Man Pressured by Family to Hand Over $50,000 of His Inheritance to His Irresponsible Brother for College, He Refuses: 'Help him turn his life around!"

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    r/AITAH u/Sad-Huckleberry1035 • 1d AITA for not giving any of my "inheritance" from my grandparents to my stepbrother to pay for college?
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    Because my mom did when I (20m) was young my grandparents, meaning her parents, set aside a decent amount of money for me and gave it to me when I turned 18 as an "inheritance" of sorts. They said to consider it money my mom would have left me if she'd been older and had more to leave me. They told me to use it for college or to use it for my future. I went into an apprenticeship instead of going to college. I decided the money can go toward a house for me and my future partner in the future.
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    My dad knows about the inheritance and he was unhappy with my grandparents keeping him out of it. He told them it should have been something discussed especially when he remarried and he became a stepdad and a dad to more kids.
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    My dad and his wife had a lot of cr p going on in the last three years. My stepbrother is graduating in May and he wants to go to college. He doesn't meet the criteria for a scholarship, financial aid won't cover a lot for him and they can't help him out much with student loans because of the last three years.
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    So my dad and his wife asked me to give him at least 50k out of the money I have. Though they made it clear they felt I could/should be willing to give it all so he has a chance to proceed like he wants to. I told them I wasn't giving any of the money for him to go to college.
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    They tried adding pressure for me to change my mind but I replied no one time to each of them and then didn't reply again. My stepbrother texted me last night and said I sucked for hogging all that money. He said I got a lucky deal with grandparents who gave a cr p and he never got that and then I get all this money and I don't even use it for college. He said he always thought I was his big brother but I'm just a selfish AITA? 1,836 ☐ 587 D
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    Shichimi88 • 1d Nta. Block them. Use it for your own future. Your grandparents were smart to keep it out of reach of your dad. Reply D 2.1k
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    My dad's wife stormed out. Dad stayed and tried to tear me a new one for my decision but I shut him down and asked him to leave. I told him I did not want to hear him yell at me for not giving my money away. He said it's to help one of my siblings go to college.
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    unownpisstaker . 1d I'm sure if you had the choice you'd rather have your mother back. Tell your stepbrother he's lucky to have one and go away NTA. 1k
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    Vegetable-Cod-2340 • 1d Yup, let's be honest, he probably would have already have spent it ages ago. 75
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    DowntownSpeaker2236 • 1d Agreed! 17
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    Snackinpenguin 1d Your stepbrother isn't even related to your maternal grandparents. They didn't save just to have it go to a stranger. No. NTA. Reply 278
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    DowntownSpeaker2236 • 1d Yes! And the dad thinking he should get it because he was married to their daughter? Not how that works. Relatives before anyone-the grandparents probably barely know them-if at all. ... ← 97 ♡
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    Successful-Citron 506. 1d Stand your ground, NTA. The key is to let them know. you're going to shut down the conversation immediately with any family member who brings it up, and hold that boundary. ... ← Reply 466
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    ZombieHealthy2616. 1d This, Tell your father you will seriously consider it as soon as he resurrects your mother from the grave and apologizes to her for trying to steal money from her parents.
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    Because that is what he is doing - your grandparents sacrificed to leave a legacy on behalf of your Mom to you - her child. Not to the progeny of the woman he married after your Mom di_d. ← 174
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    SeaGoatGamerGirl. 1d I'm petty so I would tell Dad and step bro that I will gladly give them the money but I need written permission from Mom to give it since it's technically her money and they aren't related to her. So when they get her written permission they can come back and get the money. ... ← 42
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    shammy_dammy • 1d NTA. Those kids are not your mother's kids. They are not your grandparents' grandchildren. They are the kids of your father's wife...not related to them in anyway. Reply 203
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    Sad-Huckleberry1035 OP. 1d Yep, but my dad doesn't like hearing that. 124
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    Emotional_Analyst115 · 1d It doesn't matter what he doesn't like hearing. He doesn't defend you, but he defends them. So he deserves to hear the truth, no matter how many times he doesn't like hearing it it needs to be reinforced 110
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    DefDemi • 1d Your step brother can get loans and he can work part-time and study part-time. Your mother's parents gave you the money. No one else but you is entitled to it. Why doesn't his Mom or your father get a second job. Why are they having kids when they can't afford them. Tell them to get stuffed. You lost your mother. No amount of money makes up for that. Reply 34
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    Hairy-Capital-3374 • 1d NTA. This is exactly why your MOM'S parents did not tell your Dad. Reply 29 ↓
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    DreamyWhispes • 1d . NTA. That money is your mom's legacy to you. Your stepbrother isn't entitled to it. Reply û 17 ♡ ar
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    throwitaway3857 • 1d NTA. Tell step brother he should've studied harder to get a scholarship. Tell him you'd rather have your mom alive and he should be thankful he does. It is not ok they're trying to guilt you. Stand strong. That money is yours and not theirs nor his. They are not right in the head to think you owe anything to any of them. ← Reply 16

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