Woman Ignores Teenage Daughter for Six Months for Siding with Cheating Ex-Husband, She Refuses to Forgive Either When They Come Crawling Back: 'It's time for Dad to be happy'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 21, 2024 5:00 PM EST

Welcome, internet gossip lovers. Getting cheated on is probably every married person's worst nightmare. Finding out that you have been betrayed by the person you're supposed to trust the most can be so jarring that it literally alters your brain chemistry. The sheer thought of experiencing this sort of betrayal can drive insecure partners to become overbearing to pacify their jealousy and paranoia. 

Being the victim of infidelity is undoubtedly upsetting, but in most cases, your friends and family would have your back, seeing as the cheater would be so clearly in the wrong. However, in our story today, our protagonist experiences a harrowing double betrayal. After finding out that her husband cheated on her with his "one that got away," their daughter sides with Dad, believing that he, too, deserves to be happy. Hurt beyond belief, our protagonist chooses to ignore them for half a year, and then refuses to forgive them when they both come crawling back. Get all the details by scrolling down!

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    r/AITAH u/Sufficient_Acadia348.7h AITAH for ignoring my daughter for almost 6 months after she sided with my ex-husband when he cheated?
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    6 months ago, my ex reunited with his "the one that got away" when he was out with our daughter. He was acting weird and "melancholy" after meeting her so our daughter asked about her and he told her about their tragic love story, which is literally just their parents being againts their relationship. My daughter, who was a hopeless romantic, was deeply moved by their love story and pushed his dad to pursue his ex and cheat on me. And well, he cheated and i found out.
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    The day I found out about my ex cheating was a blur, I was crying so hard that day that I barely even understand what they were saying. But I remember my daughter saying "Mom, dad made us happy for years, it's time for him to be happy too." I honestly would have laughed if she said that to me today, but at the time, I was crying so hard it didn't register how ridiculous she was.
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    When we separated, our daughter declared she was staying with me, patting my ex on the shoulder and saying "I'll take care of her, dad, dont worry". I just rolled my eyes at the time cause I was no longer speaking to them both. The first day my ex was gone, she surprised with breakfast in bed, which I shoved down on the floor in front of her. She
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    cleaned it without complaint and after that day, I started locking my door to avoid such incidents. She cooks for me all the time, and everytime she did, I just ignore it. In fact I didn't eat much at the time, because my ex would often come by and drop off groceries. Whenever the hunger gets too unbearable, I would order delivery and eat in my room.
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    Fast forward to 3 months, my ex came crying back, saying I was actually the one he loves. Which I honestly predicted because although he was very much hung up on the past, he was very sweet and loving to me. Our marriage was literally something out of a movie, even after 17 years of marriage, we still acted like newlyweds. Date nights every weekend, cuddles, and playing video games
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    together. We never even fought, we just banter playfully. The day he came back he told me how they always fought, about how she wasnt as understanding and loving as me, about how he missed my cuddles and playing video games with me. Of course I just ignored him. After that day, he started staying at our house. He tried to sleep in our
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    room the first night, but i stood up and slept in the living room. After that he started sleeping in the guest room. That day too, i remember my daughter telling me, as she sat with me on the living, "Aren't you glad mom, dad is back. We're gonna be a family again." I would have laughed at her face if i wasnt busy treating her like air.
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    After that day, they started doing everything they to make it up for me. My ex even started bringing me home flowers everyday. They gave me gifts, cooked and clean for me, and all the while, I just kept ignoring them, not uttering a single word.
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    3 days ago was the first day my daughter confronted me. Which is probably because it was her 17th birthday. I used to make homemade cakes for her and decorate the house depending on what her current interest is. That day she was crying in the kitchen, and i just ignored her and walked past her to get coffee. She started talking to me, asking me why i couldnt forgive them. She told me i was being cruel, that they already did everything they
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    could. She cried and cried, telling me all the stuffs we used to do on her birthday, about how happy we were, about how she wants to go back to that. That day i looked at her for the first time in six months and i felt nothing. I wasnt moved or anything by her tears. I didnt feel anger or hurt. I didnt feel sorry for what i did. After we stared at each other for a while, i just went back to my room without talking to her..
