'I don't think you get to shush me in my own home': Grandparents have screaming match while newborn baby is sleeping, refuse to quiet down

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jun 25, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

If there's one thing you don't do, it's wake up a sleeping baby. Anyone who has ever tried putting a baby to sleep knows how difficult it can be to accomplish. They are fussy, they will cry, they will throw fits all day long. So when you finally have them down, it's essential they stay down. And any sudden noises or movements might jeopardize your hard work. Or else you might face the wrath of not only a woken-up, cranky child but a sleep-deprived parent with nothing to lose. These are both people you're better off not crossing. 

But that's not what happened in this recent story from Reddit where a living situation turned sour. Living with family can be difficult to do without a new child. Egos can clash, people get hurt, and babies get woken up from their peaceful slumber. Read on for the story and see whose side you're on. 

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    AITA for letting my in- laws know that my baby was sleeping during their audible fight?
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    I currently live with my in-laws with my infant son and husband. My in-laws find themselves in screaming matches daily. Yesterday, while my son was asleep I could hear them. screaming from downstairs. where we stay with the door shut.
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    I have been told that I can let them know when the baby is sleeping. There was a break in their argument and so I said, "Just so you guys know, the baby is sleeping." in a neutral tone and promptly exited the scene.
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    Moments later I head my fil using my name and curse words together and something about "his house" to my mil. Then he came up to me 10 minutes later, heated, and said "Just so you know, I respect him (the baby) but I don't think you get to shush me in my own home. This is my house." I just looked at him and then he walked away.
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    This morning I wanted to talk to him and asked my mil if I should about his responses towards me but my mil said "he has a point, it's his house." All I can think is, it sure is, but I don't think I did or said anything wrong or to warrant that reaction. Seriously folks, aita?
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    EDIT: INFO: We were self sufficient and had no threat to our self sufficiency (monetarily) before moving in. We had our first child and lived near no family. We were invited to live with them for help on multiple fronts. I was made aware that they have disagreements. All couples do, I was not made
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    aware what they were like. We have every intention of living on our own, but these adjustments can take time especially when the move is states away from where we had previously been established and a child is now in the decision making mix.
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    Basic-Regret-6263. 21 hr. ago NTA, and you need to move out asap. It may be "his" (not also his wife's?) house, but if you have a baby in the house, it's common courtesy to be quiet while the baby sleeps. Get out as soon as you can. Money's not worth living with that misery.
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    Limp Author_7820 OP. 21 hr. ago It's totally her house too. He says "his house" a lot.
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    LoquatiousDigimon 19 hr. ago You don't want to raise your child in a violent home full of yelling, do you?
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    RaineMist 21 hr. ago • INFO: What has your husband said about this? Has he talked to them about happened?
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    Limp Author_7820 OP. 21 hr. ago I told him what happened because he was not home at the time. The first thing he said is that he is always choosing me and wanted me to know that. I told him I don't want him to be at odds with his
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    parents but he said he would talk to his dad. He did and told me that he got his dad's side and let his dad know he loves him but if it comes down to it, he chooses us (son and I) over them.
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    friendlily 19 hr. ago Okay... but what did your husband actually do about this situation? Did he remind his parents that you were told by them to let them know when your son is sleeping and they're being too loud? Did he tell his dad that he cannot speak to you that way? What did he do to help at all other than say some nice placating words to you?
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    • CheeSupreme1743 21 hr. ago NTA. I don't think there's anything wrong with saying, "hey can you keep it down baby is sleeping"
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    The minute he cursed at your name and then flat out told you he doesn't respect - you game over. I don't care if it takes 20 years to save for a house, time to move out. And also, you shouldn't be having anymore conversations
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    with your in-laws period. Your husband needs to deal with his parents. If my husband heard anyone in his family tell me they don't respect me...ooooh boy! He would not stand for that.
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    Favgrl 21 hr. ago Don't raise your child around people who scream in conflict. Your child will learn to scream at people as a way to deal with conflict. Get out of there. t will mess your child up forever.
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    SnooPets8873 21 hr. ago • I'm not saying you are an but no matter what they said before, I think it's stupid to interrupt a fighting couple, especially when they are letting you and your baby live with them.
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    FairyCompetent · 20 hr. ago ESH. You should not stay somewhere that you have to witness volatile fights. That's not good for you or the baby. If at all possible, you and your little family need to leave. They shouldn't be screaming at each other at all, but especially with others in the vicinity. These people are clearly tired of you all being. there and unequipped to communicate in a normal way.
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