New mom converts guest room into baby's room, entitled grandpa complains about having to sleep elsewhere when he travels to meet grandson for the first time: 'He said he didn’t raise me to be such an awful hostess'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Dec 17, 2024 6:00 PM EST

There is no denying that kids tend to take up a lot of space. In a world where not everybody gets to live in a mansion, this has an obvious effect on most family homes. For many new parents, not only does the concept of a spare room become a luxury, but their kids' belongings also start to take over every other space in the house. 

You might think those who would understand this best would be the ones who had been through it before, like grandparents. However, for one woman this was far from the case. When she and her husband converted their guest room into a nursery for their new baby, her dad complained about having to sleep in their office when he visited for Christmas. While his other daughter was in agreement with him, the internet thought that he was being pretty unreasonable in his demands on his family.

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    AITA for sacrificing the guest room instead of the office space?
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    My husband and I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. We sleep in the master bedroom, and until earlier this year, the other two were a guest room and an office space we both shared. Our first child was born in October, and we decided to turn the guest room into his nursery. We thought about sacrificing the office instead, but decided we needed it more than the guest room. I work on-site, but I also do some freelancing from home, and my husband works hybrid. We don't need to do our work from the offic
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    My father lives in a different country. He's traveling here for Christmas in about a week, and this will be his first time meeting my son in person. Last time he came, I was pregnant and we still had the guest room, so he stayed there during his visit. A couple weeks ago, my father called to ask whether he could stay at my apartment again this year. I said sure, but we don't have the guest room anymore, so he'd have to sleep in the office. He asked what I meant, and I told him we'd turned the gu
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    He then asked why I hadn't gotten rid of the office instead. I explained my and my husband's reasoning. My father got annoyed and said, "Whatever, I'll get a hotel", before hanging up on me. The next day, my father texted me. He said it was selfish and inconsiderate of me and my husband to keep an office we "don't actually need" over a room to properly house potential guests. He added that he didn't raise me to be such an awful hostess, and it's insane of me to think people would be okay sleepin
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    BlindUmpBob NTA. A guest room is nice to have, but you have reason enough to use that space otherwise. In fact, to not do so could be a waste of space. Surely your dad also taught you not to waste resources. As for sister dear, does she live nearby to you? Maybe she's afraid dad will hit her up. Or, does she live far away, and was figuring on using your guest room for some free lodging of her own?
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    GuestRoomDebacle OP My sister is younger and still lives with our mother, 15 minutes away. She only stayed in my guest room once before, and has said she's perfectly fine sleeping in the office if she ever has to.
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    runnergirl3333 It's better for dad to have his own hotel room. He can have extra space, his own bathroom, a little time to himself, and you won't have to worry about the baby waking him up in the middle of the night. Win/win situation. You're NTA at all.
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    mjw217 My husband always preferred to get a hotel room. Especially as we got older. He never liked to put anyone out, plus he enjoyed us having our own space.
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    KaliTheBlaze NTA. A home should be set up for the best interests of the people who live there. You and your husband both regularly work from home. Sure, you could make do without the office, but it would be awkward and inconvenient for you both. It's quite absurd for someone who isn't paying any part of the rent or living there to expect you to suffer routine inconvenience in your own home year round to better be convenient for them a few days a year.
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    DesignerDogWoofWoof THIS!! Dear Gods, THIS!!! YOU live in your house and it should accommodate what you and your family need, not "something" or "someone" that visits once a year. You offered a space to sleep and that was enough; let your dad enjoy his hotel. You're not an awful hostess! NTA
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    City_Girl_at_heart Also, if they're both wfh at the same time, one gets the office, the other gets the couch or dining table. A guest bedroom is unlikely to be comfortable for wfh purposes.
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    Kimbo151 NTA, WFH wasn't a thing when your father was in the workforce. Nowadays a home office is a must and it sounds like you and your husband both use it. While it is great to have a dedicated guest room it's also crazy to have a room in your house that is almost never used "just in case" someone comes to visit you. If the space permits I'd consider getting a nice/comfortable pull out sleeper sofa for your office but a plan to have guests stay at a nearby hotel is perfectly fine.
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    -cheeks It's never inconsiderate to prioritize your households needs when making choices. Having a guest bedroom only benefits others not your husband your baby or you. NTA obviously.
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    5150-gotadaypass This !!! NTA OPie, no one, including beloved FAMILY, has the right to tell you how to use the space in your home.
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    young929 NTA. Your house, your rules. Why should you keep the guest room to accommodate infrequent visitors when you use the office regularly? You'd be inconvenienced nearly daily, while your visitors would only be inconvenienced for the duration of their visit.
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    apothekryptic This, but I'd argue that visitors would be barely inconvenienced. They are still welcome to visit and will still have a private area to sleep. Not good enough? Get that hotel. NTA.
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    Glad Commercial183 NTA - housing a guest temporarily vs every day to day life? He's r de for being so demanding on your space, especially at just having a baby. He will be more comfortable in hotel considering how "disruptive" a baby can be.
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    Berrybliss2014 • 2d ago • My husband and I purposely don't have a guest room because we don't want to host guests and it's easier to turn people down if they ask to stay if you have nowhere to put them.
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    mrsagc90 NTA at all. It's your place and you have every right to do as you please with it, and you don't have to justify your decisions to anyone.
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    Weird PinkHair An office is no longer a luxury for most people due to how we work. I WFH completely so it an essential. A guest room that may be used twice a year is a complete waste of much needed real estate. My husbands office has a bed that can be made to look like a sofa and pull out to a double bed; thankyou Ikea. We call the room our 'room of requirements ... we even have a plaque on the door.... as it's used as granddaughters bedroom once a week, husbands office, you name it. Depending o
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    First Grapefruit_326 NTA He's guilt tripping you and trying to rope you in with gendered expectations of being a good hostess and a self-sacrificing person to his own advantage.
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    JustJudgin Your dad is selfish and inconsiderate. His expectation that you would keep a vacant bedroom rather than a daily use workspace is absolutely out of this world. So many people don't have any rooms to spare my dad is delighted when we have the living room futon available because he knows the only other option is inside our bedroom. I doubt he would enjoy sleeping in the baby's room on a bed considering a baby is needy at all hours. He truly sounds like he expects his guilt tripping outbu
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