28-year-old daughter angered mother won't "rewatch" the TV show "Gilmore Girls" with her: 'It is a show about a very entitled and bratty mother and daughter who constantly yell and scream at each other'

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    Me The other shows on my list Gilmore Girls
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    AITA for not agreeing to sit and watch an entire TV show with my daughter as a "bonding" thing My 28 year old daughter Jessica moved back in with me and her father (my husband) 6 months ago. She split with her live-in girlfriend and will save up at home. The one big difference she and I have always had is that she LOVES watching TV. She is always watching something or as she says "doing a rewatch" and all of that. I never really got into TV.
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    Jessica started "doing a rewatch" of a show she must have seen a dozen times, Gilmore Girls. It is a show about a very entitled and bratty mother and daughter who constantly yell and scream at each other and everyone around them. Over the years while she has watched it, I've seen. enough to know that I just do
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    not like it. I think the show relies on the viewer to find the yelling matches endearing or the "quirky" cast of side characters to be charming. It's just not for me. I could explain more about what I don't like but I don't think anyone wants that.
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    But Jessica asked me if we could do this one together because it would be a great mother/daughter bonding time. I asked her how we would be bonding by sitting down and watching the TV and she said it would just be the experience. I told her that I'm sorry, but I just genuinely dislike the show AND that I am not interested in watching hours and hours of TV to begin with. I told her that I would be happy to watch a movie with her every week. She didn't want to do that.
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    And now I've hurt her feelings and she's angry with me because I won't sit and watch a TV show I dislike with her. I don't like to hurt her feelings, but I also cannot imagine how much time I'd be wasting just sitting there watching a show about overly privileged people screaming at each other. AITA?
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    Edit: I just want to make a few things clear, since there are some wild leaps in the comments. We do spend time together, and over the years (and now) I've done many, many things with her that I wasn't all that interested in. I've seen Taylor Swift three times, and it wasn't because I love her.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a ●le: 1 - My daughter asked me to watch Gilmore Girls with her as a mother/daughter bonding activity, and I declined. 2 - She really loves this show and is seeing it as me rejecting her and our "bonding" time together, which I should take advantage of while she's still home with us.
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    goldentone . 5h ago. She's probably really sad about splitting up with a partner she shared a life with, it's more about that than the tv show. When my kids are sad or otherwise vulnerable I say yes to a lot of together time I would normally try to wriggle out of lol. You definitely shouldn't feel pressured to watch every single GG episode but maybe suffer through a few if that's what she needs right now?
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    Obviously giving her a place to live is already doing a lot for her and I'm not saying you're being unreasonable, but from an outsider's perspective you've got a small blind spot when it comes to an emotional need she has right now.
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    arsenal_kate • 5h ago NAH. You're allowed to not like the show, but have you suggested any alternate activities to do together? Your daughter was reaching out for connection, and hoping that a show that is about the strong bond between a mother and daughter would be good for relating to her own mother. And I all over her you basically offer. My guess is there's a reason she enjoys the fantasy of a strong mother-daughter relationship in Gilmore Girls.
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    balarie50 . 5h ago • You know this isn't really about the tv show, right? I once watched 3 seasons of a show I detested simply because my early twenties son asked me to. It was about him wanting to spend quiet time with Mom sharing something he was interested in with me. We watched, we talked, we made fun of goofy plot lines, we laughed. I still hate the show but I wouldn't trade that time with him for the world.
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    Venusflytrapdinner • 5h ago. Nobody going to? Okay, YTA. Your adult daughter is simply trying to find a way to share what is bringing her joy in her hard time with you but you refuse because you "don't like the show". Mildly selfish imo, I it up and give your say child the bonding time she needs. If at almost 30 you two still NEED to bond, I would jump at any occasion to
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    • True_Turnover_7578 5h ago • NTA but 1. Gilmore Girls is not about yelling at eachother all the time. Like at all. Not sure where you're getting that from. And 2, why didn't she want to watch movies with you? Is there something you both like to do or are interested in that you could have given as an alternative?
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    Firm-Molasses-4913 • 6h ago • My husband and I also my sister and I will watch a show together. It is a fun activity to do when you're both enthusiastic about the show. Since you're willing to watch a movie weekly see if there's another show all together that you two can watch. Tell her the genres you like and ask her if anything therein is interesting to her. Tell her your compromise is bonding over a different show just not Gilmore Girls. Try to keep the dripping disdain out of your voice and
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    DonWilliam77 6h ago • . No, you are NTA at all. Your daughter wants you to take on her habit as "bonding time" when she surely knows that you dislike watching TV in general and that you dislike. Gilmore Girls. It can not be bonding if one just asks the other to join one of her activities if she knows the other dislikes it. Your daughter has absolutely no right to be angry with you and is acting super childish and selfish btw.
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    Artistic Wolverine • 5h ago. Ha ha. I was a 50 year old man when I lost my job. My youngest son was in high school. We would watch GGs when he got home from school. He liked Rory and I liked Lorelei. My wife would get home from work and see us watching and would just roll her eyes at us. She still teases us about it. Now she's retired and watches reruns of GGs.

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