'I think it is weird and borderline creepy': 24-year-old woman chews out her boyfriend for not hanging up her homemade art project despite it being inappropriate for guests

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    AITA for refusing to hang up the artwork my girlfriend got me for my birthday?
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    My (26M) birthday was a few weeks ago. My girlfriend 24 and her friend are into things that I find a little outlandish and weird. I love her and her uniqueness and I appreciate what she does but I do think some of their habits and interests are unusual.
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    We do not live together. She's made comments about how I need more artwork and I agreed. She got me artwork. A homemade peace of artwork that she was given the idea through TikTok or something. Her best
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    friend also did the same thing for her boyfriend. The best I can describe it is like she like made like a print of her and legs/thighs on a canvas. It's like she sat in paint and then sat on the canvas. Or something like that.
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    Honestly, It must have turned out really well because you can clearly tell it's an and legs. The problem just arose recently because she came over and found the painting in my closet. She asked why it's not up and I tried to dance around it. I did tell her (the
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    truth) that my parents stop by sometimes and I didn't want them to see it. She started telling me that the picture is "beautiful" and I should want to "embrace her" and some more lines about how I should "embrace our intimacy".
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    I told her that honestly I find it off putting. I think it is weird and borderline creepy. I told her I am very uncomfortable hanging up something like that and if she checked with me first I would have told her. She asked if I truly wasn't going to hang it up. I told her no, I will never consider putting that on my walls but I appreciate the thought.
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    She started crying, said I'm an ungrateful and she took the painting and said she will hang it up at her place. She said her friends boyfriend loves the one he got so she can't get why I'm being such a about this. I don't think im a wanting an, albeit artistic, girlfriend on my walls. for not of my
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    allkindsoftired • 1d ago NTA. That's the kind of gift you only get someone if they're 100% artwork and are into comfortable with displays of sexual intimacy. Plus the length of your relationship comes into play here: I wouldn't want the of my gf of 6 months on the wall, but gf of 2 years could be a different story.
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    Abject_Inside7644 1d ago • • NTA. I think you handled it well. Maybe ask if her she could paint something else, that plays into her creativity and still meets your boundaries?
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    Jerseygirl2468 • 1d ago. - NTA artwork in one's home is very personal and you shouldn't have to display something you don't like especially when said artwork is just her sitting in paint. I've seen that trend, personally I think it's tacky and stupid, but to each their own. And your opinion is no. Go to a local art fair or etsy or something and find some pieces YOU like.
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    1d ago Edited 1d ago notthe... 1d ago • • NTA. I wouldn't want my partner of over a decades's body art on any of my walls either. But that art isn't to my tastes nor would I want my body displayed for randos and strangers to view in someone else's home. It might just be that you have very different tastes in artwork and are incompatible in how sexually explicit you're willing to have your home decor.
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    The comments about it being creepy would be worse if she hadn't kept pushing on the issue. If you were polite about it until backed into a corner, it's somewhat understandable.
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    I assume your gf was expecting her sexual vulnerability to be met with a similar appreciation her friend got, and she's reacting badly because society doesn't condition women well for the idea that they may be sexually rejected in any way.
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    CrazyCranberry3333 • 1d ago She's weird. NTA If there was a place in your house that guests typically don't go (master bathroom? Bedroom?) maybe that would be a good spot to hang it up?
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    But honestly I think it's weird that she's upset you won't hang it up when your parents and any visitors could see it and by the sounds of it, easily tell it's an Anyone can do what they want with their home decor but I wouldn't want people to be subjected to that or explain what it is haha
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    • RoyallyOakie 1d ago NTA...Your girlfriend has equated you not liking the painting with you not liking her, when that's not the case. Surely she knew this kind of art wouldn't be to your taste, but went ahead anyway.

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