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    That day was also the day my parents came and talked to me. Theyre trying to get me to forgive my ex and daughter. They never asked me before to forgive them. They said the same things my daughter said, that i was being cruel. When i confided to my bestfriend, she told me that maybe its time to forgive them. That my daughter was still so young and she made a mistake but shes still my
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    daughter. In all honesty, i dont feel like i did anything cruel, since they were the ones who betrayed me first. And although im not mad anymore, i honestly dont feel anything for them anymore and i feel like its just a hassle to even try and be family with them. But people i know are insisting i just forgive them. Am i really the one being cruel here? 737 ✓ ☐ 570 D D
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    DisastrousMachine568 • 6h No you are not the cruel one. Both of the people closest to you betrayed you in the cruelest way, your trust in them is absolutely shattered. Your daughter actually started and encouraged your husband to cheat, thats just unbelievingly disrespectful.
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    Do your family think you have no feelings. Well you do, and they crushed you. There is only one way forward for you, divorce them, because this kind of betrayal you wont ever get over. You need to start anew, to find yourself and what makes you happy. ... Reply 1.3k
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    grumpy_g⚫ 5h Let's be honest... a grown up who cheats on his wife because his teenage girl told him is not a big win either. ... 262
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    Whimse19581a • 5h OP is not being cruel rather OP is protecting herself. Forgiveness doesn't mean OP have to pretend nothing happened or let people back into her life on their terms. NTA. 200
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    amw38961 • 4h That's what I said! They were cruel towards OP and not the other way around...the AUDACITY of her daughter calling her cruel after encouraging her father to cheat on OP and leave OP is WILD to me.
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    If OP was truly bitter and cruel, she would've kicked her daughter out of the house the MINUTE she found out her daughter's part in this. You know what? If you're so supportive of this relationship....then go live with your father and his affair partner....have a good life. I know you say that she's young, but she's definitely old enough to understand that none of this situation was right. Idk where OP live, but she is old enough to have to possibly dealt with cheating and heartbreak herself....
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    I'm sorry....regardless of DNA, I'm not talking to any person who betrayed me like that, let alone doing all that birthday stuff with them b/c tbh it's a harsh reminder of what they BOTH did.....at the end of the day, y'all can never go back and the reason that you can't is due to their actions. 43
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    ShaderPulse • 32m I've been through betrayal and it's tough. You're not cruel for feeling numb; it's self-preservation. Therapy helped me find clarity, maybe give it a shot? Forgiveness is personal and takes time. Prioritize your healing before deciding on family dynamics. Stay strong and focus on what you need. ... ← Reply Ĵ 6 ♡
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    VelAurith⚫ 12m went through something similar, and it's tough. Take your time to heal and focus on yourself. Therapy helped me process everything and find clarity. Whether or not you forgive them is up to you, but prioritizing your well-being is key. Stay strong, whatever you decide. ... Reply ✩ 5 ↓
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    Obvious-Weakness-218 • 5h NTA - I think you need to file for divorce, your marriage and family as it was are over. Your husband was foolish, selfish and stuck in the past. Your daughter was disrespectful, thoughtless, foolish and incredibly immature and possibly a bigger AH than your husband They both betrayed you in different ways. I don't know if I would ever be able to trust either again.
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    Your parents have no business in your relationship with you and your daughter or you and your husband. Tell them you know they care, but you need them to step back so you can heal and figure out how you can put one foot in front of the other and still have some kind of relationship with all of them. Both your still husband and daughter don't seem to realize that trust and forgiveness are earned and they have done nothing.
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    First you need to see a lawyer to protect yourself financially as best you can. Second, see a therapist to help yourself and work on forgiveness. Please know the forgiveness I am speaking of is for you not them. You deserve to go forward and have a happy life with or without them. Third, please tell them they both need to find another place to live, you need your space to heal. If they won't you should.
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    Honestly if I were you, I don't think I could ever have a relationship with daughter again. If your parents truly wish to help, ask them if she can live with them if she won't leave with your husband. Please work on finding your happiness again. ... Reply Д 15
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    XNIGHT_RANGEREX • 5h Um. Why are you still in that house?? NTA. But you need to leave. Divorce them both and move on with your life. The longer this is dragged on, the harder and harder it will be. Reply 15
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