Woman's Greedy In-Laws Demand a Share of the Gold Gifted to Her Baby for Traditional 100th Day Ceremony, Bash Her Culture Online When She Refuses: 'A baby has no use for gold!'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 25, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Welcome, internet-surfin' sisters. Being a new mom is not easy. Thankfully, a ton of cultures across the world are aware of this and have their own, unique traditions to make post partum life a little easier for new parents. In the West, it is extremely common to hold a baby shower where guests may gift toys, clothing, and even more expensive utilities, such as car seats, to expecting couples. The practice is extremely helpful in cutting down on the crazy expenses of having a baby. 

In other cultures, similar ceremonies are held, but the babies are also gifted jewelry. To a utilitarian American, this may seam ostentatious and unreasonable, but long-held cultural traditions are important and help bring family together. However, in our story today, our protagonist's in-laws were not open to her side of the family's traditional practices. At first annoyed that they were not told that they had to bring gifts to her baby's 100th day ceremony, they quickly shifted gears to demanding a share of the gold. Get all the details by scrolling down!

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  • 01
    r/AITAH u/Few-Art-7990. 1d AITA for not telling my in-laws about the gifting tradition for my baby's celebration, additionally not sharing the gifts with them.
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    For context, The baby's 100th day is celebrated in my culture with a small party; essentially, family and friends gather between the 4th and 6th month of age. At this point, the infant takes her first mouthful of solid food and selects an item that is presumably meant to predict her future self. ( Its stupid but fun, eg, my daughter choose a pen, so we think she will be interested in studying.) Additionally everyone brings gifts for the baby, family usually gives gold, and friends give baby prod
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    I've been with my husband for 6 years, and I can tell you that his family doesn't really like me. For the first four years of our relationship, I put a lot of effort into it, but once we were engaged and his family wasn't too enthusiastic, I gave up. Even though we still get together for celebrations, birthdays, and other events, I no longer make an effort to speak with them. (When we got engaged, my husband assured me that I didn't have to put in a lot of effort to win his family's approval, so
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    My in-laws haven't had a major part in our lives since we got married; we only see them 4 or 5 times a year. Since they haven't seen our baby yet, I invited them to this celebration. They were hesitant, attempting to argue that this isn't how we do things in our family and that we don't understand your foreign culture. I politely told them that it is their wish whether or not they want to see their grandchild, and I wouldn't force them to.
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    Last week, there were around 50 people to celebrate my beautiful child, the most of whom were from my side of the family. Everything was nice and pleasant, my MIL, FIL, and SIL arrived as well. After that, it was time for the presents. As previously said, every member of my family gave my child a gold earring, necklace, bracelet, or coin.
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    At the party, my in-laws began to remark that it was a waste of money to give gold to a small child, but nobody listened. They then criticised me for not telling them that my family would spend so much money and accused me of making them look bad.
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    I apologised, explaining that it was simply part of our tradition and that I thought you wouldn't be interested because you had never been. They complained to my husband, he ignored them, but they still woudnt stop.
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    it started of as me trying to make them look bad, to them now demanding i give them some of the gold as my daughter has no use for it and its meant to be shared with family.
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    When my husband and I stopped picking their calls, my SIL posted on instagram and facebook about child cruelty because our 6 month daughter has her ears pierced and wears small earrings. I get that its not common in the US hence why everyone now thinks i am torturing my baby.
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    The thing is I feel like i am not in the wrong, but when i read all the comments about me being a horrible parent and using my baby to make money it just feels bad. i am posting this to see if everyone thinks the same ig? 5,467 ♡ 948 D
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    Cursd818 • 1d ΝΤΑ They're gold diggers who are actively trying to steal from an infant. Don't give them a second thought, and block them. Ignore them. Your daughter doesn't need them, seeing as she has such a wonderful family on your side. ... Reply 4.5k
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    admseven ⚫ 1d Like this is the most literal case of gold digging I've seen on here tbh. 1.7k
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    Dini99 • 22h NTA. They're just trying to take advantage of your daughter. Block them and move on-she has a great family who's got her back. 94
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    xxsexynerdette • 18h Yup that's it, they are literal golddiggers. Her and her husband especially have to take a conscious decision to distance themselves for a good while at the very least. ← a û 21
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    thrownawayy64 • 16h OP's in-laws are like vultures. Be sure the gold and any other small valuable items are inaccessible to anyone that comes to your house. ΝΤΑ ... 22
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    Straight_Coconut_317 . 1d NTA. They were not interested in your family customs or your daughter until it reflected on their public image. And to suggest that you give your daughters gold to them, a greedy bastards, I would just stop listening to them. ← Reply 1.1k
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    Interesting-Novel821 • 23h Agreed. I'd be hard pressed not to say something like, "It's shameful that you weren't interested in my daughter until you realized she was given gold jewelry (as is tradition in my culture). Now, out of avarice and jealousy, you want to steal her jewelry. You're nothing but gold diggers and thieves and you will never be part of our lives again." 335
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    AvaAquaAura • 23h "It seems your interest in my daughter is conditional, and that's not a relationship I want her to be exposed to." 163
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    ThatWhich Lurks782 • 1d NTA and they should be embarrassed trying to take gifts away from a baby. Shame on them. ... Reply 451
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    Horror-Reveal7618 • 1d Nta Just answer in one of their posts that they didn't seem to think like that when they were demanding you gave them the gold intended for your daughter's future. Then block. ← Reply ✩ 96 ↓
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    keephopealive4you ⚫ 1d Stop reading the comments. Block them all on social media and take a break from them. Don't let them get to you. You did nothing wrong and they are greedy and selfish. Block them and carry on with your life. NTA Reply 84
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    IllustratorNew8801 • 1d NTA you're good and you know it. The not liking you has a bif waff of racism embed into it. You will never keep them happy so why bother? You shouldn't have to bother with keeping any kind of relationship with them either. ... Reply 191
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    HarperCancerShell • 23h Like stop trying. Focus on your husband, child and those who love and accept u for who u are. 30
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    missmypets 1d That gold was gifted to your daughter by people who love her, love you, and love your husband. The in-laws only see her as a resource and when used up would be tossed aside. Reply 125
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    Perfect_Ring3489. 1d Nta. Traditions are important. The ILs have no compassion. As long as your husband supports you, try to have low to zero contact, they dont deserve to be included Reply û 77 ♡
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