Woman Demands That Neighbors Buy Special Treats for Her Children, Driving Neighbors to Give Up and Go 'Lights Off' for Halloween This Years

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 11, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Welcome, internet-dwelling ladies. When was the last time you went trick-or-treating for Halloween? Most of us probably stopped around middle school. Although we may have ironically participated in a few trick-or-treating outings in high school and college, we likely stopped in favor of attending Halloween parties and then eventually transitioned from candy receiver to candy giver. Anyone who grew up participating in the iconic Halloween tradition might recall that while coming home with a pile of candy was certainly exciting, the true joy came from walking around in the crisp fall air, showing off your costume, and checking out all the elaborate Halloween decorations and costumes. 

Kids sure do love sweets, but many children are picky when it comes to flavor and textures, and only end up eating a select few from what they bring home on Halloween. Other kids have food allergies, Coeliac disease, or other food restrictions as well that prevent them from enjoying the full selection of Halloween hand-outs. In our story today, an entitled mother demands that her neighbors accommodate her disabled child by buying trick-or-treat options that her child can eat, driving some neighbors to just give up on their usual Halloween tradition this year. Scroll down to get the full details as well as comments from netizens on what would have been a better way to handle having a child with food restrictions on Halloween. 

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  • 01
    r/Amlthe u/Ok-Investigator9891 • 18h AITA for not getting special treats for a neighbor kid who has a disability?
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    Every year at Halloween we give out chips instead of candy. My wife and I think it's fun for the kids to get chips to go along with their candy. We buy ahead of time at Costco so there's always plenty. What we don't use will be saved for things like bbq later in the year so people can have their own bags of chips.
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    I have a neighbor Debbie who is really upset about the potato chips we give put because her kid don't eat them. She thinks we should offer some other options to her kid because he has a disability. I don't think that's fair and I told her it's extremely to ask people who are giving out free stuff for Halloween to change things for just one kid and I told her I'm not doing it. When her child comes and knocks on my door he gets chips like everyone else.
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    I let the kids pick the types of chips from the bowl that they like and I feel like that's more than generous. Debbie said other neighbors are accommodating, her child disability for Halloween and I should think of others. I'm older so I think a child should be grateful for whatever they get for free on Halloween and not expect special treatment for a disability when getting free items.
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    Edit: My wife and I decided we don't want to deal with it anymore and will be donating the chips to the local school and churches for their Halloween party. Lights off at our house. 9,608 2,520 ୪
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    Aggravating-Item9162 16h Enthusiast [7] The point of going through candy at the end of the night, is to make sure you pull out anything that a child can't/wont eat. Incorrect. The point of going through the candy at the end of the night is to collect my Mommy Tax lol My brother and I would unload all of our candy at the end of the night and trade. We were very serious about it. It would take almost the same amount of time as trick-or-treating lol 4.1k
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    You are not responsible for accommodating every kid on Halloween! You're a freaking person, not some business/organization, giving out FREE candy. The ONLY accommodation I would ever think of asking for would involve me (THE PARENT) providing the treats and just asking the neighbors to give my kid that thing. nope nope nope Reply 12.4k
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    sbeachbm3 17h • Exactly. Some children (like yours) will only eat a select few things and some kids are allergic to certain things. The person handing out candy isn't responsible to ensure that every single child gets what they can eat. The point of going through candy at the end of the night, is to make sure you pull out anything that a child can't/wont eat. 3.3k
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    Aggravating-Item9162 • 17h Enthusiast [7] NTA. So, my kid is on the autism spectrum, and he only eats Skittles Littles and Sour Punch Bites. He will not touch any other candy, and trying to bribe him to taste it just leads to him gagging until he pukes.
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    Dangerous_Abalone528 • 16h Mine has a plethora of food allergies. He trick or treats for the fun, we pick out the safe candy and give the rest to the Candy Witch who gives him a toy. The Candy Witch then eats the rest of the candy and regrets her life choices. ด 11.5k
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    O CarmenxXxWaldo • 17h I dont see why autism is part of this equation tbh. Every kid gets candy they don't like. I didn't like those rock hard taffys, Mike and ikes, candy corn ,3 musketeers are mid I might eat one. Doesn't matter I still got a giant bag of candy. What's the big deal if a kid doesn't like something from one house? If the pickiness is to a point the kid will only eat green skittles then the parent can give all the houses they go to green skittles ahead of time. Asking everyone to
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    ninaa1 • 16h Partassipant [4] Do people really do that? Go to houses in advance and ask people to hold this one piece of candy aside for a certain child? And each of those houses are supposed to remember "only give the green skittles to the spiderman" but, oh, no! there's TOO MANY SPIDERMEN! And not enough skittles! I'm having a real "back in my day" moment right now. 208
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    kaelus-gf 16h . That's what the commenter suggested though? The parent giving out the specific candy? Autism comes into it because neurodiverse kids are more likely to have significantly restricted. diets, and sensory aversions ◇ 30 ↓
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    ParkHoppingHerbivore ⚫ 17h • This. We're vegan, so a lot of the candy that gets handed out is things we don't eat. We have alternate candy at home that we trade out for the items that aren't vegan. There's so many allergies and dietary restrictions and sensory issues out there that you can't possibly be expected to cater to everything. We gave out packs of Pokemon cards last year and that checked a lot of boxes, but not every kid likes those either, so you'll never keep everyone happy. 194
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    Aggravating-Item9162. 16h Enthusiast [7] oh, man. Pokemon cards?! You must have been popular lol. 74
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    Thequiet01 15h Aficionado [15] Ooh, I didn't know they had Halloween Pokémon packs. I'm gonna get some for our allergy-friendly bowl. (We do candy and also a small selection of stocking stuffer type toys for kids with allergies.) 28
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    possiblycrazy79 • 16h Partassipant [1] My kid has a feeding tube & doesn't eat by mouth at all. I used to take him trick or treating & eat the candy myself lol. He just liked the walk & seeing the kids so win/win ... 103
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    the_saradoodle ⚫ 16h I grew up with pretty serious food allergies. My mom just traded out anything I couldn't have for things that I could. ↑ 79
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    -cunningstunt • 16h My neighbour has a child with autism. She used to bring some of the houses a bag of 'safe' sweets beforehand to give to her son so he could go trick or treating at those particular houses & ✩ 52 ↓
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    kaelus-gf ⚫ 17h • Agreed! My daughter has coeliac. Anything that isn't labelled, I don't trust. Last year I took a bag of stuff with us, and I'd either put it in ahead of her getting to the bowl, or swap things out ... ← 41
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    lamIrene 18h Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [356] She thinks we should offer some other options to her kid because he has a disability. And she's free to think that, she just isn't free to require it of you. Wow, lol. The nerve. If her kid doesn't like it, he can trade with another kid for something he does like...just like the rest of us and our kids have done. NTA. Reply 3.6k
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    ΝΤΑ Laines_Ecossaises ⚫ 17h Professor Emeritass [76] New level of entitlement there. Part of Halloween for me was always trading the stuff you don't like with friends as we trick or treated or siblings when I got home. If nobody wanted it, it went to my parents. ← Reply 1.9k
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    mdthomas 17h Sultan of Sphincter [725] You're not required to provide snacks for ANY of the children. If the child doesn't like chips/can't eat chips, he can skip your house. It's not like you're causing the child to starve. NTA Reply 1.2k
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    NTA. JimmyAintSure4646 • 17h Aficionado [17] Debbie sounds like an extremely entitled person. What about kids with chocolate allergies? Should they go around demanding potato chips? Reply 842
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