Woman Ends Things with German Guy Who Keeps Correcting Her English Pronunciation, Fed Up with Constant Criticism: 'It's not even your native language!'

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    r/AITAH u/ThrowRA-confused 148 1d AITAH for ending things with a guy because he kept correcting my English? Advice Needed
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    I (32F) stated going out with this guy (32M) three months ago, because a mutual friend arranged a blind date for us. He is very good looking, and funny, and we had some good time together but he continued tried to fix my English. Like I speak a world and he went: it's pronounced "world", try saying it like this. It happened multiple times during our dates and it really annoyed me.
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    He wasn't correcting my grammar but my pronunciation. I know I have an accent but the thing is English isn't his first language either (I'm Brazilian and he is German) and although his accent isn't as strong as mine, he has one as well.
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    After the second date, I told him I would rather him not correct how I speak because it made me embarrassed of speaking with him. He stopped for a few weeks, but started again after and when I pointed it out again to him, he said he is only trying to help me. So after a few days, I texted him that we wouldn't work out.
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    The mutual friend that introduced us came to speak with me after and said that she didn't understand why I wouldn't see him anymore because he really liked me and is very sad that I ended things. I told her about this correcting my English thing and that I wanted a partner, not an English teacher. She told me it was a really dumb thing to end a relationship over and I should've just talked to him again about it. I admit I'm a really torn about this situation now, and maybe an outsider view would
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    So AITAH for ending things with this guy? Should I give him another chance ? 1,552 618 ୪
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    Old Cheek1076 • 1d Ask your friend to be specific about how much disrespect you deserve. NTA Reply 990
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    ZFGanytime 1d Agreed. NTA. Also, your friend didn't deserve an explanation in the first place and is now arguing that your explanation isn't good enough. Lots of disrespect. 268
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    AttitudeHead3028 • 1d Exactly, your friend shouldn't have asked for an explanation. His feelings are hurt?, too bad! All you needed to say was "cuz, I don't wanna!", that's it, the end. ... 37
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    xCosmicGlam • 1d . I completely agree. It's ridiculous for your friend to downplay your feelings and suggest that you should tolerate disrespect. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect in any relationship, and it's important to stand up for yourself OP. NTA ... 28
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    helveseyeball • 1d . NTA. If he can't respect your request to stop correcting you over trivial matters like that, he won't respect you over other things. Reply 1.8k
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    Jadie Jang ⚫ 1d FWIW, Americans find this kind of behavior very rude, BUT GERMANS DON'T. When I lived in Germany, my German friends corrected me when I made a noticeable error or was clearly struggling to remember a word. I appreciated it since I was learning, and they never tried to NOT speak German with me. As a result, my German got good very fast.
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    Of course, it's possible for a German to be an overbearing know-it-all, too, but just this one thing doesn't make him one necessarily. So really think: does he do this in other ways? Or is it just the language thing? If it's the latter, you might try talking to him about cultural differences and how rude it seems to you. ... & ㄱㅁ
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    NTA ed_lv. 1d You asked him to stop and he didn't. It was a very simple request that you clearly communicated, and he wasn't willing to follow that request. It was not going to stop with correcting your English, it would've soon spilled onto other things. Reply 548
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    Foolish-Pleasure99 • 1d It was a symbol if him feeling superior and not seeing OP as an equal. It wasn't about the pronunciation. 172
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    SuluSpeaks 1d • I met my best friend when I was 6 and, we went through elementary school together. I told my mom that she pronounced the word jewelry as "joolery." She told me that correcting peoples pronunciation is rude and I shouldn't do it. I never did. If a 6 year old can learn that lesson, and adult should be able to, as well. . . . ← 49 ⇓
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    THEconstipated DRAGON 1d • He is annoying, you ask and told him to stop. He choose to disregard your feelings and. Continue. You made the right call ... Reply 82
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    Bulky-Cauliflower921. 1d NTA its pronounced "bye" ... Reply 36 ⇓
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    Jolly-Bandicoot7162. 1d But you didn't break up with him because he was correcting your English. You broke up with him because he didn't respect you enough to stop doing it when told you didn't like it. He was happy to trample all over what you wanted. That is not a dumb thing to break up over. It's ignoring you about that today and who knows what tomorrow. NTA. You can break up with someone for any reason, and ignoring your reasonable request is definitely a good one. Reply 35
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    Sensitive-Ask-9368 • 1d So this guy told on you for breaking up with him, and your friend is angry about you standing up for yourself? You need better friends. Reply 24
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    Aahnoone 1d • NTA You asked him to stop repeatedly, and he didn't. This was just the beginning. What else would he ignore when asked to stop? He likes you, but he does not care what you want or how his actions make you feel, meaning he does not respect you. Reply B7 B
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    Hemiak • 1d NTA. You told him twice. He'd rather be right than kind. ... Reply + 5 ↓
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    NTA LighthouseonSaturn • 1d This is such a german thing to do. I used to work in the auto industry and there was a German division that I had to work closely with. And some stereotypes about Germans are completely true. (Just like there are lots of American stereotypes that are true. I'm not being racist here)
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    The Germans would nitpick the silliest and smallest details. And yes, they would even nitpick my own English phrases. AA You can break up with somebody for any reason you want. You don't need to justify it to anybody. Your friend doesn't get to judge you. It bothered you enough that you didn't want to deal with it, that's all that matters. Д Reply + 8 ⇓
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    Kampungmonyet • 1d NTA. He sounds absolutely insufferable. Reply + 3 ♡ ☆

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