‘You don’t even care that I’m divorcing you’: Man Decides to Leave Wife for His Co-worker, Throws a Fit When His Wife Doesn’t Fight For Him

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 9, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

This is when things get really juicy. The audacious men (and women) in the world have always impressed us, entertained us, made us laugh with their mirth and tactlessness. Impressive in the sense that it's extraordinary how they believe they're ought to be treated, and the treatment they give in return to others. 

Imagine the daftness and lack of respect it takes to not only leave your partner for someone else so cruelly and abruptly, but then to flounder in the wake of their agreement and passiveness. What is this game they're trying to play? There's love, and then there's a myriad of sabotaging and disturbing qualities that feign to be love. Unfortunately for humans, love doesn't stop someone from misbehaving, it doesn't lend itself to speak first in times of pain, and it can be overshadowed by doubt, revenge, suffering, or mental illness. But at least we can gawk at some people's behaviors, as long as it's not to our expense.

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    r/TrueOffMyChest 11 hr. ago ThrowRACalmincrisis I didn't react enough to my husband asking for a divorce out of the blue and now he's mad
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    I, 26F, was served with divorce papers by my husband, 27M, about a month ago. I read them over and asked why, he told me he was in love with somebody else, his co-worker, and wanted to marry her. I said ok and began the process of moving out. I own a rental property that operates as an AirBNB-like vacation home and began the process of moving there. I took all my things, including things I paid for by myself, like all of our
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    gaming consoles. I also spoke to one of my colleagues, 38M, about having him. represent me, I'm a clerk at a law firm, he has agreed and we have moved forward preparing for the divorce. My husband contacted me a couple of weeks ago, angry that I had taken all of my things and moved out. He was even more angry that I didn't have any emotional response and didn't "fight for
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    him." I explained that there was no use throwing a tantrum about divorce and that I take time to process things. He dismissed me as being cold and unfeeling and said some hurtful things about me, including insulting my appearance, the way I dress and my hobbies. I took screenshots and sent them to my colleague.
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    We had our first hearing a few days ago and my STBX husband decided to represent himself. After the hearing he flipped out on me again and demanded why I had become my colleague's client. I told him that I believed my colleague would fight for me and I trusted him. My STBX was very upset and demanded to know why I had chosen an "Attractive male" to represent me and asked if I was cheating on him with my attorney. I told
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    him I wasn't sleeping with my colleague and that it was kind of insulting to accuse me of sleeping with somebody else when he was leaving me for one of his co-workers. He called me a "fat " (I'm chubby but at a healthy weight) and said I was probably paying for my attorney with
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    I feel really upset and needed to get my feelings off of my chest. I'm glad I followed through with divorcing him, even though he seems to have somewhat changed his mind about leaving me.
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    Cocoa AlmondsRock • 11h ago Dear Lord, what a man-baby. So much projection, so many tantrums. You kick , and I adore your shiny spine. I know this is horribly painful, but you are dealing with it like an adult and making intelligent decisions.
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    Pat yourself on the back for how you've handled this, but also take time to speak with a therapist and feel those emotions. Divorce sucks. Cheating spouses who throw man- baby tantrums suck even worse. Be kind to yourself!
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    Fredredphooey •10h ago Cheaters always think that everyone else is cheating, too. He's insulting you because you're not sobbing and begging him to stay, which is a blow to his fragile ego. Cheaters are cheating in part because they want lots of validation that they're irresistible so to have you take him at his word destroys the fantasy he had that you wouldn't be able to
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    live without him. Write down everything he's said and save the texts and voice mail so can get a better settlement and a restraining order if he escalates his behavior. I would tell him that he can't speak to you directly anymore and to go through your lawyer since all he
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    through your lawyer since all he wants to do is sprew lies and insults that you don't have to listen to. Congratulations on the divorce because he would certainly have made your life worse eventually.
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    rosebud... • 10h ago ⚫ Edited 10h ago OP I would suggest that all correspondence to your STBX goes through your lawyer. He is an awful man who is so intent on hurting you. Don't give him an opportunity to talk to you privately. He is an AH.
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    Wishing you all the best moving forward and with your healing. Live your best life.
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    AllInkalicious • 10h ago I cannot wish you enough speed to get through this process. And I sincerely hope you're safe and never need to deal with this POS ever again. Send your colleague's business card to his AP.
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    ...No, wait. She certainly deserves what she's getting.
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    zopiclone 10h ago I bet his coworker has turned him down. By the way, you have done absolutely the right thing! Enjoy your new found freedom!
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    Specialist_Chart506 • 10h ago Base on your STBX's reaction, I'm guessing he's more upset about the gaming consoles than the actual divorce. He's lashing out because he wanted a confrontation to make himself feel like THE prize. Instead he was left without a story to tell his AP.
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    Be comforted in the fact you have peace of mind without this cheating man child in your life. I hope you have a wonderful life without him!
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    JustSleepNoDream ⚫ 11h ago You may need a restraining order in addition to a divorce. This guy is not mentally well and seems intent on hurting you throughout this process. He has a lot of soul searching to do on his own if he ever hopes to be a better person. I would block all communication after informing him that I hope he
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    after informing him that I hope he learns someday to treat people with respect.
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    CherryGhost1234 • 10h ago What a tool. He leaves you for someone else and then gets mad that you don't scream and cry for him, not because he would consider changing his mind, but because he wanted the ego boost. I agree with other posts, send everything he texts to your attorney and don't respond.
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