Entitled mother-in-law brings uninvited guests to bride's wedding, sabotages photographs: 'Husband taking [his] crazy family's side is a huge red flag':

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Apr 9, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

It's remarkable how common it is for the parents of the bride and groom to think the entire wedding is about them. Of course, if they contributed to the event financially or emotionally, of course, they deserve a voice. However, even parents who pay for an entire wedding should understand that they are not going to be the center of attention the entire time.

This entitled mother-in-law didn't even contribute a dime, and yet she still felt the need to stir the pot and cause a scene. First, she requested that she stay with the bride and groom the weekend of the wedding. Then, when that weekend finally arrived, she showed up with extended family members who were not invited to the ceremony (it was supposed to be an immediate family-only affair). Then, she made the entire day about herself and ended up sabotaging photographs and calling up the groom's uninvited cousin to cause more drama. 

Unfortunately, the Redditor's story only gets worse when her new husband got mad at her for expressing her frustration about her mother-in-law's behavior to her friends in confidence. It's an understatement that this marriage started off on the wrong foot.

Keep scrolling below for the full story. For more, check out this post about another entitled Karen.

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    AITA for telling everyone how MIL acted at our wedding? Throw away, husband on Reddit. I (26F) got married to Jack (26M) in august. We have been together since we were 15.
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    Jack and I decided to have an immediate family only wedding. It was extremely small, my dad and brother, his parents and sister/husband. My dad paid for everything.
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    MIL/FIL ask if they can stay with us the week of the wedding, we say sure. They show up and they brought MIL sister, husband and niece (14).
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    The 5 of them are in the entry of the house and expect to stay with us this week. I'm annoyed, especially since they weren't invited? but I say nothing. MIL walks right past me then turns to me and asks if we invited Jacks cousin, we will call her Jane. I tell her no, we just invited you guys and my family. The reason Jane is not invited is because she's drama, wore white to Jacks sisters wedding and made a scene.
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    The day before the wedding, I get up and notice my car is missing, I had last minute things to get, turns our MIL helped herself to it, so she can go shopping at the mall. I call Jack, he calls his mom, she returns the car 4 hours later.. The mall is 15 minutes away from our house.
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    I was able to get everything I needed and head home. When I get home, Jack pulls me aside and tells me MIL yelled at him for having a camera in the house. We have a camera facing the back door, we check it to make sure the dogs aren't outside and it's locked. Either way, it's not hidden and it's our home. To me that was sus, so I check the footage and hear how MIL/Aunt are absolutely berating me and our house. I show it to Jack and he says to say nothing.
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    The day of the wedding arrives, MIL opens our bedroom door asking for an iron, I go grab one for her. I close the door and start getting ready, I have a picture of my mom (passed away) next to the mirror and I'm just in my head about it all. Then MIL open the door and asks for an ironing curler, I get her one. I close the door and lock it. I call my dad to linger outside the door.
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    The limo arrives to pick me and my husband to bring us to the church, before I get out the door, MIL, FIL, aunt, uncle, niece get in the limo and open the special bottle that my dad kept from his wedding. So now it's me, Jack and all his family in the limo on the way to church. Like a clown car. They drink the whole bottle which I wanted to share with my dad and brother.
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    At the reception, Jack and I catch MIL going through the wedding envelopes to see what everyone gave. She is pulling money out and telling Jack his sister is cheap. Again, I say nothing. The last straw was when I looked around and MIL/aunt were missing. I find them hiding calling Jane who didn't even know about the wedding to tell her she wasn't invited.
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    Lastly, I got my photos back from our photographer, Aunt/MIL/uncle are doing the peace sign behind our heads in every group picture.
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    I've told my friends what happened because it bothers me.. but my husband is saying ITAH because I shouldn't tell anyone. AITA?
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    GranbyTank 14 hr. ago You and your new husband need to have a face to face meeting and get on the same page about how to handle HIS relatives in the future because this is only the beginning of the meddling. I emphasized "HIS" because it is my firm belief each partner in a marriage should be the one who handles their own family members. So I hope your new husband grows a pair and can do the job. NTA for needing to vent as your husband would just tell you to be quiet. 4.8k Reply Share ...
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    SpaceJesus Is Here . 13 hr. ago Oh boy, you need to deal with this ASAP before your husband thinks this is how it's going to be. The solution to his awful mother is NOT to keep it a secret, it's for your husband to tell her to get in line or to not visit. If you don't fix this now, your life is going to be just like all the miserable people on r/JUSTNOMIL NTA, but you need to get your husband to set and enforce clear boundaries with his mommy before it's too late. 1.4k Reply Share ...
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    MyCouchPulzOut_IDont 13 hr. ago NTA - is it too late for annulment? Husband taking crazy family's side is a huge ▸. Hope you got safety gear because you're gonna be rolling this rock uphill you're entire marriage if you don't grow yourself a nice shiny new spine or if hubby continues to choose them over you. 838 Reply Share ...
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    Apart-Ad-6518 - 14 hr. ago Oh no...NTA I've told my friends what happened because it bothers me" I think it would bother anyone Your husband is the one you need to have the convo with though, as soon as. He needs to be on the same page & ensure his relatives know their behavior isn't acceptable. And excise them all from your lives if need be. 411 Reply Share
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    dOxym0m 13 hr. ago OP, you should ask your dad and brother if they are willing to dress up in the same wedding clothes so you can do a re-do of the "family" photos. Don't include hubby's side. Then post the new photos all over your social media and everywhere on your house. 315 Reply Share
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    best-pomo196 · 13 hr. ago NTA- If your husband does not support you when his family berates you, is he truly on your side? Talk to your husband and make the boundaries clear. Otherwise along the road, there'll be a lot of blurred lines and them walking all over you while your husband tells you to keep it quiet and brush it under the carpet. 188 Reply Share ...
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