Woman Refuses to Give Her Boyfriend’s Sister Former Prom Dress For Free, Causing Relationship Dispute

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 12, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Our sentimental belongings are, well, sentimental. They're important to use regardless of their cost, they're irreplaceable in our memories and hearts. Now, this doesn't mean they don't have a monetary value as well. Sentimental items could have both qualities, and it doesn't take away from their emotional importance. 

This brings us to the Reddit story. The original poster (OP) is a woman dating a guy with a little sister. The little sister's prom is coming up, and she remembers the OP's beautiful designer prom dress. Due to the fact that the boyfriend's family is financially not well off, the boyfriend wants OP to give his little sister her old dress. Not lend, to give. Yeah, asking a bit much? Not only is it a designer dress, it's sentimental for OP. But read the full story to see whose side you're on.

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    r/AITAH • 15 hr. ago AdRich6860 AITAH for not giving my old prom dress to my boyfriends sister?
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    I (18f) just graduated high school. My B F (20m) went to senior prom with me and is cool with me keeping that gown. His family is poor and has a lot of financial struggles, but I try to be as supportive as I can.
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    I have another designer gown from junior prom (his sister 16f who will be a junior this year remembers it because she was there when we took prom photos) and always said how much she loved that dress.
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    Anyway even though I obviously didn't plan to wear it again I wanted to keep it as a keepsake. He wants me to give his little sister the prom dress (for free), I told him they have gowns on sale start of school year and he says he wants her to "experience a designer gown." And it can't just be loaned she's significantly
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    shorter than me and would require major alterations (even if we were similar size he does expect it to be a gift and not a loan), that's why he wants me to give it for free because just doing the alterations would stretch them thin financially but he wants it to be special for her. Plus alot of accidents can happen at prom and it can get ruined.
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    I'm touched how much he looks out for her, but I really wanted to keep this. He says I'm being selfish and should give it to her because I "won't wear it anyway it'll just sit in my closet" and was insanely pushy about it now he won't speak to me.
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    Due to being really smart she goes to private school on a full ride scholarship, and obviously the school is full of rich kids and her brother wants her to fit in.
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    RegretNo1323 • 14h ago NTA. He wants you to give it away for free...designer dresses aren't cheap. It's not like you'd get it back anyway because it would have to be altered so that she can wear it. He's being manipulative and he needs to stop. You obviously like this dress a
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    lot. You shouldn't have to give it up. Also, him "ALLOWING" you to keep your most current dress!!? is that about!!? He's not entitled to your possessions. He's entitled to the curb that you should kick him to.
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    Funny-Technician-... • 2h ago The delivery could've been better.. I don't think anyone is AH. But it's ultimately your dress to do with as you please. rotting away in your wardrobe vs helping out someone less fortunate it's a no brainer for me and I'd
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    give it to the girl. I don't hold onto such things. I wear once keep for 2 odd years and donate it for someone who needs a fancy dress that has no money to buy one. But that's me. It's still your dress to do with as you please. There is NOTHING wrong with a
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    discounted dress and no it doesn't HAVE to be a designer dress.
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    FoxySlyOldStoat... 15h ago NTA. And here's why. It would be a nice gesture to lend her the dress. Except you're not being asked to loan it, you're being asked to give it away. Which already seems like an overstep.
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    And you're not being asked either; you're being pressured/blackmailed to do so ("He was insanely pushy about it, now he won't speak to me").
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    It's also telling that you think it's a concession that your boyfriend is allowing you to keep your most recent gown.
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    And, according to you, you already try to be as supportive as you can to his family. You don't specify what this entails, but most 18-year-old girls aren't being leaned upon to support the family of their 20-year-old boyfriend.
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    Honestly, this relationship sounds unhealthy. And I don't mean the relationship between you and your boyfriend, but the relationship between you and your boyfriend's family. It's lovely that you're touched by how much he looks out for his sister. Maybe it's time to reflect
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    upon how much he does - or doesn't look out for you.
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    Famous-Compos... • 15h ago NTA. They asked, and you said no. That should have been the end of it. It belongs to you, and it's not like you're denying her food and shelter.
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    Widowed • 14h ago Hear me when I tell you this. He's always going to be looking at something you have and expecting you to give it to [insert family member here] because you don't use it anymore or because he wants them to experience yadda yadda. He
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    looks at your possessions as something he can grab for his family and that's simply not okay. You should date someone who isn't going to be eyeing what you own and cataloging it for his family's benefit.
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    And stop making excuses for him. His behavior's not okay.
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