Woman Agrees to Carry Sister-In-Law’s Baby, Regrets It When the Family Starts Treating Her ‘Like an Incubator’, Leading to Legal Dispute When She Decides to Keep the Baby

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 5, 2024 5:00 PM EST

You know how people say you shouldn't mix your family with work or money? That you shouldn't work with family members, or that you should never lend money to family? Well, this story takes this advice up a notch and really proves that you should never lend your body to anyone in your family.

This woman (OP, original poster) was persuaded to become a surrogate for her sister-in-law after it became clear that SIL and her husband could not have children of their own. Despite her extremely kind deed, the family started mistreating OP from the moment they found out she was pregnant – touching her belly without permission, forcing her to attend baby showers and events she doesn't want to attend, and overall making her feel like her body is not her own. This led OP to seek legal advice to see if she could actually keep the baby, but the family is not happy about this decision…

Keep scrolling to read the full, chilling, story. After you are done, click here for a story of a man who was asked to be the best man at his ex-fiancee's wedding.

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    I'm not a person anymore, I'm a belly. They were very offended when I told them that I don't want to do a photoshoot pretending that she is the one who has my belly as they saw in pinterest, they wanted to edit my face in the pictures or cover it.
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    I really regret carrying my sister-in-law's baby.
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    I just need to vent, I talk Spanish as first lenguage. I'm just going to block out any comment by saying that I should just shut my mouth and not complain because they're the baby's parents, I don't need more people treating me as an incubator without feelings.
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    I once tried to post in a group about this and I only received insults from the non-pregnant mothers telling thay I should and that I'm trying to steal my SIL baby. I have nowhere to talk
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    about this apart from my family and friends but I don't want to overwhelm them with this problem. She and her husband lost several pregnancies. My husband
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    convinced me to carry their son because they are good people and deserve it, At church the pastor told me it would be a good deed.
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    I feel manipulated, I didn't know them very well but the few times I saw them I thought they were good people and she did many expensive treatments to carry a baby but it was impossible.
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    Months have passed since my pregnancy and I feel like an incubator, I feel that I am no longer a person. They touch my belly all the time and when I try to set limits saying that I don't like it
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    they get offended and say it's 'their baby', they want to put limits on me about having with my husband because for them it's vulgar to do that while I'm pregnant of their baby. I've been told that my body isn't mine anymore.
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    I'm not a person anymore, I'm a belly. They were very offended when I told them that I don't want to do a photo sh t pretending that she is the one who has my belly as they saw in pinterest, they wanted to Edit my face in the
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    pictures or cover it. They got mad when I told them I didn't felt well to go to the baby shower she organized for herself but my husband convinced me to go.
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    She really got angry when people asked me about how I feel and if I was coping well with the pregnancy. After that, she made a rule to her family that they can't ask me and they should ask her how I'm doing with the pregnancy since it's her baby.
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    I have a notebook where I write how I am feeling and the changes I feel since I like to keep everything checked, she found out that I have the notebook and cried telling me that I sound send
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    her every day how I feel and what I am thinking, she said I'm leaving her out of the experience of having her baby because espiritualmente she's carrying him. When I say I feel nauseous,
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    she starts pretending she has naisses too and everyone pays attention to only her because she's the one 'spiritually' pregnant. Recently my mother came to visit me and she was feeling the baby
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    in my belly, my SIL's husband was in the house and he got angry saying that that baby is theirs and I don't have the right to let my mother touch the baby. I also can't go on vacation with my
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    husband because they send me a hundred messages a day to tell them what I'm doing. All my friends and my own family tell me that I made a big mistake by doing this and I know that they
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    are right, I feel really sad and bad about this. Even my husband already monitors me to tell my SIL the things I do, I think I fell into something I can't escape.
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    I've realized that they're not mentally stable people to raise a baby. They even got angry and blamed me when the baby's gender was not what they thought it was and God had told
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    them. They have points of view that seems really weird and problematic. I am very afraid, for myself and for the future of this poor baby. I have always been a good
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    Christian but I have had my doubts, they say that God. brought me into the world to be their stomach and that is why I am a good person but now I believe that God was trying to tell them thay they're not ready to be parents like AT ALL.
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    They don't deserve to be parents, I feel really guilty for bringing to the world this baby who's going to be raised by them. I have tried to put limits on them thousands of times in every possible way but
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    now I feel threatened and I have no money for lawyers and they decide to go against me. At first I was informed that legally the baby is mine until it is born and I sign the papers to give them
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    full rights but now they threaten me with sue me and I am afraid. The egg is not hers, it is from another donor but it is basically taboo in the family to say it. Edit: Thank you very much to everyone who wants to give me
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    legal advice, I don't feel comfortable saying the country for privacy reasons (please feel free to ask me that in private messages, I'm not from América) as I feel like I've already said too much but some comments are really helping me to inform myself more than I know, also in my private messages.
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    And about my husband yes, as I said in the post I know he manipulated me and it's something my family and friends told me in the past but I ignored all the red flags, this is the
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    situation where I finally reached my limit. I'm scared and because I'm scared I know it's better not to add fuel to the fire until I have money for lawyers and feel safe.
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    Thin_Tonight 1173.1d ago. I'm sorry this experience is being so unfortunate to you, these people really aren't well in the head. it felt like I was reading about an episode of The Handmaid's Tale.... creepy couple
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    HeartAccording5241 • 1d ago • Sit all of them down say I know it's your baby but this is my body and til the baby is born and not in me stay out of it stick to it and tell everybody that how they been. treating me this will not happen again
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    Just Explorer_6140 ⚫1d ago. Get out now. Leave immediately these people are taking advantage of you and your husband is allowing it to happen instead of protecting you. Did u sign any legal documents? If i were u i would ask for a divorce following immediately after
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