Woman Demotes Sister as Bridesmaid After She Gains Weight, Sister Smears Her Reputation at Work, Causing Guests to Opt Out of Wedding

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 16, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. In wedding affairs there's a lot of emotion on the line. For the bride and groom, this is obvious. It's their wedding, their big day. It's typical that the bride has been thinking about her wedding day for years, perhaps even decades. But she's not the only one with her heart on her sleeve. When someone close to you is getting married, it can be anxiety-inducing to wonder where you'll be placed in the wedding, or if you'll be in the wedding at all. 

In this Reddit thread, the original poster is a woman whose sister is engaged. The OP was dubbed bridesmaid, and started to help immensely with the wedding preparations. She gets a call one day from her engaged sister telling her that she's not allowed to be the bridesmaid anymore due to her weight gain. The sisters work at the same company, causing problems in the office and wedding. 

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    r/AITAH 21 hr. ago mee3zz AITAH for ruining my sisters wedding?
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    I (27F) have been dealing with PCOS for the past year, which has caused me to gain some weight. It's been tough, but I'm managing the best I can with the right diet/ exercise regime. My sister (30F) got engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid, which I was really excited about. We both work at the same company, and I've helped her build a lot of
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    connections there. I got her the job and i've introduced her to important work networks and helped her grow professionally.
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    About two months before the wedding, my sister called me and said she was "reorganizing" the bridal party and that I was being removed as a bridesmaid. When I pressed her on why, she finally admitted that it was because of my weight gain. She didn't think I'd look "right" in the photos and said she had a certain "aesthetic"
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    for her wedding. The bridesmaid dresses she had planned for the wedding were size xxs-m and im a large. I was devastated and absolutely furious rightfully so. It wasn't just hurtful, it was also humiliating,especially coming from someone I had supported so much through her entire life.
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    I was angry and couldn't stop thinking about it. So many of my colleagues knew how much I had done to help her in her career. So, in a moment of frustration, I told a few coworkers what she had said and why I'd been demoted from the bridal party. Word spread quickly, and now pretty much the whole office knows that
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    i was removed, and the reason why. A lot of the people she works closely with have decided not to go to her wedding out of support for me and because they think she is a terrible person as a lot of the other people we work with are on the larger side.
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    Now, my sister is absolutely furious at me and says I've ruined her reputation and her big day. She's claiming I've sabotaged her professionally at work and socially because now all her friends know what she did, but some family members especially my mom are siding with her, saying I took it too far by airing our personal business at work.
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    So, AITA for telling my coworkers what my sister said about me, which led to them boycotting her wedding?
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    Gonna Bel Told... • 21h ago NTA. Your sister is a horrible person. She deserves this.
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    henchwench89 • 18h ago • NTA if her words and actions made her look bad maybe she should reflect on that.
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    WomanInQues... • 19h ago • NTA - her key phrase is "because now they know what I did!" That tells you everything you need to know right there.
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    Ok_Put_15 18h ago • NTA- and I would 100 go after mom. Your mom and sis are supposed to love you unconditionally. Mom is wrong. Mom should be yelling at sis and boycotting wedding because of this issue. Why does mom get a pass? Oops. I'm stirring up
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    trouble but all I'm seeing is mom is blessing her bridezilla child's superficial choice and that drives me nuts.
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    Jelly Belly 1042 • 18h ago • NTA, tell mommy her little golden retriever would have been outed regardless because the questions about you being a bridesmaid would have come up at the wedding anyway once the attending coworkers said something
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    or did she forget they were invited? You did nothing wrong, now people actually know how pathetic your sister is.
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    Bitter_Animato... 19h ago • ΝΤΑ Your sister ruined her own reputation by being who she is People judge her on her true face. You told the truth
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    Candid-Quail-9... • 18h ago • NTA. Why is she ashamed of her actions now and not when she was removing you as a bridesmaid. Own what she did and you have every right to share your personal experience. Tell your mom she should be so proud to
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    raise such a great human being.
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    great-nanato5 • 18h ago NTAH, she's mad because her behavior as a "bridezilla" got her called out. Don't even go to the wedding because I'm sure the family photos wouldn't be good enough for her if you do go. It's her loss, she's telling you that you aren't good
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    enough and she is 100% WRONG!! You are better than her.
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