‘I can’t believe you bought my pregnant gf a lace nightie’: At the Baby Shower for His Pregnant Gf, a Risque Gift From One of His Friends Causes Strife Between Them

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    Posted by u/Stock-Boysenberry475 16 hours ago AITA for buying a pajama to my friend's girlfriend? ||
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    I (m26) live with my friend (m26) we're roommates. Last year his girlfriend (f24) moved in with us. I'd say that during this time me and her have also become good friends as well, the three of us have a good friendship and we don't have major issues with our living situation.
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    So, the thing is that she is pregnant now, she's seven months along now. She had her baby shower yesterday. Last week I went to a baby store to buy a gift for the baby, There were a lot of cute clothes and things, not just for babies but also maternity clothes/ pillows and stuff like that. So I bought a gift for the baby and
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    I saw a cute nightie that's pink and has some lace around the edges, you know. I thought it was cute because in the front it has a drawing of a baby sleeping on a cloud and says "shh, baby's sleeping", I don't know, I saw it and I thought it was something cute, so I bought that as well to gift it to her.
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    I gift it to her at the baby shower, not big deal. She made a joke about "modeling" the pajama for me the next morning while she's making cereal for breakfast. At the time my friend laughed as well, he also agreed that the drawing was cute.
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    However, yesterday he told me I was kind of off for gifting his girlfriend " lingerie", I mean the dress does have some lace on it and it's short, but that's not why I bought it, I got it for her because I thought it was cute, just that. He said that's fair but that it was weird that it had such a "deep neckline" like I want to see her ... I told him what the lady at the store told
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    me, that it was like that to make breastfeeding more accessible. Still he was upset and told me that I'm overstepping boundaries, he's upset with me. My theory is that maybe someone else (maybe someone from his family?) May have told him something, like implied that I'm
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    trying to steal his girl or something. But almost everyone is saying that I'm in the wrong here? Is that really so? Edit: since people asked I found this photo online of a similar dress
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    The one I bought was like this one but pink and with the drawing on the front, also I don't know what the fabric is in this one but the one I got was cotton
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    beanboi34 edited 14 hr. ago 15 hr. ago. If it didn't have the baby drawing on you would be, but I'm going with NTA because I think its crazy that something with A PICTURE OF A BABY on it could be considered It's obvious it's just a silly
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    little gift, almost a gag gift honestly. And it doesn't seem like the girlfriend was uncomfortable at all either. I'm thinking boyfriend is maybe getting jealous of your friendship with girlfriend, I'll admit her little "I'll model it for you" comment would've
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    you" comment would've made me uncomfortable if I was the boyfriend. Edit: the picture wasn't there when I originally commented. I'm still going with NTA purely because there's a baby on it, but thats getting pretty close to the line of being
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    to the line of being inappropriate. I can understand why boyfriend was upset.
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    Stock-Boysenberry475 OP. 15 hr. ago She wasn't uncomfortable and she isn't now either I think ✪ I honestly wouldn't imagine anything less " than that but I don't know what my friend might be thinking
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    designated throwawayy 14 hr. ago I think their point is that her comment may have made your roommate uncomfortable. Usually when someone says they're going to "model"
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    something for you, it means they intend to dress up or look cute for you. His concern is warranted after that comment, but his issue is with her, not you. You're just the easier person to confront about it.
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    KayCeeBayBeee. 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] yeah for me its two separate things that are "slightly grey area" and the combination does make it naturally upsetting to the boyfriend.
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    The garment itself lingerie" isn't " but it's not exactly a onesie or a t shirt either. Outside of the "baby shower gift" context you'd just never buy a friend's SO that kinda nightie, ever.
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    And the "model it for you" joke is like, normal in that it's typical to make a point to wear the clothes someone bought from you would them. If it's a hat, no issue, but it's a nightie
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    PowHound07. 13 hr. ago In this context though, they all live together and I'm guessing it's not unusual for them to eat breakfast together in pajamas. OP is going to see
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    her in the nightie whether she makes a point of "modelling" it or not, I think that's the joke. I've lived with a friend and his wife before and seeing her in a nightie or even
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    nothing but a towel was never a problem because no one sexualized the situation like the boyfriend is doing here.
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    velvety_chaos. 14 hr. ago The nightgown was borderline inappropriate, although if it really is a PP gown that makes sense. Either way, you seem sincere, and it was really the girlfriend's comment that sent the whole thing over the edge. So either
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    she's not self-aware enough to realize the inappropriateness of her response, she truly is tryin to flirt with you, or the roommate/boyfriend is not being very attentive in her pregnant state and she was feeling kind of unattractive until she
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    received a thoughtful gift from you. I could see that happening, too, in which case the roommate would be an A.H. - mostly for projecting his grievances at you instead of at his girlfriend.
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    I'm hesitant to automatically say the girlfriend is the A.H. in this situation, simply because without more information about her, we don't really know if she meant to be flirty and/or inappropriate with her comment. I say this because growing up,
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    anytime I received an article of clothing from a family member, I was encouraged to wear it the next time I saw them, or "model" it right after they gave it to me, in a polite display of thanks for the gift. Obviously, this wasn't the case if I was gifted
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    pajamas, but still, I'm not going to automatically assume the gf meant any harm. Either way, OP is NTA, girlfriend is maybe an A.H., bf/roommate is definitely an A.H.
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    Doglover_7675 - 13 hr. ago You should buy her a MASSIVE soft cozy robe and give it to your friend. Tell him she can wear that around the house if he's concerned lol

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