Man Invites Girlfriend Over for Sleepover While His Wife Still Lives With Him, Sparking Love Triangle Feud

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    ÷ r/AITAH 3 days ago Mojojowasntthebadguy AITA for having my gf move in while my wife still lives in my house
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    I told my wife that I wanted a divorce 4 years ago but that I would save up some 15k to give her so that she didn't have to start over with nothing. I live in texas and I had a house before we were married so it's not up for grabs in the divorce. Last year in June she agreed to take the money and leave but never took
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    the money and came back soon after telling me she has been diagnosed with lupus. She's never worked during our marriage. I've sent her to school three different times, all of which she graduated. Since she's been diagnosed with Lupus she stays in the house and mostly laying down or sitting on the couch while I'm home. All that
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    being said, I've moved on romantically for almost a year now and the gf knows my situation and all the details. The divorce was officially submitted to the court. My lawyer keeps attempting to schedule mediation and she won't agree to a time/date or anything to move the divorce along. Normally me
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    and my gf get a hotel or an airbnb but I'm really fed up with it all and made a joke to have a slumber party and she was actually up for it. I've kept no secrets from anyone. My wife has told me that she feels disrespected by me having her drop me off at home so this would be a major escalation. Thoughts please.
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    Edit: I don't have with my wife. We have not been on romantic terms for years. I didn't say I love you. I don't sleep in the same room. I don't and haven't lead her on for years. This is merely a point of me having been with her for 14 years and I care for her as a person. I don't think she's a bad person, just not the
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    person for me and I'm tired of being held hostage in a situation/relationship that I don't want. Also when I put move in - in the header, I meant to put sleepover. I just don't know how to edit that part ②
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    Edit #2: Divorce process is you have to submit the divorce to the court, the other party is served. and they have a time limit to submit an answer to the court. Then mediation is scheduled and both parties are required to be present and negotiate in good faith and an open mind. The court then gets the agreement and you
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    go in front of a judge to basically certify the agreement and the divorce is filed and official. Before the judge certifies the agreement she is still allowed to stay in the house and I'm not allowed to change her living conditions.
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    I legally cannot kick her out. I can't cut off her money. I can't reduce her comforts within reason. Texas Law. The only thing that works in my favor is the fact of noncommunal property.
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    porter9884 3d ago Is her condition self diagnosed or is there an actual medical report stating diagnosis. Anyway continue the divorce process, serve her with eviction papers and move on with your life.
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    Beeni69 3d ago NTA. It's been four years and you're still caring for her. While it may be a little petty, it might also be the nudge she needs to finally move on.
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    Complex Storm 1929 • 3d ago NTA. Your wife needs to start moving on. I would give her a heads up like "hey, my gf will be moving in with me in a month" so it gives her time to leave. But remember, your "wife" may make your GFs life miserable to try and
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    chase her away so you need to be prepared for that. Also, I would start the eviction process asap.
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    Actual-Clue-3165 • 3d ago Nta Your wife needs to get her together. You've been supporting her for 4 years for no reason, she doesn't get to feel disrespected. You need to get her out of there before this gets messier
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    typeslikeagirl • 3d ago NTA- in normal circumstances you and your wife would be 4 years into living separately by now. You shouldn't be punished for graciously letting her live with you while she sorts out her health issues and then banished from living your
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    banished from living your life while your own home because she's dragging her feet.
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    Comprehensive-C... 3d ago I just can't wrap my head. around how your gf would accept the fact that you've been separated for 4 years but still have your wife (since you're not officially divorced yet) in your home??!! nahw... I'm sorry that she has
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    lupus but she needs to find someone else to take care of her.
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    . Joanna_Flock • 3d ago I can't wrap my head around who would want to remain in the house with their ex spouse...I guess it can happen during amicable splits but even then, just doesn't seem healthy. I moved out immediately when we decided to get divorced.

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