boost his confidence. You deserve so much more. Not a man who feel threatened by your intelligence. If anything, he should be proud of what he has. Since he cannot be that way, it just shows how self absorbed he is. Reply Share 1.8k Soft-Sandwich 5341 OP This is all true. 633 Reply Share
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    Font - anxious_annie416 I'm too intelligent to put up with this. YES YOU ARE. Don't look back girl, especially for the sake of your baby. She deserves to grow up in an environment where intelligent women are prized, not treated the way your misogynistic ass of a husband has been treating you. Reply Share 1.1k

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